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Hello everyone,

I hope everyone is doing well. I am so happy to have this forum available.

I do not believe in dreams but I can't help but think about these recurring dreams I have of a friend I once had. I miss this friend a lot and we parted ways many years ago because of a difference in opinions, we were both at a growing stage of our lives.

This individual continues to appear in my dreams, at least once a month. She was like a sister to me, there are days when I wish we were still connected but I feel too much time has passed, and the trust is gone. Plus our lives have changed where we fit. I called her a few years back and she acted like she never missed me, promised to call me back but never did.

When we parted ways there was a time when she called me daily for months but I was too hurt to answer the phone or return her calls.

What are your thoughts?

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If you can mend the fence then do so. Both of you have to want to have this friendship.

Talk about why you drifted apart, both of you say sorry, and MOVE ON. If you both feel the friendship is worth saving then, You have to start over with trust.

Ask her out for lunch, mani/ pedi anything you two can do together. If she always has a excuse or doesn't call you back, then you need to reconsider if you want her in your life.

Best wishes to you. I hope I works out for the bet

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The best you can do is offer your hand at rebuilding the friendship.

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Sounds to me as if she wanted to salvage the friendship but you weren't ready, and she's now "swept it under the carpet". If you still live in the same area I'd suggest you call her and ask her out to coffee or lunch. If she brushes you off, she's probably moved on, and had decided not to look back. If not, go for that lunch/coffee date and take it from there.

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Trist-

You've already recieved some good advice from the Others on mending the relationship. The best I could do, in that area, is repeat in my own words things they've already said.

However, I would like to comment on the dream portion of your post:

One School of Belief says that the People we see in our dreams are merely manifestations of portions of our own personality. These People we see in dreams are there because our subconscious is attempting to communicate something to our conscious about ourselves.

I tend to ask myself, "Okay, what is my subconscious trying to tell me? What does this Person represent to me? Do I need to do some self-examination due to my recent behavior, or is my subconscious telling me that I'm okay, since this Person is okay?"

Just something else to consider. Good luck in your endeavor.

Dave

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If you really expect him, you should cooperate with him. Otherwise you should avoid him.

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Hello everyone,

thank-you for all your great advise.

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This happened to me twice with a good friend. The first falling out was her doing and we didn't speak for a good year. One day I came home to a card at my front door. It was from my friend and she expressed how sorry she was, left her phone number (I actually deleted it long ago), and then left the ball in my court. I called her right away and we clicked instantly. A few years later we mixed with bad company and drifted apart. She had moved away to San Francisco. One day I was watching a show and one of the characters really reminded me of her so I picked up the phone and sent her a text. She quickly replied and I ended up booking a flight to San Francisco to spend a couple of days with her. She has since moved to another location and we're still close. If this person keeps coming up in your dreams, it is definitely worth looking into.

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