This could have been me or you. :(

  1. Last night, one of our sister units was super short (as were we) and we were calling each other for assistance throughout the evening. The phone rang again at the desk, and it was the charge RN, who was crying. Apparantly, her young son had come out and found his father collapsed on the ground. He'd called his mom (the charge nurse) and told her that his father was not waking up, and that his hands were ice cold. One of the MD's tried to talk him through CPR while he stayed on the phone, and another nurse called the ER to have an ambulance dispatched. The charge nurse had to go to the ER and wait for her husband to arrive. We got word about two hours later that he'd died.

    We started talking about how we'd left our houses before work- some of us had bickered with our spouses, some of us had given them or the kids a quick peck on the cheek, some of us had not seen our families at all for various reasons. I called my husband and as soon as I heard his voice, I began to cry, because I realized that though I'd kissed him on the cheek before leaving, I was rushing and he was occupied, and if that had been the last time I ever spoke to him I'd have been absolutely devastated.

    I guess what's on my mind this morning is how comfortable we become with our lives, and how unprepared we really are to deal with such tragedies. With that, I ask you to take a moment today and reach out to the people you love- look them in the eye and tell them how special they are to you. Touch them, memorize their smell, or how their skin feels, how they look at that moment; take a sensory picture.

    Also, if you don't mind, please add this woman and her son to your prayers today.

    Let's make our goal this morning to really appreciate, even briefly, how lucky we all are in our respective ways, and how paltry everything else is when you compare it to the love and affection of the people we are close to.

    I hope you all have a beautiful day.

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  3. by   jnette
    How tragic for this family. My thoughts and prayers are with her. So very sad. It truly is a wake up call to spend each moment with our loved ones as though it were our last.
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am truly sorry to hear this. Those poor people.So sad. My thoughts are with them.
  5. by   gwenith
    There but for the grace of god.......

    So sad for that family. Let her know we all send our condolences.
  6. by   RNPATL
    My thoughts and prayers are certainly with this family. Life is short and we need to remember to say I love you to those we love, no matter how rushed we are or what is happening on that given day.
  7. by   Dave ARNP
    So tragic.

    Thoughts and prayers are going their way.

  8. by   KaroSnowQueen
    That poor woman and child. Bless them Lord.
    Things like this really change your outlook on life. I know since my mother was killed I am sure to say something good to people I care about when I leave. I don't think I have ever left in anger with ugly words as the last thing said since then. Mother and I parted on good terms, but there was so much so I could have said to her if I had known. So now I try to always appreciate my husband and children and kiss them and tell them I love them even if it's six times aday. Better too much than not enough.
  9. by   kc ccurn
    I am so sorry to hear this. Please let her know that we are thinking of her and her son, our prayers are with them.
  10. by   traumaRUs
    How so very sad. Of course I will add them to my prayers. Sorry for her co-workers too.
  11. by   nurseygrrl
    How sad... Yesterday was the anniversary of my dad's death 4 years ago and today is his birthday. This thread kinda struck a chord with me. This family is definitely in my prayers. God will give them the strength to get through, and I'm sure you and her other colleagues will be there to support her.
  12. by   Tweety
    I can't imagine the last words to my spouse being a fight. One mustn't take anything for granted in this life as there are no guarantees.

    ((((Ali))))), birthdays and anniversaries can be a bit tough can't they?
  13. by   Jay-Jay
    WOW [gulp] That poor nurse! This one hits very, very close to home right now because my dear one had a stroke 3 weeks ago. Went up to bed for a nap, and very nearly never woke up!

    Going to go upstairs right now and kiss him! :kiss
  14. by   suzy253
    How very very sad. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers as well.