The Salvation Army Bell Ringers are OUT! HELP

  1. You know, I'm all for giving to those less fortunate, but everytime I see them I feel guilty. I can't give to every single bell ringer out there!
    If you give at one store and go to another, they look at you and I always say "I just gave at K-mart (or wherever it was), thanks". I mean I feel like I have to say something, which in fact, is none of their business! RIGHT?

    They look at you like sure you did cheap-skate. And then they wait right outside the door!
    Am I terrible or do any of you feel this same way!
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  3. by   cactus wren
    I just got back home after being up at daughters for a week, and stopped by market, to pick up treat for my abused( they think) kitties.And they are out here,too. So now I`ll have to remember to keep some extra ones in my purse.....I agree, they guilt you out....big time.....oh, well,`s the holidays....and a buck or two won`t kill me.....
    I feel terrible about it, but I feel the same way. Gets to the point that I can't even stand to hear that damn bell!

    I try to do most of my shopping early in the morning, after I drop my son off at school. I find they usually aren't out that early. I think they prefer to wait until the evening, for the after work rush of hurried shoppers.

  5. by   Stargazer
    I give to specific charities of my choosing and plan my donations carefully, including Toys For Tots and Northwest Harvest. So, no, I don't feel particularly compelled to give to the Salvation Army. And you certainly don't owe strangers soliciting money from you on the street, no matter how worthy their cause, any explanation whatsoever about where and when you choose to spend your charitable dollars.
  6. by   Stargazer
    And during the busy, noisy holiday season, the bell-ringing grates on my last nerve. It really does.
  7. by   Q.
    I actually like the sound of those bells; it signals the holiday time for me. I give sometimes, but yes, I feel guilty about not giving and some of them DO stare at you! I hate that!

    Although one time I gave this older man from the Salvation Army a $1 and instead of the little pins he gave me a stuffed animal.

    I give to charities of my choice: The Performing Arts, Planned Parenthood (directly, not through United Way - ugh) the Humane Society and I donate clothing to GoodWill. I'm all tapped out.
  8. by   kmchugh

    Nail. Hammer. Right on the head, X 2. My feelings exactly. I know, you are here for charitable reasons and all, but I bet that bell won't be as loud when its in your lower colon.

  9. by   baseline
    I never donate to anything or anyone who makes me feel OBLIGATED. I also have my favorite charities, and I donate to the Salvation army....but not the bell ringers...........ding dong
  10. by   Stargazer
    Originally posted by kmchugh
    I know, you are here for charitable reasons and all, but I bet that bell won't be as loud when its in your lower colon.Kevin
  11. by   Youda
    I give what I feel like I want to give.
    When I encounter other bell ringers, I look them square in the eye, smile, and say "Good evening," "good morning," "happy holidays to you," or whatever. Guilt comes from within you, not from a stranger ringing a bell. Just smile and walk on by if you don't want to give.
  12. by   RainbowSkye
    Here's what works for me. I decide how much I want to donate to the Salvation Army folks (usually $20 or so - I have other charities I donate to on a regular basis and I sure don't make that much money) and get that amount of money in quarters. I usually keep the money in a zip lock so I won't spend it on something else. Then I just put one or two quarters in each kettle I go by. And I like the sounds of the bells too.
  13. by   Rustyhammer
    I offer them a buck if they DON'T ring for one minute!
    They are the most annoying people!
    Bah! Humbug!
  14. by   Lausana
    Tonight as I left the store the female bell ringer told me she liked my purse...being the scrooge I can be I felt like saying no you're not conning me out of my change with compliments, lady!...especially since the purse cost 3.50 in a clearance bin but luckily I bit my tongue I know it's a good thing to give to. I shouldn't go in public on very little sleep! :chuckle :imbar