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Think very hard before you go to nursing school. My wife was a pleasant, good woman ten years ago when she was earning a degree in Mathematics Education. A campus nursing recruiter conned her into becoming an RN.

She cloistered herself away for two years, abdicated her responsibilities to our son, and dove head long into the feminist ideology that drives this 'profession'.

Now, ten years later, she's bitter, hateful, and lost in a fugue of depression, doubt, and anger. She is a chronic debtor and a gambling addict, two problems that did not exist prior to her entering the 'caring profession'. And nursing caused every blasted bit of it! And despite this, I am very much in love with this woman and will stay with her until the bitter end.

Nursing is the biggest lie being fed to young women in the USA. It's not liberating, it's a servile vocation that is driven at the highest levels by radical feminism. They want to separate you from your children and drive a wedge between you and your husband.

Men, do yourselves a favor, if she won't rethink nursing, take the kids and run! Otherwise, you'll be raising them on your own!

Please note, I earn double what she earns! And dedicate better than 50% of my week to our child! So, don't accuse me of being jealous of her career. Of course, I spend thousands annually fixing her 'little errors' when she blows a wad at a casino or goes on a 2K shopping binge.

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My sympathies on your situation.However I don't think that nursing is the reason behind your troubles. I work with many nurses that are happy, productive people with good home lives and no gambling addictions.Saying that nursing led her down this path is not right or fair. As a nurse she should have access to an EAD that she could look to for help and counselling.There is help out there, all she has to do is ask.

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Your wife, from your description seems to be displaying symptoms of a mental disorder. This is unrelated to her career choice. (Stress, which IS high in nursing, may have exacerbated her symptoms or accelerated her rate of decline.) Please take her to a qualified mental health care provider.

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Your wife' date=' from your description seems to be displaying symptoms of a mental disorder. This is unrelated to her career choice. (Stress, which IS high in nursing, may have exacerbated her symptoms or accelerated her rate of decline.) Please take her to a qualified mental health care provider.[/quote']

This.

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Hmmmm. While I laugh at the idea that any kind of "feminist" ideology lurks behind nursing that serves to drive a "wedge" between families (come on, man - really?) I'm inclined to agree with some of this.

In my experience, I DEFINITELY blame nursing school and the nursing profession for making me the bitter jerk I am today. I don't gamble or shop, or drink or drug, but after 7 years as an RN I'm a ghost of who I used to be. Age has a little bit to do with it (almost 40) but most days I feel like I'm almost 80. Before nursing I had a cush IT job, was happy and thin, pretty and optimistic. Then I decided I should "help people" for my 2nd career. What a joke. Now, I'm depressed most of the time, fat, look haggard and have zero enthusiasm for my future in this career. I really should have stayed selfish & gone into astrophysics like I really wanted.

Dude you are going to get your butt flamed clean off for your post (ya kinda lost credibility with the whole feminist angle) but I understand what you're getting at. I feel bad for your wife. She is miserable, like most nurses. Nurture her. She needs professional help. With all your money that's the least you could do to support her to "the bitter end."

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I don't agree with your statement that most nurses are miserable.I am certainly happy in my profession as are most of my friends at work.

I don't buy the "feminist" part of the OP post.How do you explain the many men that are nurses?

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Don't waste the flame thrower on the OP. Save some for me.

Before I was a nurse:

I truly saw the best in people, and I cultivated the best in myself.

I was optimistic. Hopeful. Believed if I treated others with dignity and respect, that would be the way I would be treated in return.

That person is llloooooooonnnnnnggggggg gone.

Some of the changes are simply the natural result of life experiences.

Most of the changes are the result of being lied to. Manipulated. Exploited by employers trying to make nurses do more with less, with no regard for safety. Mine or the pts. Watching unethical behavior by MDs, patients, and families in an attempt to cheat the system. Watching people at their worst inevitably takes a toll.

Whether the OP wants to admit it or not, there was trouble in paradise before nursing.

I would agree though, that nursing alters the person you are more than most professions/jobs I know.

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Don't waste the flame thrower on the OP. Save some for me.

Before I was a nurse:

I truly saw the best in people, and I cultivated the best in myself.

I was optimistic. Hopeful. Believed if I treated others with dignity and respect, that would be the way I would be treated in return.

That person is llloooooooonnnnnnggggggg gone.

I'm sorry.I

was blessed with a wonderful loving family, most people I encountered as a child were kind.

but a few, including a teacher were not at all kind.

Some felt it OK to use hateful insults on children because of skin color or where we went to church.

I am blessed to be able to nurse. No matter how difficult or whether patients and others appreciate what yo do know you are living a useful life. helping people recover, relieving physical and emotional pain and suffering is worthwhile.

Yet my favorite words are, "Thank you nurse."

PS: This is the only post by the OP.

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The OP lost me with the feminism angle. However, minus the hyperbole, I believe this post has merit and contains more than a couple grains of hard truth.

I don't know, maybe my perspective has changed because I'm facing a premature end to my own career due to the chronic stresses that have forever altered the way I interpret the world. Nursing has brought me abundant blessings, but it's also escalated a mental illness that was once subclinical and turned it into a full-blown version that's sapped the life from my career. In many ways I've become jaded, even cynical, and I HATE that about myself.

I don't regret becoming a nurse, and it's hard for me to imagine doing anything else; but I love nursing and hate it at the same time, and the older I get the less willing I am to co-sign other people's B.S. There's too much of that in nursing, and it's only going to get worse if people don't fight.......but how can we fight when the system does its level best to beat us down?

Oh, and one other thing---the wife's gambling and overspending sound totally pathological to me. She needs to see a mental health professional to be evaluated for this and other symptoms which may indicate problems beyond the scope of a nursing social network.

JMHO....

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Disagree! My profession has made me a better person! And I have been here for 30 years!

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