I am so angry right now.

  1. I have just found out that one of my mother's siamese cats is being put to sleep today. About six months ago my mother found some lumps on his neck and told my sister about it who said that it's probably fatal and when he loses quality of life then you'll have to have him put to sleep. My mother found him this morning barely able to walk around.

    My sister is not a vet, she is not a doctor, nurse or even in any sort of medical related field.

    Whenever anyone or their pet is ill she always steps in and gives her so called medical opinion like she is an expert. She does this all the time. Our other sister has cancer and she's constantly giving her 'expert' advice and I'm constantly telling her to stop it, you have no idea what your talking about. Recently she did it at a family dinner and I looked her in the eye and told her that it's illegal to give medical advice if you do not have the qualifications.

    She is so bad that she has way too many cats (more than twenty at least) and dogs that she can't even look after properly. One of her kittens had it's head slammed in a door and she didn't even take it to the vet, she just left it to suffer. It's fully grown now but it walks strangely and quite frankly it looks brain damaged. Her reason being was that it's so hard for a vet to give pain relief because animals can't tell you about their pain. I'm not a violent person but as an animal lover I nearly lost it.

    Anyway I'm so upset. This poor cat may have had no chance anyway but her advice six months ago has strongly influenced my mothers decision not to take this poor cat to the vet. It may not be cancer at all, may be something else which could have been prevented.

    I'm not going to say anything to my mother who is quite distraught. But I'm going to have a quiet word with my sister about this and tell her that the only advice I want to hear coming from her is 'take you pet to the vet' or 'go and see your doctor about it'.

    Thanks for listening.
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  3. by   athena55
    I agree with you. I love animals, as well. At home I have 7 cats and 2 dogs (all strays)
    It is the humans responsibility if and when they acquire an animal as a pet (or otherwise r/t work say like a horse, cow, goat whatever...) that you Take Care Of It.
    Here in North America some of our pets live better than humans! Regular medical care, good daily food....But to "adopt" or otherwise obtain an animal (cat, dog, bird, rodent, reptile) and not properly take care of it, show it affection, offer it regular check-ups, is in and of it self cruel.
    I am a firm believer in jail time and large fees if you mistreat any animal.
    Thank goodness for folks that rescue animals and the ASPCA. I wish more people would give, say $5 a month to their local "no kill" shelter or animal rescue group, or better yet buy some dog/cat food and donate it.
    I wish more people would spay/neuter their pets. I wish more people would adopt and give an animal a "forever" home
    I wish I had more time and $$ to donate, myself....So I am a fine one to be talking.....But once I retire out of the Army I hope to obtain some property and adopt and care for animals. My cousin adopts mules and donkeys that are no longer wanted (she lives in PA and she has land, plus she took some animal care courses so she can recognize if and when the animals need to see a Vet.)
  4. by   VivaLasViejas
    Scrubby, you've got a lot to deal with so I'll try to put this delicately: it sounds like your sister's advice-giving is only the tip of the proverbial iceberg. She sounds like an animal hoarder, which, if memory serves, has recently been listed as a mental disorder in the DSM-IV manual.

    It's not normal to have 20 cats and/or dogs, especially when you can't take care of them properly, and in many states and counties it's illegal. Where I live, it is not only a considered a mental health issue, it's a criminal offense for which you can be fined, sent to jail, and/or forbidden to have pets at all for a prescribed period of time, usually five years. I'm really sorry about your mom's kitty; my own family seems to think RN=DVM and they always want me to fix up our pets when something's wrong, but I know my limitations.......I am NOT a vet!

    Your sister needs some help. I hope she gets it, and that her poor animals can be cared for properly. You're right, she's hardly in any shape to be giving advice, but that could be just a symptom of deeper issues.
  5. by   katcandy33
    Hey Scrubby:

    I read your posting today, and I was wondering if you had that discussion with your sister. How did everything turn out? I hope you get through to her... I am new to allnurses-central, by the way...

  6. by   Scrubby
    Update: yes I have spoken with my sister several times since, to no avail. Her heart is in the right place, she wants to rescue all the animals in the world and so ends up with more and more. I have a different attitude because I think it's better for an animal to be euthanised humanly than to live in confined and neglected conditions, where she has this thing about death.

    I have had to rescued a dog from her. It's sad that I have to use the word 'rescue' a dog from my own sister but if you saw how he was treated, no attention, living in a cage all day you'd want to take him home as well. He gets along well with my female staffy but I know that I can't rescue every animal from her.
  7. by   ellakate
    My sister is crazy too. I have decided just to pray for her.

    When they are odd, there is nothing that we can do. It is way beyond our human intervention.