Cutting the Cord: College Edition

  1. I scrolled back a bit to see if there was another topic posted on this. I didn't see anything, so please forgive me if this is repetitive.

    My oldest son is going to UNC this August. We are in NY.
    My youngest son is 16 1/2, and they are best friends.
    Older son is sarcastic and smart, not too secure, looks to younger happy go lucky son as his wing man. I don't have the best marriage, but it's secure for now. My husband is an amazing Dad.
    This time has gone so fast. I remember so much of his babyhood, the way he smelled, etc, and now he's a young man. I can't believe he will be gone in about 2 months.
    I'm not handling this well. I am excited for him, but very down for ME.
    Have any of you been through this? Am I normal?
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  3. by   Jules A
    You are totally normal! You must be so proud.
  4. by   Farawyn
    I am. I'm just not ready to let go.
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    I've had three kids fly the coop. It is very hard. I still have one at home and he won't graduate for 6 more years. I think that will be the hardest.

    I just try to stay in their lives by visiting as much as possible w/o bugging them. So far, no one has complained.

    My oldest moved to Texas with his wife and my only grandchild. I'm flying out there next week.

    My second lives about an hour from here and we get together all the time.

    My third live in Portland, OR about 7 hours from here as did the oldest before the move to Texas. I liked it a lot better when I could just get into the car and drive. Now, making airline reservations, having to change planes and sit in airports seems crazy. It is going to take an entire day to just get there. The nearest airports are 3 & 4 hours away.

    I wish all my kids lived nearby.
  6. by   Farawyn
    I was going to start a new thread but I guess I'll tack it here.
    If any of you have kids that went away to school, what does my son need to bring? I know bedding and clothes, we got him a laptop for his 18th
    I'm sure once he goes to orientation UNC will give him a check list.
  7. by   BCgradnurse
    It's really hard watching the kids fly the coop. I cried when I brought both of mine to college. Does your son know who his roommate is yet? They should talk so they don't bring duplicates of things like TV, mini-fridge, shelving units. Chances are his room will be pretty small. I would also suggest buying things like notebooks, pens, printer paper, and other school supplies before he goes to school. Staples and Office Max usually have good sales in August, and the college bookstores are expensive. Find out if his dorm is air-conditioned-if not, he should bring a fan.

    That's all that comes to mind right now. Rest assured, what you are feeling is totally normal.
  8. by   Farawyn
    Less than 3 weeks.
  9. by   ElvishDNP
    You know what that means???? You will have to stop on your way back up and see meeeeee! I'll buy you a beer and give you a hug and bring some Kleenex for you to cry into.
  10. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Elvish
    You know what that means???? You will have to stop on your way back up and see meeeeee! I'll buy you a beer and give you a hug and bring some Kleenex for you to cry into.
    If we take 2 cars? Maybe I will. (((Elvish)))
  11. by   Farawyn
    12 days.
  12. by   Farawyn
    1 week.
  13. by   imintrouble
    I have daughters and half their life they didn't even like me. And I didn't like them.
    Sons are a whole nuther can of worms.
    My sister has a son. She had him at home for about 23 years. The day he moved away I was there.
    It was time. He needed to move on in his life. However, it was the most heart rending parting I have ever witnessed in my life.
    Even thinking of it now, all those years ago, I'm sad. I remember clearly the anguish on my sisters face. My 6'6" grown man nephew crying like a little boy. My sister was seriously depressed for weeks, even though she knew he had to leave.

    I anticipate you'll grieve. I don't see how you can't. Recognize that it's as it should be.
    Distance is just that. It won't diminish your love for him or his for your family.
    My sister maintains her bond with her boy even though she only sees him several times a year.
    She now has a daughter in law and a granddaughter to love.
    It's part of being a parent.
  14. by   StNeotser
    Must admit, I'm very glad my daughter is commuting to college from home. Though it's her final year next year and then who knows? I think what you're feeling is very normal. When my daughter transferred from the community college to the four year one she applied to one about 70 miles away. I was very relieved when she didn't pick that school.

    Good luck with the transition.