My 14 year old wants to live with his Dad - page 4

hello all and happy friday! :) i'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but here goes: i have an issue and i need some advice: my son who is 14 wants to go live with his dad. i have... Read More

  1. by   cherryelle07
    I've often found with children this age that there is a need to explore the unknown and a "grass is greener" mentality. They're young and very optimistic and dreaming of all the exciting things that could potentially happen. On top of that there is raging hormones and confusing urges that they haven't really made sense of yet. Kids often make choices at this age without really understanding why they are making them... they are just leaping. I would sit your son down and make sure there's nothing going on at school or with anyone in particular. Like it or not, sometimes things can be happening under your nose that you may not realize or even believe. Especially with step parents. Not saying your current husband is doing anything, but at the same time... your son could be having some complicated feelings about him. I know I did about my step dad and step mother. Remember to TRULY listen and not make judgments. Leave your feelings out of the conversation, because this is about getting to the bottom of what's going on. If there's truly nothing going on and he just misses his dad or just wants to try something new, then try and find a happy medium. If he doesn't already spend summers with dad, maybe you can arrange that. Maybe you can do just one year.

    I had a similar situation when I was a teenager, but I was 17. I told my mom I wanted to live with my grandparents who were moving to Indiana. I was extremely close with my grandparents and I wasn't really trying to get away from anything. I was more so wanting a change. She was heartbroken, but respected my decision. We talked daily on the phone until she passed in 2013. We actually got along a lot better when I moved out! It gave us a chance to really appreciate the time we did have together!