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hi apples! well my roomate is so supportive and she's older than me and knows him better. she even jokes that i'm dating him already since she has had relationships with doctors in the past! haha.

She had relationships with doctors...ok....what is that mean???Please becareful you definitely do not want to be that nurse the doctors talk about,and not in so nice way..if you will approach him first he will think you are one of those naive little nurses to have a good time with....especially if he is hot and a lot of women like him...please please in good faith let him conquer your love do not surrender easily,keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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thanks beachbutterfly! goes to show that nurses are really hot. haha. i will let you know what happens!:nuke:

Looks are just looks,a woman can look like a barbie doll but her personality may ruin everything...my definiton of hot is a woman who is feminine,pleasant to be around,clean,knows how to take care of the house,strong willed,respects herself, sensitive,with her own hobbies,passions,honest as well as happy about what she got!!!!!!!!That is my definition of true beauty.I noticed that personality is even more important than looks...men like to be around a happy woman and that happiness comes within yourself not from the outside.

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Yeah men look for the total package .Personality is a deal breaker for me when it comes to men if they can't laugh and take a joke forget it !!!! Personality goes with inner beauty and more men look for a women who has a personality to match ''looks" .

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Funny thing ... a guy asked the exact same question in another thread and the advice is to "go for it ...":rolleyes:

True. And I'm one of the folks who said he should do it.

The thing is, in spite of the strides we've made in sexual equality in the workplace and relationships socialized gender roles do still influence the dynamics of power in social and professional relationships. While a male doctor and a female nurse might be able to treat each other as equals at work and in private, SOME male doctors and female nurses will fall into more traditional roles, giving the man "power over" the woman---at work and at home.

Please understand I am not putting down traditional gender roles. They're wonderful if that's how both partners choose to live their lives. But the dynamics of "male having power over the female" and "doctor having power over the nurse" can lead to some rather screwed-up relationships and a lot of heartbreak down the road.

There's also this romanticism over the "handsome male doctor" or the whole "McDreamy" fantasy. A lot of doctors get put on pedestals, especially by young, romantic-minded nurses. Nothing wrong with that but keep in mind---they are people with faults, who make mistakes, who aren't always perfect. In any relationship, if one person idealizes the other to the point of losing sight of who the other person actually is---the relationship will fail and both persons will be hurt. Moreover, there are a lot of male doctors who realize that they're desirable because they're doctors---and they will try to "score" as many women as possible because they can find female nurses who will sleep with them because they're doctors. Sorry to be blunt but that was true 25 years ago, apparently still true today from reading posts like these.

Of course a female nurse can have a wonderful, happy relationship with a male doctor. Just make sure the attraction is based on who you each are as people rather than idealized fantasies of each other based on your respective roles.

The female doctor and the male nurse? While power plays can indeed take place, from my experience, I see that these relationships are often very equal and that the partners have mutual love and respect. They aren't into each other's "roles". I think it's similar with same-sex relationships between gay or lesbian doctors and nurses.

I guess what troubles me a wee bit about this thread is----would the OP have even started it had there been a hot guy who happened to be an RN crushing on her?

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when a guy likes us, they'll let us know, especially if they want a relationship. your story made me think of the movie. . ."he's just not that in to you", and it's just about these women that were reading the signals 'wrong' from the guys when the guys were actually interested in them.

yes, that's right but sometimes there are others who are not so brave and are too shy to come out in the open...reminds me of the movie starring will smith, "hitch".

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john83 was the first person to raise the question of what the surgeon's "other issues" were...

like others here, i'd be interested in knowing what those issues are...

personally, i think the op should stay away from engaging in a relationship with the guy. if the op were to get involved, it could get uncomfortable---seeing him outside the hospital, then at work taking orders from him...hmmm.....i wouldn't do it.

thanks for highlighting that. i haven't visited the forum, because i was very busy in the past.

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john83,

thanks for the message! wow, I'm all smiles now. haha. ^^

you are so right, I promise to not get intimidated once I see him. haha! the thing is, when I talk to him, he takes 1-2 secs. before he replies. hmm.

anyway, issues, his father is an MD as well, he got into med school, but it took a while before he got his license (years). and he used to play ball in high school and college, but stopped. there are rumors that he gets dizzy easily- don't know for sure.

it's nice to get a guys point of view for a change. (",)

"Gentleman-Lady encounters could really get so stressful but yet inspiring; these are the things that make us human.":nurse: ----> sooo beautiful, love it! ^^

neonatal_nurse,

You're welcome! Sorry for my delay in replying to your message. I was very busy in the past. Thanks for the compliment and providing more info on the matter.

1-2 sec delay means he is very careful in expressing his thoughts/responses. Responses can influence your views on a person and it can reveal what kind of personality a person has.

I see, hmmm, I smell a tradition of MDs but don't let it discourage you. As long as your work is noble and as long as you hold on to your morals, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Oh, that's a good area for you to explore on(dizziness). As a nurse, I think your concern for him will somehow create "sparks".

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