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    Crate training

    Is he potty trained? Could you let him have a room while you're gone? Sorry I've only had cats and they are pretty independent so that's the best suggestions I can offer. Perhaps you could train him to "go" on a little mat/chuck and have more access to the house when you're gone. ? By this time I'm sure the issue has been resolved (old thread).
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    Do YOU Keto?

    I must say I absolutely hate this diet. I simply can't stand the foods on it. And I miss fruit and all vegies. I couldn't do it long term. My sister has had success on it and just loves it though! To each his own.....not for me
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    Relationship with a Narcissist

    THIS. The man I live with now actually sounds like this at times. He turns things around and twist the truth so that people believe him, he has so much charisma that they take his side. He's always playing the victim though, and he often calls me crazy, when he is the one who is bipolar (mild case). He has gotten better over the last year, and I love him anyway, but he did not want to spend the holidays with me, and that is a deal breaker. NurseBlaq, I hope all this turned out OK for you. This thread is over a year ago. Some people are able to pull the wool over the sheeps eyes (or whatever the expression is). I hope you and your children are safe, and I hope your ex found love and success too, so he won't feel the need to bother you or your children anymore. At least he pays child support. The man I'm living with owes like $15,000 in back child support. But I understand your fear and frustration. I hope he has left you alone.
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    What About Tinder?

    I didn't like Tinder. It definitely seemed like a hookup website. Not for me. I liked match.com and used that to meet quality men over 10 years ago. I've also used plenty of fish, not quite the quality, but it was free for a long time, so alot of members. Catholic match and Christian cafe didn't produce any dates for me.... The man I'm living with now I actually met on J-Date even though I'm not Jewish ( a friend of mine recommended that I meet a nice Jewish man), but our relationship is not going the way I want to say the least. I may be back on match.com soon, although I may qualify for the OurTime site in less than a year.
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    nurses being financially taken advantage of

    Yes, yes, yes. Will not tell their stories here. but yes. it's not uncommon. Across all generations. I'm one of them (unfortunately) and I know of others who have gone through similar situations. I don't know if it's any more common that in other professions, though. Someone needs to do a statistical study on that.
  6. I know many people who have met and dated and had long term relationships from meeting/working together at the hospital.
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    Vein finder?

    I know we have some kind of vein finder where I work, but I've never really looked at it or used it myself.
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    Whatcha doin?

    Now that I'm done (for awhile) crying that I'm alone (again) on Christmas, I'm sitting here watching News and trying to figure out what i'm going to do the rest of the day. I've got at least 7 hours or more to go before I go to bed. Starbucks was about the only thing open so I've already spent an hour there. Now what?? All my friends/acquaintances have families and are busy today. My man-friend is purposefully out of town. My sister is out of state and my parents are deceased. Oh, joy. I could clean?? Oven could use a scrub down. So could the bathrooms....
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    Am I a Scrooge?

    Where is the man in this story? Is he doing his part? Is she getting any child support?
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    Christmas blues

    Thank you so much for saying that!! The problem is, it seems to be a "pattern" for me, these men who do this to me. It must be related to something I am doing, or how I just am, or something, otherwise, it wouldn't be a pattern right? How do I keep a guy? I'm wondering what I'm doing wrong?? I'm 49, never been married. I've lived with this man for 4 years. We've been intimate, he used to act like he wanted to be with me, but I was unsure at this beginning. (Maybe that's why, at first I was unsure??) I pay for most everything. He is finally getting a paycheck through his family (someone died and now he gets monthly pay through them). I'm not sure he'll even pay what is due this month, and I'm always scrambling to pay for everything as a single woman. (I just bought a house last year). I always wanted to have kids, it was my dream, and I've been told that its WAY past my time. It's a MYTH and VERY RARE that a woman over 45 can be successful with IVF or anything else (natural, etc) Anyway, back to my man situation. I've asked him to move out, and I've done so many times. It may take me going to court to get him to move out. In California, you CANNOT just kick someone out. They have rights, even if they don't pay any rent at all. They can legally stay with you, even though it's my house and he's not paying rent...... it would be a whole process to get him out that would take months if he doesn't do it on his own. I hope it doesn't come to that. I really wanted a relationship with him. I'm sad, mad, upset, angry, going back and forth through different emotions. Sometimes he'll agree to move out, and I'll get sad, and he'll even be sad, and he'll end up staying. I just wish he wanted what I wanted. But a friend told me long ago, and she was right, that I have to accept it if he doesn't want to be with me (even if he wanted to at a previous time in our relationship).
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    Christmas blues

    So if my man-friend decides to spend Christmas with a buddy and then alone (instead of with me), how should I react? I thought he said he was on his way home yesterday (day of Christmas Eve) after spending the last couple days with his buddy, then he never showed up. I was really, really, really hurt. If he hadn't said he was on his way back here (raising my expectations and hope), I might have been okay with it. I had accepted (sort of) that he wanted to spend it with a friend coming home from Japan. He used to want to really be in my life, now he's half in and half out. I often get sad, then mad, and I'm really, really hurt now. The holidays are always so hard for us singles anyway....and he told me he'd "rather be alone". So he slept in his truck last night and then his paycheck posted in the morning and he is currently in a hotel. I don't get it. Am I that awful???? He'd rather BE ALONE?
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    non-nursing jobs for misdemeanors

    I suggested that, but he thinks it may be a waste of time because of background checks. He's been honest and upfront about it, and it hasn't helped so far. I want him to keep trying....he is going to concentrate on finishing this semester (hopefully graduate) and then start looking more seriously in January. I think he ought to start his own business but we'll see...
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    non-nursing jobs for misdemeanors

    sorry for the late response..... He can do basic stuff (I asked him when I read your response a couple weeks ago) but he has no formal training. I don't think that's what he wants to do. We just bought him a truck and I'm hoping he'll use it to maybe make his own money (handyman or something like that). He can get this latest misdemeanor expunged next summer 2019, so hopefully he'll be able to use his new certificate in Aviation Operations, but he'll still have a record. I hope there will be something out there he can do that will be fulfilling for him. He gets bouts of depression with the bipolar and he hasn't been sleeping because his mind won't shut off. I wish I could get him on my insurance because the free Obamacare (or whatever it's called now) it's very difficult to find a psychologist that will take his insurance. We've had several references when he's called the insurance plan, but when he calls the doctor he was given to go to for an appointment, they say they don't take that insurance. ?! So he's been taking CBD gummies which help (legal here in California). And that's his bipolar medicine at the moment. I'm just kind of rambling now.... sorry. Thanks for the reply...
  14. Hello My significant other has several misdemeanors on his record (the last one being less than a year ago for violating a restraining order when a friend emailed his estranged son). He is looking for a job. I just bought a house, and even though I make good money as a nurse, it would help immensely if he could participate in helping with expenses. Does anyone have any ideas? He is 56 (I'm 47), overweight, very personable and pleasant, with a history of mostly sales: car sales mostly. He also worked as a non-degreed engineer 20 years ago. He is also bipolar (we just found out last year - thank God it explained a lot of his behavior). His divorce was bad - 20 years ago - and his exwife got full custody of the son they had together. He hasn't been able to see his son since the boy was 3. Anyway, the last job he has was about 5 years ago as a car saleman....he says the jobs never last long because of the competition with other salemen etc. Does anyone have any ideas? Also, he has been going to a community college for Aviation Operations. He LOVES airplanes and cars. He is also very handy around my house and just bought a truck. He's a people person. Please help! Any ideas appreciated! He's applied to several furniture store sales positions and couldn't pass the background check.

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