Good Afternoon -
Just woke up from Second Sleep. Gonna get ready for work, shortly.
Amy and I had a relaxing day, yesterday, "celebrating" the First of a New Year and a New Decade. We slowly put away the X-Mess Tree ornaments as we watched a pretty cool action-adventure movie on the television. The only strenuous thing I did, yesterday, was drag the tree into the spot where all X-Mess Trees go to decompose. This spot is deep in our property's woods, far away from eye-sight, but close enough to drag trees there. There are 13 trees there at various degrees of decomposing. I believe this spot is home to many small woodland animals and insects. At least, I like to think this is the case. Anyway, we had a nice and relaxing day, yesterday.
Late last night, I FINALLY finished editing together a video of the trip my sister and I took with our Mom, along with our spouses. I took LOTS of photos during that trip. Unfortunately, many of them were out of focus. This took place about six years ago. I guess my picture taking, back then, was in its experimental stage when I tried to do everything manually, including focusing the shot. I now remember the reason why it took me so long to put together a video of our trip to Hawaii: The Out-of-Focus photos and videos. (Ugh!) But my loving sister asked for this video. So, she received. It was nice viewing these photos again. It brought back really nice memories of our time together with Mom. The trip to Hawaii was my mother's gift to us. Mom had recently made the brave decision to stop chemotherapy treatments after receiving news that the current chemo regime was not working for her recurrent metastatic colon cancer. The cancer was spreading everywhere, despite all kinds of therapy. (She had already gone through through the full cycles of chemo and radiation therapies, prior to finding out about the recurrent cancer.) Now, my mom was a special lady. She really was. Once, long ago, she was institutionalized for being diagnosed with Paranoid Schizophrenia. This was during the late-1960s/early-1970s. She even received received electro-shock treatments back then (as I was told by my father), which, I believe, was the old-way of receiving those terrible treatments. There was no doubt that my mother had gone through some kind of mental decompensation. But she, somehow, someway, managed to work through it. By the late 1970s, after my parents divorced, she got herself off welfare and found a full-time job. She kept that job unto the time of her retirement, for 30+ years. The paid rent, paid all of her bills on time, and managed to squirrel away a rather nice savings for herself for her retirement. When she was in her mid-70s, she retired and moved to be closer to me. About a year into her retirement, she found out she had colon cancer. So, after a rather extensive surgery getting rid of the large cancerous tumor, for the next couple of years we spent our time together at the oncology clinic as she received her chemo and radiation therapies. Mom took it all with grace and great patience. If there was ever an opportunity for Mom to have another emotional and/or "mental breakdown", it would have been this period of her life. But nope!! She seemed to simply accept the dreadful situation for what it was, did what she had to do, and lived as best as she could. She made friends. She went to senior citizen activities. She did her cancer treatment thing. And, she loved and adored her children and grandchildren (my sister's kids). It was her request that we all go to Hawaii together. Apparently, it was a dream of hers to go to Hawaii. She had a BLAST! Well all did!!
After that trip, she moved in to live with me, where she spent the last few months of her life. It was a sad time, for sure. But, it was a time filled with great love and humor! Mom could have whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted. She loved her Martinis! After a few trials and errors, I learned how to make them for her! L O L! Without a doubt, she enjoyed being with her family.
Mom quietly passed away in Her Room (which was our dining room, prior to her stay). She was surrounded by my loving wife and my sister-in-law. During her last couple of days, it was obvious that Mom was slowly "Meeting Her Maker". On her last day, it seemed to my sister and I that we should make burial arrangements. My sister wanted the BEST lot for our Mom. Literally. . . as my sister and I were signing the papers at the burial ground with the burial grounds-keeper, I received a phone call from my wife that Mom drew her last breath. She died surrounded by those who loved her, but not in eye-sight of her children watching her draw her last breath. It's as if Mom waited for us to leave.
I believe that I shared this story here before. Please forgive me for recounting this again. But, I'm sitting here reliving aging memories that are now 6+ years old. I miss my Mom. (I miss my Dad, who died only several months ago.) And, I adore the memories that we made together, especially those memories of our time spent vacationing in Hawaii! (Mom paid for the trip!!)
Well. . . Here's the video, complete with out-of-focused pictures. Enjoy.
2013 Vacation in Hawaii with Mom!
Gotta go and get ready for work!