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Me and my girlfriend currently just had a new born we stay with her grand parents. And its kind of hard staying with somebody else we both are attending school for nursing pre students. We want to get out own places what can we do..they have to help us pay bills and everything! Its sad:( what do we do??? Please help encourage us.

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Go to school part-time, work full-time, save up and get an apartment or other affordable place to live. Many people have been in your situation and have made it work.

However, if you cannot afford an apartment, you can still work while finishing pre-reqs so that you can pay your own bills and take that responsibility off of her grandparents.

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Go to school part-time' date=' work full-time, save up and get an apartment or other affordable place to live. Many people have been in your situation and have made it work.[/quote']

How want I make it harder on us.I'm 19 how will I be able to do that?? How much would I need to make?? Who would watch our baby?

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How want I make it harder on us.I'm 19 how will I be able to do that?? How much would I need to make?? Who would watch our baby?

First...you need to determine your own expenses what is the amount of money you need to live on. Determine a budget, there are many websites you can find via google that will help you make a family budget--food, baby care, toiletries, rent, insurance, transportation, utilities, medical, and other expenses including school tuition, fees & supplies. Maybe only one of you go to school while the other works full time. You will need to include child care in your budget, contact local day care centers to determine cost and if there is any assistance. Some schools have on campus day care centers that are more affordable for full time students.

Like everything else, you need to do your research. Take a job--whether as a hospital transporter, cafeteria worker or find a nursing home/long term care that will train you as a CNA in exchange for a job. I gave you links on your other threads as to how to become a CNA in NC. If you need to contact social services to see if they can recommend affordable options for housing.

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Well we both want to do school and we are there's got to be a way I can get us a place. We don't like it here.We barely have alone time.We are going ti become nurse!We will makenit I just want to hear motivational stories and just what more can I do?? Should we just stick it out?

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Its not sad. Im sure the grandparents love the baby and want to see you two succeed. If you two are prenursing students right now, how would you guys be able to afford an apartment once you are attending the nursing program full time? It would be difficult financially. Are you two married? If not your financial aid refund checks should be substantial enough to help your grandparents out with some utilities. Tax time is also coming. Put that money away for future use. Good luck

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I would suggest staying where you are. If you already need help paying bills, adding rent to that won't help. I you decide to get a job while in school, make sure it doesn't interfere with your grades and focus on saving money for yourself and your child. I understand the frustration of staying at home when you feel like an adult, but it is best to wait until you have a reliable income that will meet your financial needs before moving out.

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Its not sad. Im sure the grandparents love the baby and want to see you two succeed. If you two are prenursing students right now' date=' how would you guys be able to afford an apartment once you are attending the nursing program full time? It would be difficult financially. Are you two married? If not your financial aid refund checks should be substantial enough to help your grandparents out with some utilities. Tax time is also coming. Put that money away for future use. Good luck[/quote']

No but we soon want to get married;)

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I really didn't want to comment on this because I didn't want to bump it but I want to give you some advice.

If you have the amazing blessing of being able to live with people who not only love you, but your child, in a time where you are obviously still a child yourself why would you want to move out? I'm assuming that you've never lived on your own before, due to your age, but let me tell you as someone who tried to make the jump of moving out too quickly. I moved out of my home at 17 to get my own place and was in SHOCK of how expensive living was. I honestly couldn't imagine doing it with a baby, while not working. It's foolish to think that anyone anywhere could get by with 2 people going to school fulltime and working full time with a new baby. Diapers, childcare, health insurance, formula, plus your tuition, your rent, your utilities, your food, your transportation. It doesn't add up.

Obviously I don't know you or your girlfriend. But don't get married for the tax refund... that is the worst advice I've ever read on a forum, ever. Marriage is no joke and at 19, even though you have a child together, neither of you are now who you one day will be and I never would suggest anyone get married that young.

Stay with the grandparents, go to school, make something of yourself, if you and your girlfriend make it through school and still love each other, then get a place and get married and save for your childs college education.

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Hang in there and stick it out! You both will be nurses someday, and when that happens take your first pay checks and look for a new place to live. Thank goodness you have a place to live for right now and have the support of your family. This too shall pass! Thank god for grandparents!!!! You are blessed! Keep focused on the positive, finish your schooling, and don't forget to hug your family and tell them thanks! Sounds like they really care about your future!!!!

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Well we both want to do school and we are there's got to be a way I can get us a place. We don't like it here.We barely have alone time.We are going ti become nurse!We will makenit I just want to hear motivational stories and just what more can I do?? Should we just stick it out?

Oh, ya... stick it out! Don't bypass this blessing that is right in front of you!

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