Men Who Fail to Launch into Adulthood

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A skyrocketing number of young adults, mostly men, are trapped in perpetual stasis and have been failing to launch into adulthood. Does this trend have any long-term implications regarding social issues such as dating, marriage, and family formation? This article is a small window into my personal woes involving the dating game. You are reading page 2 of Men Who Fail to Launch into Adulthood. If you want to start from the beginning Go to First Page.

Possibly. . .I'm all for introspection.

That's a good attitude to take. Being a nurse I'm constantly around women, most of whom constantly complain about the men in their lives. I think the best advice I can give is that you're not going to change anyone, no matter how much you try. If they have no work ethic and ambition before they met you, they probably won't have any after you've had your run with them. Be picky when looking for a partner, and if you see red flags early, get out of the relationship.

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If they have no work ethic and ambition before they met you, they probably won't have any after you've had your run with them. Be picky when looking for a partner, and if you see red flags early, get out of the relationship.
I should also mention that my two aforementioned examples in the article were not long term relationships by any stretch of the imagination, but rather very short term deals. The two men both wanted serious relationships with me, but I shut things down because I could see that they were slackers from our very brief times together.

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I should also mention that my two aforementioned examples in the article were not long term relationships by any stretch of the imagination, but rather very short term deals. The two men both wanted serious relationships with me, but I shut things down because I could see that they were slackers from our very brief times together.

Understandable Commuter, i retract my previous statements. You did right by shutting them down. As far as the original topic goes, I agree with your findings. In fact, both men and women of our generation have much less of a work ethic and an over dependence on their parents. You're not the only person that has trouble finding a partner that shares similar ambition.

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with Mommy and Daddy well into his middle 30s and remain a perpetual child. Independence is priceless.

It blows my mind when a twenty-something or person in their early 30s states that working 36 to 40 hours per week is 'too much.' Not all work is fulfilling or fun. I've worked at fast food joints, low end retail, group homes, and other unglamourous gigs. You've got to get down and dirty before you can get clean.

I think this might be tied to the "every body is a winner" and "there are no losers" etc., idea that we hear parents and even teachers saying to young kids these days. I remember watching two little boys racing, on hands and knees, through the garden rows next door twenty years ago. Yep, one boy finished the race first and the other boy was behind him, crying and feeling awful about himself....the mommy now gets involved saying 'you not the loser, you're the second winner." I was kind of just shaking my head.

And of course, so much of the US now (even our leaders) tout how wonderful the European ways are.....well, guess what, that is exactly what is done in much of Europe: their work weeks are shorter than ours, their paid vacations (shoot, paid everything) are longer than ours. and their economies are going T-U.

I agree with your last sentence: you have to get down and dirty before you get clean...the problem is that our young people these days think they get to start at the top, with the corner office, and in part because they've never heard anything but "you're the best." They are not being taught if your efforts are not the best, you have to work harder and probably longer.

That being said, I think there is a place for boosting little egos, but I also think there has to be a way to help them learn that there is only one "winner" in a footrace, and only if you outrun the fastest racer will it be you.

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I'd probably put more validity in this study if it were not conducted by Fox News.

I don't know that it was done by Fox News, or just reported by Fox News. But I do find it interesting given the thread topic.

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The study was done by a group called Live Science......and I know nothing about them.

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I don't know that it was done by Fox News, or just reported by Fox News. But I do find it interesting given the thread topic.

I won't argue with you there tntrn, it is a very interesting topic. Biologically it makes sense as well, much of our unconscious feelings haven't caught up with our biological makeup yet.

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Sometimes I wonder if so much attention has been put into encouraging girls' educational and career development...that boys have been left behind.

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Sometimes I wonder if so much attention has been put into encouraging girls' educational and career development...that boys have been left behind.

I wonder about that also.

And there are so many examples on TV, in sitcoms and even commercials, where the man in a family is made to look like a complete fool. I wonder if this is a result of the feminist movement: consciously make men look like incompetent tools.

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