I'm so sorry this happened to you. I think the reason it hurt so much was because you probably still cared so much abt them. My bestfriend from high school, is married to my ex. I didn't even know. Years ago when I found out, we had been talking on the phone, and she let it slip that she was moving to the state we both lived in, but to his city. So I asked why? You've always wanted to go Miami. She didn't tell me, even though I had already known since she said what she said. Before I even found out, he was still calling me asking me to come visit him, when I would go by my friend he would beg to come over. Something just told me not to entertain it, I didn't care abt him any more to waste my time in seeing him. My friend wanted me to invite him over, and take pics and send it to my old friend. Not in to the childish **** though. After the night of speaking to her, I called him and started a conversation. I asked are you in a relationship or married? At first he said no, then called me back a month later and finally admitted it. I laughed so much my belly started hurting me, I thought I'd die from laughter. I didn't care that she was with him. What upset and hurt was that she was my bestfriend and she wasn't honest with me. The thing is, I never loved him, I didn't plan a future with him, I broke up with him. I decided to keep them both out of my life, for the simple fact...they lied to me.