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  1. Black Jade

    Not looking forward to the holidays

    canesdukegirl, after I read your comment, I went back to reading my own comment. Even though I don't have a significant other in my life, I do have my whole family in town and friends who have invited me to their parties and I should be blessed (instead of complaining), because there are people who don't have anybody. Instead of brooding about the holidays, this year I chose to volunteer to serve meals to the homeless. Thank you for making me see things in a different light.
  2. Black Jade

    Are you happy being single?

    How do you answer when you are introduced to people and they ask you about your marital status? It happened to me when my supervisors and I had a luncheon with one of the companies we deal with. Everybody was going around the table introducing themselves and they were talking about family. I got up to go to the restroom hoping that by the time I came back, they changed topics. Nope. They were still on the same topic. For some reason, I feel ashamed to say that I'm single and feel the need to explain why. I guess, because I don't want them to feel sorry for me. When one of my co-workers who wanted to set me up with one of her male friends, asked me if I wanted kids; I cringed. At my age, I honestly do not know if I will be able to have a child or even deal with one. The idea of moving in or living together also doesn't appeal to me. I don't know if that makes me selfish. I would love to meet somebody, but at the same time I love my independence and my freedom. Before, when Holidays were approaching I would be stressed out about planning not to be alone especially New Years' Eve. Also, Holidays are tough when you are invited to get-togethers and all you see around you are couples. This year, instead of moping around because I don't have a date, I decided to stay home, watch movies and just relax. I learned to embraced my singlehood. It's not because there is something wrong with me, but because it's not my time yet to meet the right person.
  3. Black Jade

    Are you happy being single?

    Poi, I understand what you are saying. The older that I get, the higher the expectations. Maybe that is why I don't even bother. If it happens, it happens. The one thing that I have trouble understanding is that I see butt ugly women dating good looking men. How do they do that? Maybe I should just not wear make up, not use deodorant and stop shaving my legs and armpits once and for all. Maybe that way I will be able to attract at least a fly.:jester:
  4. Black Jade

    Are you happy being single?

    No, it sucks being single...well, sometimes. I have single friends with "significant others" who complain: Single friend #1: Wants to have a baby. She cannot decide between 3 people in her life. She dates guy #1, but he doesn't want a commitment. At the same time, she still has feelings for guy #2 who is much older than her, but she doesn't want a baby with him. Guy #3: is actually a girl, who has issues. Single friend #2: She wants a baby. Is still dating her ex and states she doesn't love him and he is only a friend. She complains, because she states he is "useless" in the baby department. Yet, she continues having sex with him and thought about tricking another male friend into having a baby with her. Single friend #3: Is about to get married to a much older man, who seemed to be controlling, possessive and jealous. It turned out that he doesn't really want a mate, but a maid and a nurse. (Good thing she cancelled the wedding). Single friend #4: Was dating a guy who she stated that the sex was great. Saw his picture and told her "he is a player". Turned out that he was and she dumped him right away. Single friend #5: She met a guy through a Catholic dating website. After asking him personal questions, she never heard from him again. I would like to meet somebody someday before I die. I even thought about going back to my ex-boyfriend, but I'm not that desperate, needy or lonely (or crazy). Also, one of my friends wants to set me up for blind dates and wants me to go on speed dating events...but seeing what my single friends are going through, I would rather be single. By the way Poi, I applaud you for your courage in dating guys you barey met. I don't know if I would be able to do that. It seems easy for me to get to know them as friends, rather than out of the blue.
  5. Black Jade

    Not looking forward to the holidays

    I'll join you Poi. I don't like Holidays, because it reminds me (again) that I don't have anybody in my life. I would rather work the whole day, just so let time go by quickly. Speaking of, I should go to the "Are you happy being single?" thread and write down "No, it sucks being single". Maybe after the holidays, I will be back to being my happy, go lucky self. For now, it's "Bah! Humbug!"
  6. Black Jade

    Quotes about "Love"

    "Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough." ~Laura Hendricks~
  7. Black Jade

    Quotes about "Love"

    "love is not automatic. it takes conscious practice and awareness, just like playing the piano or golf. however, you have ample opportunities to practice. everyone you meet can be your practice session." ~ doc childre and sara paddison, heartmath discovery program "love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. it's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end." ~ author unknown "people say there must be something wrong for me to be all alone so long and their words hit me like a stone i'm someone special i'm just in disguise i may not be perfect in everyone's eyes it may not be tomorrow but i still believe there's someone special waiting out there for me" ~richard marx anyone else can think of other quotes? :redpinkhe
  8. Black Jade

    Singles club thread

    Might as well be the first one to say it. Happy Singles week!!!!:clpty:
  9. Black Jade

    When they just leave

    This song has been my mantra for a long time and made me stronger as a woman. www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I
  10. Black Jade

    Looking for a good novel/novel series

    Any Patricia Cornwell books about forensic science and Sidney Sheldon...
  11. Black Jade

    Woman sues Dunkin' Donuts over sugar in her coffee

    Are you sure it wasn't the donut itself that caused her to go to the ER? :rolleyes: If I were her and had common sense, I would ask for black coffee and my two packets of artificial sweetener so I can pour it myself to avoid any problems. :igtsyt:...but something smells fishy here.
  12. Black Jade

    Bad Mommy

    We live in a narcissistic society...so I'm not surprised.
  13. Destiny, I just read the other threads about your husband hogging the computer and TV for which you paid for. I always thought the husband usually pays for the major expenses. Do you make more money than him that you have to pay for almost everything? The thing that I don't understand is why is he driving your car instead of his? What major appliances or major expense has your husband paid for in the past? I do hope that you get marriage counseling and if it turns into a divorce that you keep everything that you paid for; receipts included. Either he has to get his own computer and TV or he has to pay half of what you paid and compromise by setting up a schedule when using the computer or watching your favorite programs. Another option is to set up an account for which you both deposit money in the future for household items that will be shared. That way you still have your money set aside and you are not the one spending while he is the one saving. I think he is just being selfish and doesn't have a right to get upset for something that is actually yours.
  14. You keep mentioning about your driver's license. Maybe your husband feels resentful the fact that he has to drive you around all the time and wants you to take turns driving. You paid for the car, so it is actually YOUR car, the least he can do is teach you how to drive. As far as you having doubts about whether the marriage is going anywhere; if you get a divorce, you still need to learn how to drive and get your driver's license in order to get yourself around. I got my license late because I knew that I wouldn't be able to borrow my father's car when I got my license at 18. However, I got tired of taking the bus and depending on others to drive me around that I decided to go to driving school. What if you have an emergency and need to go from point A to point B in a flash? You have to find out the real source of your marriage troubles. It all comes down to being able to communicate with each other.
  15. Black Jade

    Girl thinks The Disaster in Japan was a good thing

    Yeah, but she never apologized or even sent good prayers to the people in Japan atheist or not. She came out clean about being a troll and didn't expect the negative reaction she got. What did she expect, that we would cheer for her and say that she is right? Whether she was trolling or meant it as a "Christian", it is still not right. I am not a Christian, but I believe in God. There is nothing to joke about something that has killed thousands of people and left more thousands homeless. She showed her face to the public and now we can associate that face to a liar and a sociopath. I hope that she doesn't have to deal with a tragedy like Japan or anything similar, and let's hope that she is not struck by a thunder by a "God" that she believes in.

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