Not my intent to be either combative or rude, and if you took the tone of my post as either, I apologize.
As for life in the military. While on duty or in uniform at all times, either on or off duty, all branches of the service have specific rules of conduct and regulations to be followed. And while some of them might seem overly strict or somewhat onerous, there are valid reasons when you consider the mission of, and unique requirements of military service. Off duty, aside from the fact that some areas are more strictly enforced (e.g., drug and alcohol abuse) service members engage in most of the activities enjoyed by their non-military contemporaries.
As to “specific regulations” addressing lawn maintenance and appearance, this can be true. However, this is no different from the rules and regulations issued by many home owners associations or rental communities; some of which are enforced as vigorously, or more so than those on base. As far as color of curtains that can be displayed, I’ve never encountered this in regards to family housing. For single military personal living in the barracks the regulations are somewhat more strict, but in 8 years of barracks living while on active duty I never encountered any that I found particularly unreasonable.