Thank you so much for saying that!!
The problem is, it seems to be a "pattern" for me, these men who do this to me.
It must be related to something I am doing, or how I just am, or something, otherwise, it wouldn't be a pattern right?
How do I keep a guy? I'm wondering what I'm doing wrong??
I'm 49, never been married. I've lived with this man for 4 years. We've been intimate, he used to act like he wanted to be with me, but I was unsure at this beginning. (Maybe that's why, at first I was unsure??) I pay for most everything. He is finally getting a paycheck through his family (someone died and now he gets monthly pay through them). I'm not sure he'll even pay what is due this month, and I'm always scrambling to pay for everything as a single woman. (I just bought a house last year).
I always wanted to have kids, it was my dream, and I've been told that its WAY past my time. It's a MYTH and VERY RARE that a woman over 45 can be successful with IVF or anything else (natural, etc)
Anyway, back to my man situation. I've asked him to move out, and I've done so many times. It may take me going to court to get him to move out. In California, you CANNOT just kick someone out. They have rights, even if they don't pay any rent at all. They can legally stay with you, even though it's my house and he's not paying rent...... it would be a whole process to get him out that would take months if he doesn't do it on his own. I hope it doesn't come to that. I really wanted a relationship with him. I'm sad, mad, upset, angry, going back and forth through different emotions. Sometimes he'll agree to move out, and I'll get sad, and he'll even be sad, and he'll end up staying. I just wish he wanted what I wanted. But a friend told me long ago, and she was right, that I have to accept it if he doesn't want to be with me (even if he wanted to at a previous time in our relationship).