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How supportive was your significant other while you were going through school?

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Hi everyone!

I was wondering if everyone's significant other was supportive of them while they were studying and living the nursing student's, head buried in book, life? A few of the girls at school have also mentioned that they were not receiving a great deal of support at home while others have awesome significant others. It has been my observation that most of the SO's who were not as supportive didn't undergo the stressful life of nursing school much less college.

Opinions and personal experiences would be appreciated. :lol2:

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We've both gone back to school at various times during our marriage. We are both supportive of each other.

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I think the character of the person you are married to has more to do with it than nursing school. So, the person would be a supportive spouse before you signed up for school. Or not.

It's hard though - to still have time to be a parent and spouse - and a full-time student.

I cut my husband some slack when he would get frustrated and he did the same for me.

He was very supportive and encouraging and to this day tells me how proud he is of me.

steph

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I think the character of the person you are married to has more to do with it than nursing school. So, the person would be a supportive spouse before you signed up for school. Or not.

It's hard though - to still have time to be a parent and spouse - and a full-time student.

I cut my husband some slack when he would get frustrated and he did the same for me.

He was very supportive and encouraging and to this day tells me how proud he is of me.

steph

Excellent response. My husband supported me big time. It was difficult to be a parent, spouse, full-time student, and work full time. I kept my eye on the future prize: becoming a nurse, one of the best decisions I have ever made.

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My situation may not be quite what you're looking for...but here it goes :) I'm 20, still a student, and my boyfriend is in another state...but he couldn't be more supportive and our situation really couldn't get any better (unless we happened to live in the same state!) While I don't have kids to raise or a household to run, nursing school still has the potential to really change your life for the good and bad.

Throughout the last year, we've maintained a long distance relationship (seeing each other roughly 5 months out of the year), both gone through job and class changes (and associated changes of schedule)...and our relationship hasn't been strained once. I think it has a lot to do with the dynamic of the relationship. We relate to each other and can empathize with the other's stresses and goals...we're there when we need each other, and understand completely when schedules conflict or if off days occur... There's really something to be said for unconditional love and support.

As to the other part of your question... my boyfriend, while taking classes currently, wasn't extremely successful straight out of high school. He went through some stuff and worked a few dead end jobs...was at one when we first got together. But he understands my schedule and supports me completely. He knows how hard I work and supports my need to do homework on breaks with no hesitation... I couldn't be luckier :)

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I had no spouse or SO when I went through LPN training. It was pretty gravy for me, actually. My parents allowed me to have my old room back, and I had saved enough money to pay for the Program. The Government even paid me $2.80 an hour for attending class.

I made a promise to never complain about paying taxes due to that service. (How big of me.) Because of the Government, I was afforded the ability to go to school and become a Professional.

Now, during the RN Program, I was married to my first wife. I remember a little speech one of my Instructors gave the first day of class. She basically said that we were all going to go through major life changes as a result of going through this program. "Some of you will be divorced by the end of this program", she said. "Oh sure", I thought back at her, sarcastically.

I worked full time, bought and sold a house, moved three times, changed positions, and went through a divorce in the course of the RN program. Yeah- some relatively "major life changes".

I remember a conversation with my Ex and I had during breakfast one morning while I was in my third semester of the RN Program. It went something like this:

She: "I'm lonely."

Me: "How can you be lonely? You're married!"

She: "Sometimes I think that I'm just a convenience to you."

Me: "Yeah. So- what's your point?"

She later informed me that she wanted a divorce. "Can't we wait until I graduate?" I asked. It was so... oh how should I put this? It was soooo... "inconvenient" of her to do that to me! Oh well. Such is life.

So. That's how supportive my SO was with me while I was going through school. Thanks for bringing up a sore subject that I had to recall with dissonance, kristi!

Dave

Disclaimer: Portions of the proceeding may have been confabulated.

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My Hubby realy encouraged me to go to nursing school as he knew we would have a better life with 2 incomes and it was a dream for me to be a nurse. His biggest contribution was encouragement for me to go back to RN school & futher my education in the event if something happen to him I would be able to support myself & not rely on others. We had 3 children during and between nursing school.:)

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Davey - on my 1st day of nursing school, my instructor told us to NOT make any life-changing decisions while in school as the stress of school can skew your decision-making process.

No buying a home or car, no divorce, nada!

steph

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Either my husband or I have been in school for most of our 21 year marriage. I supported him through his master's and PhD, and he was there for me through my MBA and then nursing school. We understood what the other was going through, so the support was always there. The only time he lost his patience was when I took my pharm book to the mall when we went Christmas shopping so I could study when we stood in lines. I guess maybe that was a little too hard core!! :lol2:

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I think too when you view nursing school as stressful you are setting yourself up for failure. My husband would be supportive of me if I wanted to move overseas and be a missionary, if I wanted to rejoin the military or anything else. It's all about the relationship not about the circumstances.

NS was one of the least trying times in my life and I too was a wife, mother and worked full time.

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My fiance was so supportive, and everyday he would tell me how proud he is of me. ah, i love that man :)

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Davey - on my 1st day of nursing school, my instructor told us to NOT make any life-changing decisions while in school as the stress of school can skew your decision-making process.

No buying a home or car, no divorce, nada!

steph

Yeah yeah, steph- I've heard that that all before. Like the time I was advised not to make any major purchases after recieving versed for a colonoscopy. And I STILL don't regret buying the Waterless Towel, that Solar-Powered Flashlight, the Inflatable Dart Board, or the canister of "Country-Time Powered Water". So there!

Dave

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