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Got my ass handed to me yesterday.

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Yeah. She dropped the bomb. Wife told me she filed for divorce. Isnt interested in "working it out".

Says I am "distant" and "can estrange someone standing in the room with me". I know I can be a grouch a lot of times, and I am definitely an island on my off days. But I dont think I am divorce material.

IDK what to say really, other than a part of me wonders if other male nurses are having trouble with this sort of thing. Do you find yourself being antisocial to a point when not working because work may have burned you out a bit?

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Sorry to hear it Erik. Best wishes for an amicable resolution for you.

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Sorry to hear it Erik. Best wishes for an amicable resolution for you.

She's being very fair about how to go about it. I can say that much. I'm not going to be a brat about it and make it difficult when there is no gain in it for either of us. That wont solve anything.

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Sorry to hear this, pal.

Keep us updated in how we can support you.

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Wow, sweetie. I know you posted this in the male nursing forum for male POVs, but as a friend I have to tell you that she was c-o-l-d. She already filed?! Without so much as a word?! I think I smell a boyfriend lurking in the shadows.

(((((eriksoln)))))

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sorry to hear......is she serious about not working it out, or was this said in self protection?.....either way....if you question your own behavior which you seem to be.....counseling for yourself would be good and give you a "real" person to vent to.......

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I'm so sorry this has happened. Please let us know what we can do. I can only imagine your pain and what you're going through. Sending my best wishes to you.

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Wow, sweetie. I know you posted this in the male nursing forum for male POVs, but as a friend I have to tell you that she was c-o-l-d. She already filed?! Without so much as a word?! I think I smell a boyfriend lurking in the shadows.

(((((eriksoln)))))

Would you believe her parents suspected I had someone else. They had me followed. For awhile now from what I understand. From what they've told me, he called them one night and just said "To be honest, you are wasting your money. I can keep doing this all year if you want, but there is nothing going on here."

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Wow, sweetie. I know you posted this in the male nursing forum for male POVs, but as a friend I have to tell you that she was c-o-l-d. She already filed?! Without so much as a word?! I think I smell a boyfriend lurking in the shadows.

(((((eriksoln)))))

It's funny how you say that yet he said that she is being fair in the process of this divorce. I wouldn't assume anything about someone you don't know. I guess in your assumption the only way people divorce is cause their adulterous???

A fair divorce is not usually how divorce is. Usually its harsh and consists of fights. If they go through their divorce with respect for one another and being equal and fair, that's better than most of the divorces out there currently.

Erik:

Sorry to say but when one wants a divorce, that's basically it. You can try to work things out but it'll end in divorce why prolong the wound. If she wants it and you are willing, why fight it, she'll hate you even more especially since you said she is being fair right now.

Sorry to hear about this but a fair divorce is better than a nasty long drawn out fight. You will get better and the feeling of distrust will go away, since right now I KNOW you are hurt (I am a divorcee so I know what your going through). Then you'll come to a point in your life where your like ex-wife who? Just be as amicable as you can right now and hope this divorce is a short equal non fighting one. I had one that was 2 1/2 years long and thats WITHOUT kids. If I could of settled for a fast speedy one I would have LOL.

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When I saw the title to this post I assumed I was going to read a thread about another male nurse losing their job (seems it's trendy down here) Anyway, sorry for your pain bro. Gotta go with what some of the others have said. She's prolly got/had a new man; and she had you followed?, she was looking for something on you and just couldn't find it. Sounds like pretty typical behavior for a cheating spouse. 'sides, I always heard the guilty dog barks the loudest.

Peace

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"I always heard the guilty dog barks the loudest"

Not always true. Two people enter a Jail being booked on charges of Murder. They both are booked and are assigned to their home away from home (cells). An hour or two goes by and the Detention Officer walks by to make rounds. 1st murder suspect is pacing back and forth in his cell and tells the guard he is innocent, the 2nd suspect is sound alseep in his cell. Who is Guilty of Murder?

The suspect who is sound alseep ! Why? Because he knows he's been caught.

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Just so no one takes my lack of responding as............meaning anything, I should be clear about one thing:

I am very sure cheating did not occur by either party. Very sure.

If she did, eh, then shame on her. I didnt, so I can hang my hat on that. But, no, I am very sure she did not.

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