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Great letter by a Mom

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This is great. I just printed it out for both my son and daughter. Maybe it will just end up in the trash, but if they even read a little of it it will be worthwhile.

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My son is 9 so probably a little early for this, but I may print it and save it for when he's of age. We're going to have the sex talk soon because if I don't talk to him someone else will.

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I wish more parents would have "the talk" with their kids instead of sidestepping the issue or just telling them not to with no discussion.

My mom was great in that regard. The first talk centered around my question when I was three. A friend of my mom's was very pregnant and I wanted to know how the baby got in there. Didn't help that I asked in the middle of the A&P in a loud piercing little kid voice.

I remember a discussion in the middle of a sleepover I had when we were ten or so. We compared what we knew and there was quite a lot of misinformation on the table. Unfortunately, my mom was one of the few who had been forthright and honest. A couple of the girls didn't believe what a couple of the girls and I were saying so I called my mom and she had "the talk" with the entire group. Bold move, but no parent objected.

It's difficult to cover everything in a couple of talks as I found out one day when my nine year old Goddaughter visited when we were unpacking from our move to this house. Her mom is my cousin and I knew what she'd been told so far -- almost. We were in the kitchen unpacking, cleaning, etc. We were also trying to locate the source of the smell that was also almost making us gag. All I could think of was a critter inside a wall that had died and was decomposing, or maybe little rodent had met the same fate. We looked and looked but found nothing.

She was putting down shelf liner and asked me what "this gross old thing" was. She'd found it while she wiped the shelves down first.

"It" was most definitely our smell. I looked at it closely and realized it was a very old used condom. She, of course, wanted to know what it was. What to say? I was able to handle that question and the ones that followed, but why was it there? I still have no answer

for that one.

It's vitally important to answer the questions kids ask honestly and I wish more people would answer them as they arise, but talks at various stages of a child's life are also necessary. I learned quickly that asking my dad didn't get me much information on people but lots of new facts about the reproductive lives and birthing information about cows, sheep, goats, and chickens. He wasn't trying to stonewall but once a farm boy, always a farm boy, I guess.

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