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I'm tired of being single.

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To BrandonLPN

I asked for tips but you've only ripped apart what I've suggested without even proposing options.

I understand what you are saying and I was simply pointing out how slim of chance of meeting someone at work is if anyone thought of proposing it. Dating at the workplace is not ideal for most, but has worked for some. I work in a 6th floor building and if I find someone I'd definitely take a shot at it. But I've used my floor as an example of the gender makeup within the organization.

I wasn't trying to "rip apart" anyone. We have all subconsciously used our careers or kids or school or whatever as excuses to avoid relationships at some point or other, myself included. I was just presenting that as a possibility.

Remember, you came to an online chat for answers and suggestions. You're bound to get many different replies.

And, really, would reading 72 different ways of us saying the same thing truly be helpful?

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I am a married man. Over the years we have hooked up most of my wife's single friends with my single friends. Several marriages and long term relationship have resulted.

I suggest you network with your female friends. Ask about their brothers, their husband's friends, etc. Try to make a good impression on your friend's husbands. If your name ever comes up with one of his single friends what he says about you will make a huge difference. Men trust what their friends say about women.

Another good thing to do is get involved with a group that enjoys the same activities as you do. One wonderful but single lady I know took up sailing and met her husband at the sailing club.

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Guys definitely do have standards. These standards simply differ from the standards that us women have.

Men tend to be visually oriented and place a high value on females' looks, so they generally avoid asking women out whom they've deemed unattractive.

On the other hand, women are far less visually oriented than men, and will date/marry a guy who is not conventionally good-looking as long as other redeeming qualities (personality, ambition, confidence, intelligence, etc) are present.

So that's why my wife loves me.

It's cool to walk into places with a gorgeous woman and watch other men look and wonder, "wth?".

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I haven't dated in more than 30 years. It sounds like maybe it has been a long time for OP also. My better half and I met in college.

From the sounds of your post, you don't get out much. -not to be rude-

Others have given you great suggestions.

Expand and explore those interests you already have. Don't look for a date at the gym unless you also enjoy the gym.

Don't be afraid to meet or initiate contact with people who interest you. Talk to strangers (sorry mom).

Work contacts can certainly be valuable.

My wife's cousin married her boss' brother. A bunch of them met at a neighborhood bar for a few drinks one evening when she was introduced to him. They married less than a year later and have remained married (happily) for several decades now I think. You just never know what sort of interesting and attractive people you will meet when you begin to broaden your social circles.

Working that shift most decidely makes dating more challenging. It can be done.

Good luck. I hope you are as lucky as I was.

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toomuchbaloney, you are a male? Or a lesbian? You said wife, which is why I ask.

OP can try camming if all else fails (KIDDING!)

I would like for her to check back in and let us know what's up!

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One of my home health clients wanted to take me with her when she went out but that never transpired, and I would have never gone out anyway. The age where I had enough get up and go to go out at night, came and went a long time ago. And my family gave up on griping at me to get a SO. Who cares anymore? That's my motto.

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You guys are going to have to explain "camming" to me as I see y'all using it all time in other threads . . .I realize it is part of a thread I missed but nothing comes up in the search engine.

I've seen "cam" and "camming" out on the 'net used regarding using cameras.

As to dating - if something happened to my dh, I would never date again. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't be busy. I've always been a loner of sorts and have pretty much done things on my own for a long time.

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camming- the OP on the yellow side started 2 threads about getting money to be nakey and do sexual things online in front of a cam- I think OP made it a verb, but it's not. Or, it wasn't.

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Nakey. You sound like me talking to my toddler :roflmao:

I also met my husband online. We met, a month later he met my twins, and a month after that he told me he loved me. I freaked out and didn't talk to him for almost 2 weeks. We got married 6 months after we met. :unsure:

Anyways, we've been married for 6 years, had another child, and are pretty strong. He's had to work out of state for 80% of our marriage, and that certainly puts a strain on things, but we manage. We're talking about moving to TX in 4 or 5 years, before the twins start HS, he doesn't want to move them after that. So now he's talking about building on to our house instead of renting a bigger one. Construction, now THAT is stressful.

I have no idea how old this thread is, but I wish you luck OP.

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I met my SO on Match.com. We've been together for over a year and plan on spending the rest of our lives together. I met some really nice men that I just didn't "click" with, and a few losers. It was worth the $30 a month.

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I've been single all my life! Some guys are confounded upon hearing about this, and a little leery. I don't get out much and I think that is contributory. It's habitual of me to be in lone-wolf mindset. People go do things and say to me "Come on, just go!" or "Why don't you go?" When I go do things and tell someone about it after, it'll be "You didn't go with anyone?" or less commonly, "aww I wanted to go!"

I have cravings for a relationship sometimes but I'm focusing more on things I want to do in life. I've already mentally prepared myself for a life of loneliness.

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