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For those of you who are the breadwinners/single parents, do you think it is realistic for a Registered Nurse with no debt whatsoever can afford four children on her own?

How many children do you have and did you find that nursing provided enough to give you kids a decent life? I've always wanted a medium-sized family, but four kids is a lot and children are very expensive!

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To be honest, there's a lot of factors at play that can affect the answer: the wages the nurse is making, cost of living where she is, the standard of living the nurse and family is used to, how much money the nurse has saved up, how old the kids are, how much help--if any--she gets from the children's father(s), how much help she can get from family and friends when it comes to errands, childcare, hand-me-downs, etc. Neverminding the nurse's capability to mentally and emotionally handle being a single parent with a family.

I've known single mom nurses with one kid, and single mom nurses with four kids. Mom of one didn't necessarily have fewer struggles than mom of four did.

I would tell you to take it one kid at a time and see how things go.

I have two kids. I originally wanted seven, but it took a long time to get pregnant with #1, and once labor started the thought of possibly doing this six more times pretty much quashed that. Child #1 turned out to be on the spectrum so my hands were full for several years to even think about a possible child #2...who eventually did come along, and his birth involved a c-section and postpartum preeclampsia.

Thanks to modern medicine, there will be no child #3 unless I choose to adopt. I'm done.

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To be honest, there's a lot of factors at play that can affect the answer: the wages the nurse is making, cost of living where she is, the standard of living the nurse and family is used to, how much money the nurse has saved up, how old the kids are, how much help--if any--she gets from the children's father(s), how much help she can get from family and friends when it comes to errands, childcare, hand-me-downs, etc. Neverminding the nurse's capability to mentally and emotionally handle being a single parent with a family.

I've known single mom nurses with one kid, and single mom nurses with four kids. Mom of one didn't necessarily have fewer struggles than mom of four did.

I would tell you to take it one kid at a time and see how things go.

I have two kids. I originally wanted seven, but it took a long time to get pregnant with #1, and once labor started the thought of possibly doing this six more times pretty much quashed that. Child #1 turned out to be on the spectrum so my hands were full for several years to even think about a possible child #2...who eventually did come along, and his birth involved a c-section and postpartum preeclampsia.

Thanks to modern medicine, there will be no child #3 unless I choose to adopt. I'm done.

Thanks for your reply. You are definitely right when you say that there are a lot of factors at play. With your nursing job, do you think you could support two children on your own in case of an emergency? I think this day and age, it is hard to support a family on one income, but nursing does have the advantage that there is overtime, PRN jobs, etc.

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There are a lot of factors that play into this. I am a single mom. I have one child. I just got divorced early this year. I have no debt. My house is paid for, my car is paid for. I pay for utilities and food. The basics. I don't need to get a job until after I graduate and when that happens between my salary and my child support I will be able to live comfortably. My son does competitive judo and we travel a lot which gets expensive. We just got back from 2 weeks in Dallas, Texas and Hawaii. I also manage my money well so we can do things like that. I could probably comfortable support another child and not have any issues.

On the other side, I have a friend who is also a single mom with two kids. She struggles big time. She does not budget well and is a very seat of your pants kind of person. She never has money. I end up helping her a lot. I honestly think it is how you plan and budget your money. When my exhusband and I were together for 15 years we had financial goals. We didn't want any debt and we worked hard to pay everything off. That has paid off for me at 38. I won't have debt when I graduate school and my son and I can enjoy the better things in life, like going to Hawaii and doing fun stuff like going to a ball game. But I am also thrifty. I don't buy anything unless it is on sale, I don't buy stuff like expensive shoes or clothes. I buy lots of shoes, don't get me wrong, I just don't buy real expensive ones. Most of my clothes come from Target or Kohls. So, it's a little give and take.

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