My first comment, loooong ago, was to ditch the guy! I have to say, though, that my husband did not care for cats in the early days. He did NOT want them on our bed and my cat, Hesa, always hissed, growled and ran away from him. Of course, as soon as Hesa was sure the husband was sound asleep, he would jump right up on the bed and sleep with us! (and my husband never knew, haha)
As Hesa got older and started to go downhill, he actually started sleeping on my husband's pillow. I think it was easier on Hesa because I'm a light sleeper and my husband sleeps like a rock. When Hesa finally had to be euthanized, my husband was actually very sad and wanted another cat. We ended up getting a litter of three, one day old, orphaned kittens and he bottle fed them until they could eat on their own.
I'm not saying you're man's going to be in to raising orphaned kittens, but he may soften up a LITTLE bit if you're lucky like I am.