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I just got off of the phone with a friend of who is convinced that she has found the perfect man for me. She believes that we would be so good together and blah, blah, blah. I told her that while I appreciate her trying to set me up with someone, I am just not ready. I told her that if we had had this conversation a few months ago, I would have jumped at the chance. She was befuddled that I am all right with being single.

I did think about how nice it would be to be with someone but then I thought about how I may lose my freedom. That speaks volumes to me if I am not willing to compromise my freedom. I am alone but I am not lonely. I am at peace with myself.

Why fix it if it ain't broke?

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Is it possible to date someone while maintaining freedom? You don't have to marry the guy and surrender your life over to him. There's a balance there perhaps you need to learn?? Just sayin'

The last guy I dated was loner just like me but there wasn't that zing there to continue to pursue a relationship. My ex that I spent ten years with was an only child and kind of a loner too. I didn't sacrifice "my freedom" to be with him.

On the other hand, I totally understand that this is the time for you to find comfort in yourself and enjoy freedom. When my 10 year relationship ended I put a self-imposed ban on dating anyone for a while. Of course I didn't mean for it to last four years. LOL

I also understand the feeling that when you say "I'm perfectly happy being single"....people look at you like you're saying "I'm perfectly happy with two heads".

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Is it possible to date someone while maintaining freedom? You don't have to marry the guy and surrender your life over to him. There's a balance there perhaps you need to learn?? Just sayin'

The last guy I dated was loner just like me but there wasn't that zing there to continue to pursue a relationship. My ex that I spent ten years with was an only child and kind of a loner too. I didn't sacrifice "my freedom" to be with him.

On the other hand, I totally understand that this is the time for you to find comfort in yourself and enjoy freedom. When my 10 year relationship ended I put a self-imposed ban on dating anyone for a while. Of course I didn't mean for it to last four years. LOL

I also understand the feeling that when you say "I'm perfectly happy being single"....people look at you like you're saying "I'm perfectly happy with two heads".

You know, Tweety, I can come up with a few good reasons on why I want to stay single but the sad truth is this: I am scared of getting hurt again. There I said it. I don't want to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. The last relationship hasn't made me bitter. It has made me cautious and I have banned from heart from running loose out into the traffic...LOL

I told Hill that I intend to be single for at least a year. His response, ":lol2:." It would take pure magic for me to break this self-imposed ban.

Thanks for your post, Tweety :redpinkhe

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All that makes sense and I understand. I've only had two relationships but at the end I was so hurt and numb I didn't think about dating for a long time afterward.

The easy way would be to jump right into dating again denying feelings. The other easy thing to do is for that bitterness to last, building up a wall around your heart. Feeling feelings, opening yourself up, risking and being vulnerable isn't easy.

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All that makes sense and I understand. I've only had two relationships but at the end I was so hurt and numb I didn't think about dating for a long time afterward.

The easy way would be to jump right into dating again denying feelings. The other easy thing to do is for that bitterness to last, building up a wall around your heart. Feeling feelings, opening yourself up, risking and being vulnerable isn't easy.

That is the one thing that I want to avoid becoming is bitter.

My plan is to take baby steps instead of my usual MO of full-force.

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i will break my self-imposed ban....only if some guy sings this song to me :redbeathe :redpinkhe :redbeathe a woman has to have standards.

joe - i wanna know - youtube

it's amazing how you knock me off my feet

every time you come around me i get weak, oh yeah

nobody ever made me feel this way, oh

you kiss my lips and then you take my breath away

so i wanna know

i wanna know what turns you on

(yea, i'd like to know)

so i can be all that and more

(i'd like to know, yea)

i'd like to know what makes you cry

(so)

so i can be the one who always make you smile

girl he never understood what you were worth, no

and he never took the time to make it work, no

(you deserve more loving, girl)

baby i'm the kind of man who shows concern, yes i do

anyway that i can please you, let me learn

so i wanna know

i wanna know what turns you on

(i'd wanna know)

so i can be all that and more

(i'd like to know)

i'd like to know what makes you cry

(so)

so i can be the one who always makes you smile

(make you smile, baby)

tell me what i gotta do to please you

baby anything you say i'll do

'cause i only wanna make you happy

from the bottom of my heart, it's true

tell me what i gotta do to please you

baby anything you say i'll do

'cause i only wanna make you happy

from the bottom of my heart, it's true

i wish that i could take a journey through your mind, alright

and find emotions that you always try to hide babe, oh

i do believe that there's a love you wanna share, oh oh

i'll take good care of you lady, have no fear, oh

so i wanna know

i wanna know what turns you on

(i wanna know)

so i can be all that and more

(and i'd like to know)

i'd like to know what makes you cry

(oh yea)

so i can be the one who always makes you smile

oh tell me, tell me

tell me what i gotta do to please you

baby anything you say i'll do

'cause i only wanna make you happy

from the bottom of my heart, it's true

tell me what i gotta do to please you

baby anything you say i'll do

'cause i only wanna make you happy

from the bottom of my heart, it's true

yeah yeah yeah yeah

i wanna know what turns you on

(i'd like to know, i'd like to know, yea)

so i can be all that and more

(i wanna know)

i'd like to know what makes you cry

(so)

so i can be the one who always makes you smile

(i'd like to know, i wanna know)

i wanna know what turns you on

(tell me girl)

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My friend called me and told me that I broke the guy's heart because I didn't even want to give him a chance. :grn:She really knows how to lay the guilt on.

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I just got off of the phone with a friend of who is convinced that she has found the perfect man for me. She believes that we would be so good together and blah, blah, blah. I told her that while I appreciate her trying to set me up with someone, I am just not ready. I told her that if we had had this conversation a few months ago, I would have jumped at the chance. She was befuddled that I am all right with being single.

I did think about how nice it would be to be with someone but then I thought about how I may lose my freedom. That speaks volumes to me if I am not willing to compromise my freedom. I am alone but I am not lonely. I am at peace with myself.

Why fix it if it ain't broke?

if you had to pick somebody famous that you look like who would it be? I'm just trying to picture the person that is scared of being hurt again. For some reason, I picture you as looking like Eva Menedez or that chick from Good Will Hunting. Am I close???

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I'm single and I rather like sleeping in a fart-free bed.:yeah:

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i'm single and i rather like sleeping in a fart-free bed.:yeah:

then i guess you won't be adopting a shar pei any time soon?!:d:lol2::uhoh3::rolleyes:

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Why fix it if it ain't broke?

Because comfort gives way to complacency which gives way to boredom which gives way to complaining and then what would you do? You would try and fix that uncomfortable feeling of being bored. Then, you would get into a relationship, have problems, then try to fix those problems.

The shortest path betweem two points is a straight line, so why go the long way around the tree and instead just do like what the rest of us Neurotics do and fix that which is not broken?

It works for me.

Good luck on remaining comfortable with being alone until you die. As Orson Welles said, "We are born alone and we die alone". He also said, "We will sell no wine before you pay for it". Pretty profound guy, that Orson was.

(Disclaimer: The above post was meant fot entertainment purposes only. Actually, Davey Do is quite happy that Poi Dog is revelling in her new found freedom. Davey Do could say, "We espeak the esame language". or, "You go girl!". )

Davey (Neurosis Infinite) Do

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purposesonly isn't a word

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if you had to pick somebody famous that you look like who would it be? I'm just trying to picture the person that is scared of being hurt again. For some reason, I picture you as looking like Eva Menedez or that chick from Good Will Hunting. Am I close???

Well I've been told that I look like a Latina and I do have long, black hair :smokin:

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