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Per TOS we cannot offer medical advice. He is not a closet snorer. He has a medical condition and is refusing to use the medically prescribed treatment.

I have sleep apnea. I hate strapping on that mask every night. I do it because I know I might not wake up in the morning if I don't.

My advice? Get a good life insurance policy on him, he is in denial,and will not change.

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he is in denial,and will not change.

This I know (perhaps I have a bit of denial too?) but I guess I hope something will create change. This truly sucks.

From what I'm reading here denial seems to be mass rampant with a certain population of snorer's. I'm not sure how that can even be for him - he has woken himself more than once on a really good honk/tweet/snore (looking rather surprised) that had enough suction action going on to suck in a bowling ball.

He's an OT, and spends all day working with various patient populations reteaching various life skills. He couldn't possibly want to join his patients? I fear this is the direction Mr. Stubborn is heading.

His mother has mild to moderate dementia that is worsening as time passes. I know for fact she snores too.

I thank everyone for their input and for sharing their own stories. That is very giving of you all. Much obliged.

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My husband snores too & shakes his legs while he sleeps. Talk about a horrible combination! I believe his snoring has more to do with my husband being horribly overweight (6' & 400lb+) than anything else.

He has such an addictive personality that I can't get him to quit eating junk. First he was addicted to drugs, then cigarettes & now food. Maybe one day I can get him addicted to healthy food & exercise.

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My husband snores too & shakes his legs while he sleeps. Talk about a horrible combination!

I hear ya - my husband broke his leg on a pony at 2 y.o., this was the reason he said he rocks that leg back and forth while falling to sleep. I married him when I was 17 and now I'm 50 … as of 15 months ago when I moved into another bedroom he still did it, and likely still does. Every comforter we own is all pilly from that back and forth motion on his side of the bed.

I find it funny the cats moved with me into my room when I got the heck out of Dodge in favor of some sleep. Apparently the noise kept them awake too.

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My husband snores like crazy as well. His pulm. doc told him that he needs to get his tonsils removed and, if he did, he could probably stop wearing the CPAP. This was 6 years ago... He stopped wearing his CPAP for almost a year, which meant one of us sleeping on the couch and him feeling exhausted all day, everyday. He finally went to "The Sleep Store" at our local mall, he was able to try out different CPAP masks and decided what he liked. Previously, the doc had recommended nasal pillows with a chin strap, this time he picked out a full mask and seriously, he has not slept without it, not even once, since getting a mask that he likes. The first week of wearing it, he commented on how much more awake he felt and he stopped needing excessive amounts of coffee during his night shifts.

Maybe you have a similar store close by that you could convince him to check out? Amazon also has a decent selection of masks.

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My husband snores like crazy as well. His pulm. doc told him that he needs to get his tonsils removed and, if he did, he could probably stop wearing the CPAP. This was 6 years ago... He stopped wearing his CPAP for almost a year, which meant one of us sleeping on the couch and him feeling exhausted all day, everyday. He finally went to "The Sleep Store" at our local mall, he was able to try out different CPAP masks and decided what he liked. Previously, the doc had recommended nasal pillows with a chin strap, this time he picked out a full mask and seriously, he has not slept without it, not even once, since getting a mask that he likes. The first week of wearing it, he commented on how much more awake he felt and he stopped needing excessive amounts of coffee during his night shifts.

Maybe you have a similar store close by that you could convince him to check out? Amazon also has a decent selection of masks.

That's a great idea. I'll check it out.

First I need to convince him he needs it - I thinking putting his CPOX on his finger and filming him with my cellphone is a good place to start. I enlisted the help of my son as my accomplice who is on board.

I'll keep you all posted.

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My husband snores like crazy as well. His pulm. doc told him that he needs to get his tonsils removed and, if he did, he could probably stop wearing the CPAP. This was 6 years ago... He stopped wearing his CPAP for almost a year, which meant one of us sleeping on the couch and him feeling exhausted all day, everyday. He finally went to "The Sleep Store" at our local mall, he was able to try out different CPAP masks and decided what he liked. Previously, the doc had recommended nasal pillows with a chin strap, this time he picked out a full mask and seriously, he has not slept without it, not even once, since getting a mask that he likes. The first week of wearing it, he commented on how much more awake he felt and he stopped needing excessive amounts of coffee during his night shifts.

Maybe you have a similar store close by that you could convince him to check out? Amazon also has a decent selection of masks.

Yes, I should have brought up the issue of masks, too. The right mask can make all the difference. CPAP.com has masks, too. And the last time I checked, they had "mask insurance." So if you bought the mask and it didn't fit or wasn't comfortable, you could return it and try another one.

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This I know (perhaps I have a bit of denial too?) but I guess I hope something will create change. This truly sucks.

From what I'm reading here denial seems to be mass rampant with a certain population of snorer's. I'm not sure how that can even be for him - he has woken himself more than once on a really good honk/tweet/snore (looking rather surprised) that had enough suction action going on to suck in a bowling ball.

He's an OT, and spends all day working with various patient populations reteaching various life skills. He couldn't possibly want to join his patients? I fear this is the direction Mr. Stubborn is heading.

His mother has mild to moderate dementia that is worsening as time passes. I know for fact she snores too.

I thank everyone for their input and for sharing their own stories. That is very giving of you all. Much obliged.

Denial is not associated with knowledge . . . even nurses who worked with a physician who was researching the effects of sleep apnea on the heart (DH and I) can be in denial about sleep apnea. I accepted my cancer diagnosis (all three of them) every so much more easily than the OSA diagnosis. People do not want to strap a mask on their faces every night to go to sleep, and they'll deny they need it with their last breath. No one wants to appear ridiculous to their partner, and what is more ridiculous than strapping a mask to your face, turning on a blower and THEN settling for sleep? And you feel like such a failure if you cannot do something as simple as SLEEP without machinery!

I sympathize with your situation. If there's ANY chance that you might have OSA, try the "I'll do it if you will" approach. And you'd be doing both of you a favor.

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Yes, I should have brought up the issue of masks, too. The right mask can make all the difference. CPAP.com has masks, too. And the last time I checked, they had "mask insurance." So if you bought the mask and it didn't fit or wasn't comfortable, you could return it and try another one.

Really? That's some cool information to have in my arsenal when I go on the frontal attack of the Battle of the Snoring. He has terrible buyer's remorse (the last time we bought a couch, love seat and recliners I believe he looked in every store in town. Researched everything for best price, quality, etc … then felt he made the wrong choice and perseverated on it for weeks). That store won't know what hit them when he goes looking for a mask! LOLOLOL … this should be entertaining! :)

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Denial is not associated with knowledge . . . even nurses who worked with a physician who was researching the effects of sleep apnea on the heart (DH and I) can be in denial about sleep apnea. I accepted my cancer diagnosis (all three of them) every so much more easily than the OSA diagnosis. People do not want to strap a mask on their faces every night to go to sleep, and they'll deny they need it with their last breath. No one wants to appear ridiculous to their partner, and what is more ridiculous than strapping a mask to your face, turning on a blower and THEN settling for sleep? And you feel like such a failure if you cannot do something as simple as SLEEP without machinery!

I sympathize with your situation. If there's ANY chance that you might have OSA, try the "I'll do it if you will" approach. And you'd be doing both of you a favor.

I'm fairly sure I don't have OSA, but why not? There is worse things than spending the night doing a sleep study (like listening to the rumbling buzz from across the hall - it sounds like a bear in hibernation, or a nest of dragons).

I know I talk in my sleep, a lot. He's complained about it, and I've woken up talking or giggling on occasion too. Yeah, that must be pretty annoying, but it's not all night long. Not that I will ever admit that to him. :angrybird9:

I really appreciate everyone's suggestions. Thank you - again, I will keep anyone who is interested posted on the out come.

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I'm fairly sure I don't have OSA, but why not? There is worse things than spending the night doing a sleep study (like listening to the rumbling buzz from across the hall - it sounds like a bear in hibernation, or a nest of dragons).

I know I talk in my sleep, a lot. He's complained about it, and I've woken up talking or giggling on occasion too. Yeah, that must be pretty annoying, but it's not all night long. Not that I will ever admit that to him. :angrybird9:

I really appreciate everyone's suggestions. Thank you - again, I will keep anyone who is interested posted on the out come.

Please keep me posted!

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My aunt was a snorer with sleep apnea. She refused to wear a mask because it was uncomfortable and "no big deal." Three weeks ago she and my uncle went to sleep and only my uncle woke up.. next to her body. She stopped breathing during the night and did not restart.

Get a good insurance policy on your spouse, especially if you have children to raise.

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