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I've really been thinking about getting rid of my Facebook account. I have a ton of photos on there that I've already moved to Photobucket, so that's not a problem.

I have this friend... she's been a really good friend for about four years; our daughters are best friends.

She's a raging intellectual type; I'm no idiot by any means but I'm also no intellectual, by far. She can be an absolute sweetheart, but then she can turn around and be short, somewhat mean, just downright snotty. She's the type of person that, you are just never sure where you stand with her... depending perhaps on who you are. I mean, maybe I'm the only person who feels this way about her.

I sometimes feel like she gets frustrated and impatient with me. Again, I'm not always the brightest bulb in the chandelier. I have certain faults, and with her being an intellectual with a control-freak-streak, I really think those faults irritate her.

Well, so what does this have to do with Facebook... I've noticed that she always "likes" certain mutual friends' statuses, but NEVER likes any of mine and rarely ever comments on any of my statuses. It sounds petty and stupid, but it really does hurt my feelings. I hate to get rid of my account because I love Facebook, but I recently had to block some people because things that I would post on there, were getting twisted, misconstrued, and REPORTED to certain people, then people would discuss what I had posted, and get all up in arms about it. Now I'm ready to just delete it and be done with it, because now I'M getting upset because of how my friend treats me on there.

I guess I could just block her, or just unfriend her, but I'm already worried about some hurt feelings on the parts of the people that I had to block recently. *sigh* I don't know.

Facebook is stupid.

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I agree facebook can be pretty stupid. Some days it is about like an airplane's tires: Used fairly often, when used there is a lot of heat, occasionally is blows up, and normally is just filled with stale, hot air.

I do use my account to keep in touch with family and friends. If someone wants to coment on something I said, so be it. If it an important thing I will IM an individual rather than put it out in public. I try to remember that like nursing charting it is there forever and you have no control over who reads it or how they interpret or misinterpret your writings.

If you are that sensitive to these slights or perceived slights, don't use it. It is like any tool, it must be within your control or it is dangerous. All of us have different views of what is too much. I have one friend who has never made a comment or hit like for anything. She is that private. She does read everything and will comment on certain things I have have shared when we get together. If I got upset that she failed to note my brilliance that would be me being stupid, not facebook.

Stay in it or get out but never think you have any way to keep your comments from "getting twisted, misconstrued, and REPORTED to certain people, then people would discuss what I had posted, and get all up in arms about it."as you describe it.

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I enjoy facebook because I have friends all over the country. It works for me. Seriously, I could care less if people "like" my posts or not. If facebook serves a purpose for you, don't close your account for these reasons. Have you spoken directly with your friend about how you feel? Sounds like you need to air your feelings.

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Just get rid of it if it bothers you. Give more time to your friends off the 'net.

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Facebook is also organized in such a way that you see certain people's posts more frequently than others. Those that you communicate with the most show up on your news feed more often. So she may not be ignoring your posts. They may not be showing up on her news feed at all, so she doesn't know that you're updating your status.

But if Facebook is causing you this much stress, it's probably best to get rid of it of just take a long break from social networking.

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In the big scheme of things, facebook is not all that important. I get why you're upset but don't let it bring you down or make you doubt yourself. Next week, none of this may even matter to you.

I have 2 (not a typo) friends on facebook. I'm just that cool...Lol ;)

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I don't post much stuff on my wall. I never really notice if people like it or not.

Let it go :up: It sounds like you already have a feeling of inferiority regarding this friend so things stand out on FB that probably don't even matter.

Just get back to just enjoying folks photos and stuff.

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You should just unsubscribe from the annoying people. It's one of the options you can use that doesn't entail deleting them. They will have no knowledge of the fact that you unsubscribed (they aren't notified and won't know if you don't tell them), and you'll have all the pleasure of never reading their pabulum. No hurt feelings involved, no reading of inane crap.

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facebook is a two-edged sword.

it is an innovative way of keeping in touch on a daily level with friends and family, especially in today’s fast-paced world. facebook has allowed me to reconnect with cherished people from my past, many of whom i have not seen in decades.

on the other hand, facebook offers many dangers. it can be a serious threat to privacy and offers opportunity for identity theft if your privacy settings are not strictly maintained.

this form of social media has its own inherent rules of etiquette and many breaches and offenses have occurred out of ignorance, often when no ill will was actually intended. for instance, it is a major faux pas for someone to not “friend” an acquaintance who asks this privilege and can result in major offense if a “friendship” offer is refused. it is also considered a great insult to be “unfriended.” one woman actually set a person’s house on fire when the person (her former best friend) “unfriended” her on facebook! people can be just this pathetic.

my rules for safe conduct on facebook:

  1. do not take this social medium too seriously. otherwise, you may suddenly feel you are back in junior high school. if someone unfriends you and you have no clue why, just let it go. it is only an internet message board – very small stuff in life’s big picture!
  2. guard your heart and don’t allow the virtual stuff on facebook to cause you to be offended. there is real life and then there is facebook!
  3. virtual friendships on facebook should never take the place of face-to-face encounters with people in real life.
  4. never allow facebook to interfere with professional relationships at your place of employment. your workplace in not the place to make best friends forever and have them “friend” you on facebook. on the other hand, your workplace is the place for professional encounters with team members to accomplish goals and assigned tasks in a civil manner.
  5. don’t allow facebook to suck up all your time! keep strict limits as to how much time you spend using this social medium.

it’s a sad fact of modern life that people are plugged in and connected via multiple gadgets, yet feel more lonely and socially isolated than ever before. it’s ironic that we can have casual virtual interactions with people halfway across the globe, yet not even know our neighbor three houses down the street. real life face-to-face get togethers with friends are so much more emotionally satisfying than virtual encounters with friends or acquaintances on the internet. nothing can take the place of “real” interactions with “real” friends in “real life.”

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I got angry with a family member on Face Book. Enraged would probably be a better word.

I posted something vicious and hateful. I wrote something I would never ever say out loud to anyone. To get even. I'm ashamed of what I did even just thinking of it now.

I never used my Face Book account again.

I honestly don't miss it either.

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Did you mean what you said about them? It wasn't facebook that made you say it.

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