To AKY, with love - page 2
Good Evening, I just wanted to tell you that I am thinking about you, as are many others. You always have a kind word and a shoulder for me when I need it. You are always there to give advice or... Read More
Oct 9, '13Occupation: CRRN, now a case management RN Specialty: Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych ; From: US ; Joined: Feb '05; Posts: 38,032; Likes: 69,261Hugs for you and your SO, aknottedyarn. (((hugs)))
I know my words might not offer much comfort in this uncertain time, but we are all pulling for you and him. You are beloved, appreciated and regarded around here. Please know that during this time of darkness, there's light at the end of the tunnel.
Oct 9, '13Occupation: retired From: US ; Joined: Jun '08; Posts: 7,997; Likes: 23,032Commuter, rarely can I say you are wrong, but this is a first. Your words mean so much to me. All of you. Some, like Liddle, Joe, Ted, and Commuter I have met, spent time with. For the rest of you I imagine you and your voices, smiles, and hugs. Your caring is palpable. I can see it, feel it, and know it is real. These are the voices of wisdom who understand what is happening. My friends mean well and are supportive but one asked me the other day if he was talking or able to eat. She is not stupid, she just does not know what being a vent means. When I share with all of you I know you know the realities of what is going on.
Yesterday afternoon the resident came in and said he wanted to get SO on his feet but could not as long as he was so sleepy. I asked if he had said that to SO, as I was sure SO was convinced he was not getting better, and the thing he never wanted was to be on a vent forever. I was worried that he was using sleep, or at least closing eyes and ignoring us at times because of this. He did not say anything so we went to the bedside and I woke SO and gave him the assertive "You need to wake up to get better speech". It shocked the resident that I would speak so clearly and authoritatively to him. He even said he was too caring and sensitive to talk like that. I did not bother to remind him that I was caring and sensitive. I just blew him off with the fact that it was time for the nagging wife (in me) to show up. He did wake up much more with that pep talk. He is still very tired but I think he got my message. I figured it was not my job to teach residents. I guess it is the job of all who are around them. I never realized how close to July October really is. He has learned lab values but lacks in human values yet.
So that was yesterday. Today I expect to see SO more active and by tomorrow I think the tube will be gone. The fever and DVT set him back a couple of days. Needing Versed for the MRI set him back. I think we are ready to move forward, even if it is at sloth speed.
I appreciate your prayers and good thoughts so much. You are my friends. I may not have met all of you, yet. We know each other in ways few can appreciate. Thank you.
Oct 9, '13Specialty: 10 year(s) of experience ; From: US ; Joined: Jul '03; Posts: 3,344; Likes: 8,597Sending you both the very best thoughts and karma. It sounds like he is in good hands.
Oct 9, '13Joined: Sep '07; Posts: 5,735; Likes: 21,087Continued thoughts, prayers, and healing wishes being sent your way. Wish I could be there to give you a big hug!
Oct 9, '13Joined: Aug '10; Posts: 7,237; Likes: 27,959aky, I always appreciate your thoughtful posts; you're one of my favorite posters here. I hope there will be healing for your SO, and that soon this will be behind you both.
Oct 9, '13Joined: Dec '09; Posts: 4,696; Likes: 11,358Hi AKY,
I am pulling for your SO and you.
Oct 9, '13Joined: Oct '08; Posts: 10,099; Likes: 11,602Give your SO a great big hug from me and keep ne for yourself, AKY. This has been almost impossibly difficult for you but you have always been a very strong loving capable woman, and you still are. Never lose sight of that! You and SO will get through this.
Continuing to pray for you both. Keep on giving those baby residents ****!
Oct 9, '13Occupation: allnurses Content/Community Director Specialty: Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '06; Posts: 25,351; Likes: 18,440Dear AKY......Just now reading this. Oh my! I am so sorry you are having to deal with yet another major health challenge for your dear SO. Thank you for sharing with your AN family. We do care about you.
I am so glad I got to meet you in May. Please know that you and your SO are in my thoughts and prayers. May you feel the presence of the Lord and His loving strength as you go through these challenging days.
Oct 9, '13Joined: Aug '05; Posts: 38,991; Likes: 48,056AKY....((HUGS)) I m late to the party as well.......I am so sorry you are again facing illness and heartache. They say that we aren't given more than we can handle...but sometimes we all stagger underneath the weight.
I am sending prayers and positive thoughts and great big cyber hugs from your AN friend.....((HUGS)).
Oct 9, '13Occupation: Nurse Educator Specialty: 16 year(s) of experience in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds ; From: US ; Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 12,037; Likes: 6,467Just reading this now. Sending prayers of healing your way. Please know that we care (((hugs))))
Oct 9, '13Occupation: RN Specialty: 11 year(s) of experience in Hem/Onc/BMT ; From: US ; Joined: Mar '10; Posts: 415; Likes: 886Right now I'm banging my head with regret. I rarely come to this side of AN, and why, just why did I have to see that month-old thread and go off on you with a silly debate while having no idea what you were going through at the moment?
We may be strangers, but I will be wishing for your SO's recovery and your well-being.
Oct 10, '13From: US ; Joined: Nov '08; Posts: 1,670; Likes: 3,313((((AKY)))) From your friend... without benefits. Although as I recall we never reached an agreement as to just what the term "benefits" entailed....
(A bit of a private joke between AKY and me.. wait a minute... it might have been in a thread, so maybe it's not that private after all!)
Oct 10, '13Occupation: retired From: US ; Joined: Jun '08; Posts: 7,997; Likes: 23,032There are no words to let you know how much I appreciate all of you.
Kolohe, our relationship seems quite unbalanced. I am the friend who gets all the benefits. You get splinters.
The news tonight sent me into another crying spell. He has had a sl. temp about everyday and they have cultured everything over and over. Resp. now growing gram pos and neg. Started on antibiotics again. He has so few veins. DVT in one arm means only one available. He has had EJs and a PICC that clotted after two days. They started OT for his remaining "good" arm because it was so swollen.
Tonight I am getting discouraged. I guess the lack of sleep is part of that. I am waking up in the middle of the night and sometimes can get back to sleep. Tonight, not so easily.
Keep those prayers and good thoughts coming. I need them more each day that progress seems just around the corner and does not happen.