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Even on a night shift schedule you're still awake by mid-late afternoon. That leaves you the whole evening to share with the "day walkers", which is really the time most people meet anyway (in the evenings). I think you're placing too much blame on your hours.

Consider to continue trying dating sites for one thing. Of course there are going to be plenty of guys on there just looking for sex, but that's true no matter where you go whether it be the bar or even church. Go out with friends for drinks, or to eat, or to the gym, or to coffeeshops, etc. Join meetup.com and find people with similar interests. Just get out and make yourself available, basically, doesn't matter how.

Also, don't be afraid to initiate contact with guys you're attracted to. It's 2015, you can do that now. Everything functions differently socially now and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a guy.

So, what state are you from? Want to go out sometime? heheh. ;-)

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I've tried dating sites , actually just one (OKCupid) and all anyone wanted was sex .Do you guys have any tips on meeting people?

If you want to continue online dating, my tip is to get away from the free sites such as OKCupid and Plenty of Fish because they tend to attract the bottom feeders (I am just calling it as I see it). Subscribe to a paid site such as Match.com or EHarmony. For me, the quality of the dating pool increased when exposed to men who were paying $30 monthly.

I also echo the sentiments of others who suggest you create a full and interesting life outside work. Take a night class or two at your local community college during your nights off work. Learn to play a new musical instrument. Join a gym (I met a few men this way). Join a camping group on Meetup.com (potential to meet outdoorsy guys).

Good luck to you!

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Try making friends with some of the other nurses (if you haven't already). Maybe you all can hang out some time which is a good way to meet people. I'm not a fan of dating people from work because things can get complicated. Also, you can still go out in the day time and meet people.

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So, what state are you from? Want to go out sometime? heheh. ;-)

This is absolutely adorable.

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To BrandonLPN

I asked for tips but you've only ripped apart what I've suggested without even proposing options.

I understand what you are saying and I was simply pointing out how slim of chance of meeting someone at work is if anyone thought of proposing it. Dating at the workplace is not ideal for most, but has worked for some. I work in a 6th floor building and if I find someone I'd definitely take a shot at it. But I've used my floor as an example of the gender makeup within the organization.

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I asked for tips but you've only ripped apart what I've suggested without even proposing options.

I understand what you are saying and I was simply pointing out how slim of chance of meeting someone at work is if anyone thought of proposing it. Dating at the workplace is not ideal for most, but has worked for some. I work in a 6th floor building and if I find someone I'd definitely take a shot at it. But I've used my floor as an example of the gender makeup within the organization.

I think everyone has been pretty supportive of you. Who are you talking about that "ripped" you?

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If you want to continue online dating, my tip is to get away from the free sites such as OKCupid and Plenty of Fish because they tend to attract the bottom feeders (I am just calling it as I see it). Subscribe to a paid site such as Match.com or EHarmony. For me, the quality of the dating pool increased when exposed to men who were paying $30 monthly.

I also echo the sentiments of others who suggest you create a full and interesting life outside work. Take a night class or two at your local community college during your nights off work. Learn to play a new musical instrument. Join a gym (I met a few men this way). Join a camping group on Meetup.com (potential to meet outdoorsy guys).

Good luck to you!

I agree with this. I block the vast majority of men who contact me through OkCupid because most of the messages are along the lines of "heeyyyy sexxxyyy wanna hook up?" And most of them don't have jobs or live with their parents. Not interested. I don't suggest Tinder because that's essentially meant for people who are just looking to hook up. The quality of people on pay sites is superior.

Joining meetup was one of the best things I ever did for my social life. I also joined adult sports leagues in my city (I play floor hockey weekly and have played in kickball, softball, flag football, broomball and inner tube water polo leagues) and a local hiking club. Most of my long time friends are married with kids and I'm not, nor do I want to be.

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She's talking about BrandonLPN, Freudian analyst. >>"Have you considered that you may be subconsciously using working nights as an excuse not to date?" >>

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I've been a night shift nurse since I was single( 8 years.) Met my husband online, moved to another state to be with him, been married 7 years and have 2 kids.

I'm shy in person so the dating site worked well for me. Maybe do eharmony which is a more long term relationship minded site? I did go out in the mornings after shifts with nursing friends and on nights off when I was single.

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Thanks for the tips. I'm in the NJ area and will be doing travel nursing in Florida later this year.

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I'm tired of being married.....

(Just, kidding. Maybe😕😕😕)

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I'm a 34 year old married LPN. I actually met my husband online in '99 before I had became a nurse. We were living 30 minutes away from each other, and knew some of the same people, so I figured it was safe to meet him. I lived in a rural area at the time, and single decent men were few & far between! lol So I tried the internet. I had a couple of internet dates before I met my husband that didn't work out, but I tried again & met him. :) I personally think internet dating was a great idea for me, because it let me meet someone not from my town with the same interests & likes that I couldn't have met locally. I was also taking college classes at the time, and had a busy schedule too. The internet dating let me talk to my hubby online when I was home between classes. We have been together ever since. We married in 2000, and have two beautiful daughters now. Good luck! I'm sure the right person will come along when you least expect it! That's what happened to me... :)

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