Hurtful things

  1. I'm angry at the hubby right now for a comment he made. Nothing big, but it did bother me. so now were playing the silent treatment. Who lasts longer in your disagreements..without speaking? I guess i'm to sensitive,:stone
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  3. by   nursechris1
    Oh, Kayzee, been there, done that. My hubby used to go a week without speaking to me, I soon learned to brush it off, and learn that in the long run it didn't matter. If you act like nothing is wrong, and you don't care that he isn't speaking to you, it will eventually stop. In fact, I learned to act just the opposite. I went about my business doing what I wanted. Other times, I will just start talking to him about something else unrelated to the argument.
  4. by   RNforLongTime
    When hubby pizzes me off, I yell at him so he KNOWS why I'm mad!
  5. by   tiger
    years ago my hubby tried the silent treatment on me. i was much better at it. he caved in quickly and has learned not to even go there!
  6. by   RRMLPN
    I seem to be the hot tempered one in my marriage, but can tell you what hubby does to me... he kills me with kindness lol...which makes me feel about an inch tall!!!! but it works, i always end up smiling and realizing it is much better to talk than steam about it... but sometimes i'm kinda like that country song.. i just wanna be mad for awhile.
    Nah... we're more the hollerin type. But when the silence treatment is applicable, I always win.

  8. by   thatldo
    I'm mouthy & loud, my husband just sits there and lets me blow up, then I find out my hubby is (usually) right. grrrr.
    You'd think I'd learn to keep my mouth shut....but no!
    Oh but he loves me, so he puts up w/me!
  9. by   delirium
    We're both sulkers. It makes for some pretty quiet nights around here. Now, though, we communicate a lot better and discuss issues before they get to the sulking point.

    She learned early on... when she stops talking to me and goes to bed early... its not ME she's punishing. I'll just stay up and play wit' my bb friends.
  10. by   emily_mom
    I just lock him in the cellar until he begs for forgiveness.

  11. by   duckie
    Hubby and I seldom argue but the outside world can set my temper to full tilt. (Native American, Dutch and Irish) He just sits by calmly, letting me rant and rave, then smiles and says something incredibly cute to calm me down and then I am fine. He only gets mad if someone messes with me, then he gets MAD! Ahhhh, my hero! I think our last actual arguement was probably 5 years ago when his drunken brother was married to my daughter and we all lived together. I woke the whole house up that night throwing a chair across the room, couldn't take the brother anymore. He moved out pretty quick and my daughter divorced him. Hubby said, "What took her so long". I like him much better now that he's not my son in law and he doesn't live with us!
  12. by   JonRN
    My ex used to give me the "treatment" for weeks at a time. I gave it right back to her. If her dress was on fire, I wouldn't tell her. Maybe that's why we got divorced. She was my second ex, and we stayed married for less than a year.
  13. by   night owl
    I've got the Italian temper. He sits back and listens to the ranting then asks, "Are you done yet?" That sets me off even more! He's learned not to ask me that anymore. When I calm down we discuss things civily.
  14. by   Rustyhammer
    My wife likes to yell when she gets mad at me (and you KNOW it's for no reason) and I will calmly tell her "There is no reason to yell, we are adults and can discuss this calmly can't we?"
    That just ticks her off more.
    Then if I say "I'll tell you what, I'll take the blame just so we don't have to fight anymore ok? It's my fault honey, I'm sorry"
    She hates it when I do that...hehehe