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Move to the ER? We have sexy firemen come in all hours of night. Thats were I met my now hubby many moons ago when I was working 3p-3a.

Kinda kidding, kinda not.

I wasn't intentionally looking for a relationship, it just kind of worked out that way.

Sometimes, I feel people look or try too hard and end up getting into toxic relationships just because they "don't want to be single".

Good luck, don't really have too much advice beside just put yourself where you will encounter many different people.

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Check out your local reddit for meet ups. Mostly geared toward social and fun events but a nice way to meet new people and doing new stuff.

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Sometimes, I feel people look or try too hard and end up getting into toxic relationships just because they "don't want to be single".

This. Sometimes, being single lets you discover just what you can do by yourself- I took my first solo vacation during a time in my life when I was single. It was terrifying at first, but by a few days in, I discovered just what an independent streak I had and how liberating it could be. I've been in relationships since then, but I learned a lot about myself that I was able to bring into the relationship. OP, instead of worrying about finding someone, go ahead and find out about yourself- being yourself, relaxing, and not trying to force the issue may actually lead to finding what you want.

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She's talking about BrandonLPN, Freudian analyst. >>"Have you considered that you may be subconsciously using working nights as an excuse not to date?" >>

Well, at least he didn't blame her mother.

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Even on a night shift schedule you're still awake by mid-late afternoon. That leaves you the whole evening to share with the "day walkers", which is really the time most people meet anyway (in the evenings). I think you're placing too much blame on your hours.

Consider to continue trying dating sites for one thing. Of course there are going to be plenty of guys on there just looking for sex, but that's true no matter where you go whether it be the bar or even church. Go out with friends for drinks, or to eat, or to the gym, or to coffeeshops, etc. Join meetup.com and find people with similar interests. Just get out and make yourself available, basically, doesn't matter how.

Also, don't be afraid to initiate contact with guys you're attracted to. It's 2015, you can do that now. Everything functions differently socially now and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a guy.

So, what state are you from? Want to go out sometime? heheh. ;-)

Seriously. Get a (Chat)room:cyclops:

Anyway, you are a woman. Just smile at a guy you're attracted to and wait for something to happen (Hopefully just conversation at first). Guys are easy, women have standards (unless of course you're married to me which is proof that you have none at all).

Good luck to you. It is difficult to find that special someone.

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Agreeing with meetup.com! I went to a meetup once, met a bunch of fantastic people, even got asked on a date. The guy was totally boring and the chaste kiss I allowed after he bought me lunch was like kissing one of those wall-mounted fish heads... ugh. It's still a good way to meet people, though.

Met someone on Match, too, but that didn't work out long term.

I have to say the quality of the online pool really varies based on your area. When I was looking to move to Florida, holy schmoly were there a ton of hot men! Just about everyone was ridiculously attractive! Looking in where I live in NC... well... let's just say the Match pool was terrible. I was glad I ended up back with the guy I'm with because the potential for meeting new people was really awful.

Good luck either way. :)

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Guys are easy, women have standards
Guys definitely do have standards. These standards simply differ from the standards that us women have.

Men tend to be visually oriented and place a high value on females' looks, so they generally avoid asking women out whom they've deemed unattractive.

On the other hand, women are far less visually oriented than men, and will date/marry a guy who is not conventionally good-looking as long as other redeeming qualities (personality, ambition, confidence, intelligence, etc) are present.

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Guys definitely do have standards. These standards simply differ from the standards that us women have.

Men tend to be visually oriented and place a high value on females' looks, so they generally avoid asking women out whom they've deemed unattractive.

On the other hand, women are far less visually oriented than men, and will date/marry a guy who is not conventionally good-looking as long as other redeeming qualities (personality, ambition, confidence, intelligence, etc) are present.

Never would have thought you were a woman.

Anyway, I stand corrected. Perhaps there is hope for me

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Guys definitely do have standards. These standards simply differ from the standards that us women have.

Men tend to be visually oriented and place a high value on females' looks, so they generally avoid asking women out whom they've deemed unattractive.

On the other hand, women are far less visually oriented than men, and will date/marry a guy who is not conventionally good-looking as long as other redeeming qualities (personality, ambition, confidence, intelligence, etc) are present.

I don't see that across the board on either side.

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I don't see that across the board on either side.
According to Professor Li, the study's lead author, the research is novel because the scientists are clarifying how exactly men and women differ.

‘That is, they prioritise different qualities when screening each other in online chats and speed-dates – women want men who are at least average in social status while men want women who are at least moderately physically attractive,' Professor Li said.

The findings are consistent with previous mate preference research conducted by Professor Li which found that men prioritise having moderate physical attractiveness, while women prioritise having moderate social status in a long-term mate.

Mr Kenrick said professor of psychology in ASU's College of Liberal Arts and Sciences: ‘The new study helps to dispel politically correct – but factually misguided – notions of a gender-neutral world where men and women want the exact same kind of mates.'

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I don't *see* research in my real life, I see what is front of me.

That's not to say a woman or man won't increase their draw by getting in good physical shape as well grooming and dressing the part, but again I see it on both sides.

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