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I'm tired of being single.

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I work nights and when i'm off, i'm at home recovering from my previous shifts. I'm not seeing anyone or have even come across anyone. Nursing is a predominantly female field and there are very few male nurses. On the floor that i work, there is only one male nurse who is married and one male secretary who is 50 year old. I'm 30 y.o and I'm just so ready to date. I barely go anywhere because i'm always home sleeping or when I get up its in the middle of the night. I've tried dating sites , actually just one (OKCupid) and all anyone wanted was sex .Do you guys have any tips on meeting people?

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I used to do night shifts and on our nights off, my friends and i go to the clubs. Or sometimes we would pick a weekend and drive somewhere where we could meet new people and stay there so we could also enjoy ourselves. Do u get invited to parties? That's another way u could meet new people. Ever floated to other floors? I meet nurses from other floors then i would go to their birthdays or other parties... Just have fun, explore, dont be afraid to go out there and enjoy yourself. ;-) so much fun!

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I'm not trying to be rude, but I find it odd that you seem to think dating a coworker is your only option, aside from online dating sites. Have you considered that you may be subconsciously using working nights as an excuse not to date? Dating a coworker on your unit isn't exactly an ideal situation in the first place.

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Get involved in an activity that you enjoy.

If you enjoy hiking join a hiking or a trail maintenance club.

If you enjoy biking, join a group that rides. The local bike shops will have lists of riding groups and when, where they ride.

Take a non-credit class. For example take a class in investing or financial planning or a class on local history. Take a golf or yoga class.

Volunteer. Help plan a fundraiser for the symphony, ballet, or museum. Help with free or low cost medical care for the working poor. Help build a Habitat for Humanity house.

The goal is to increase the number of people you meet while doing something you enjoy. Having a full, active life will make you a more interesting person which will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.

Have fun.

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Meetup.com?

Yes. That's what I was going to suggest. Not a dating service, but appears to be a good way to connect with people that share common interests.

Gotta get out there and do things if you want things to change. Good luck to you.

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Get out of the house! It's a 24/7 world out there! I had a pretty active social life when I worked night shift. Meeting friends for dinner/drinks, going shopping, to the movies, to the gym, etc. I'm married, so I wasn't looking to meet a significant other, but I often found myself in environments conducive to such pursuits.

I married before the proliferation of dating sites and the online options of meeting people, so I'm kind of speculating about what I may do in your situation, but I think that even if I struck out meeting quality people on one site, I would check out others.

Good luck! Have fun!

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Church.

I was an avowed atheist. I got desperate for female company. I got invited to church. I thought, "What's the worst that can happen?" I met a nice Christian girl, and seven happy years of marriage later, I am somewhere between agnostic and born again. She is wonderful.

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Church.

I was an avowed atheist. I got desperate for female company. I got invited to church. I thought, "What's the worst that can happen?" I met a nice Christian girl, and seven happy years of marriage later, I am somewhere between agnostic and born again. She is wonderful.

There's a pretty vast gap between agnostic and born again.

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There's a pretty vast gap between agnostic and born again.

And? Sometimes people know they're in between but not exactly where. At least he's open-minded.

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If mostly what you do is catch up on sleep, how will you have time for a relationship?

I think Meet Up and getting involved in activities that you like is the first step. Find or create the time and energy for a social life. And then maybe online so you can look for others with a similar schedule.

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