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Nursing School Never Taught Me the Heart Controls the Brain

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I'm in love right now. At least that's what my best friends say. I'm starting to believe them. Those songs that say things like "I can't get you out of my head" are starting to make me feel hypocritical for calling their authors 'saps'. There's a girl that I can't stop thinking about. Unfortunately, her mind brakes just fine when it comes to me. Granted, she finally admitted she does like me, and she thinks I could be perfect for her, but then she added she's scared of commitment and she doesn't want to date. Then she moved 8 hours away for school. I picked up work for the past few days to try to keep my mind busy. It helped some, but every daydreaming moment I got, I thought about things like how cute she is when she picks her nose and doesn't think I'm watching. Or how incredibly human and honest she can be. How loving she is to everyone. How she gets hyper-frustrated over the tiniest things, yet doesn't let big bummers bother her. How she dances like some sort of bird in a mating dance, but she doesn't care how goofy she looks. How I know exactly what she's thinking 80% of the time, and the other 20% of her thoughts come from some place like Venus which keeps me constantly intrigued. Are you starting to get the picture?

So I'm moping around work like a fish out of water... and not that fresh fish out of water, but the one that's been sitting on the dock for way too long and might flop around once or twice, but mostly just moves its mouth open and closed. Yeah... that fish.

I walk into one of my "favorite residents ever"'s room (doesn't exactly roll off the tongue) to help her get ready for bed. Wait a second. She's already in bed. And she looks ... terrible. Now that I think about it, she never got out of bed today. And her family has been there the past few days non-stop. It crept up on me like a slimy lizard scaling my back to whisper in my ear, "She's dying. Quickly. And you had no idea because you were too busy mourning your own problems." Her family takes the opportunity of me being there to take a break, smoke a cigarette, get some water. Alone with her, I start helping her with her night routine as I've done so many times. The room is quiet. You know, that real-world quiet that's hard to capture in film and stories. As she comes in and out of consciousness, eyes rolling back then coming to attention, breathing her shallow breaths, and me busy fighting back tears of sadness, and guilt, I tell her I love her. She says she loves me too.

I don't want to be someone that thinks so much about their own life that they miss what's going on around them. I'm in love with her. Yes. But I'm also in love with the world. With the flowers and the lightning bugs. I'm in love with almost everyone around me. And I want to be present for those people when they need me.

Not much of a discussion piece.

Just a guy sharing his heart.

What's left of it anyways.

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You sound like you have a really good heart. Thanks for sharing your story. Don't beat yourself up too much. We all get caught up in the moment sometimes, and it's hard to see the situation properly when you're the one in the situation. I think it takes a lot of courage to step up and say. "Hey, I messed up and I don't want you to make the same mistake." :yeah:

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Nice piece of writing. Kept my attention, which is saying a lot.

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Dont feel too guilty. It's people like you who make it wonderful to be human and reinstills my faith in them/us.:redpinkhe

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i'm in love right now. at least that's what my best friends say. i'm starting to believe them. those songs that say things like "i can't get you out of my head" are starting to make me feel hypocritical for calling their authors 'saps'. there's a girl that i can't stop thinking about. unfortunately, her mind brakes just fine when it comes to me. granted, she finally admitted she does like me, and she thinks i could be perfect for her, but then she added she's scared of commitment and she doesn't want to date. then she moved 8 hours away for school. i picked up work for the past few days to try to keep my mind busy. it helped some, but every daydreaming moment i got, i thought about things like how cute she is when she picks her nose and doesn't think i'm watching. or how incredibly human and honest she can be. how loving she is to everyone. how she gets hyper-frustrated over the tiniest things, yet doesn't let big bummers bother her. how she dances like some sort of bird in a mating dance, but she doesn't care how goofy she looks. how i know exactly what she's thinking 80% of the time, and the other 20% of her thoughts come from some place like venus which keeps me constantly intrigued. are you starting to get the picture?

my own husband of 23 years doesn't know what i'm thinking 80% of the time, and we are very close. this is a girl you know but have not dated, correct? that statement strikes me as a little odd and creepy.

maybe it's because i'm npo for a procedure later in the day and haven't had my morning coffee, but i'm not seeing the charm in this post as those before me have. though i must say you must be quite infatuated if you even like the way she picks her nose.:eek:

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Well written piece.

I didn't find it creepy. My hubby of 11 years and I regularly finish each other's sentences, or we'll have a whole conversation that is something like "did you get that thing"..."Oh, no, they didn't have it, but I did find out about the other thing" and we know exactly what the other one means :) Someone else listening to us would be completely lost!

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Though I must say you must be quite infatuated if you even like the way she picks her nose.:eek:

And this is a problem, why?

OP, thanks for sharing. Have a great day. :)

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Well written piece.

I didn't find it creepy. My hubby of 11 years and I regularly finish each other's sentences, or we'll have a whole conversation that is something like "did you get that thing"..."Oh, no, they didn't have it, but I did find out about the other thing" and we know exactly what the other one means :) Someone else listening to us would be completely lost!

Right...you've been married for 11 years. This sounds like a girl he knows from work who "doesn't want to date" him, correct?

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And this is a problem, why?

Did I say it was "a problem?" :)

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Right...you've been married for 11 years. This sounds like a girl he knows from work who "doesn't want to date" him, correct?

I think that's reading an awful lot into what he's saying, but everyone is entitled to their opinion. And the hubs and I have pretty much always been that way. We started out as friends for years before we dated and have always finished each other's sentences. Sometimes people just get each other. Personally I'd like to think that could be the case in the OP, if not...it really isn't our problem.

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I think that's reading an awful lot into what he's saying, but everyone is entitled to their opinion. And the hubs and I have pretty much always been that way. We started out as friends for years before we dated and have always finished each other's sentences. Sometimes people just get each other. Personally I'd like to think that could be the case in the OP, if not...it really isn't our problem.

Don't think I'm reading anything into what he's saying as those were his words; plus when you start a thread on a message board you are literally inviting comment, and not everyone will see things the same way.

But, as I'm NPO today for a procedure, starving and dealing with a headache from no caffeine, I'm perfectly willing to admit it's possible I'm just being a grump.:D

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