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Dating Younger Men

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Anyone ever dated a significantly younger man? If not, what do you think when you see a woman with a younger man?

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That she's a lucky duck! LOL

I married a younger man ..... I'm 5 months older than him! And ... it shows! LOL

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I think, what happens to their relationship when she ages faster than he does? Will he still love her with sags and bags and health problems?

I know - skeptical.

We have friends who divorced - they are just a bit younger than we are and have two sons our oldest sons ages. The husband married a girl a bit younger than his oldest son - I think she was 22 when they married. He looks like her Dad. It makes their sons kinda sick. They went to school with this girl. She has a toddler too.

I dunno . . . . I think you have to be very careful and thoughtful about making this kind of decision.

steph

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A friend of mine just married someone who is 26 and she is 39. They are definitely in love and I think it would be easy to fall for my friend. She's so warm and open and positive and happy! I don't think they will have age related issues.

I married someone six years my junior. The difference is not all that big, but we are having an issue. We waited to have another baby and now I am have fertility issues. He really wants a second kiddo. I'm 39, and he is 33. It's more of an issue of poor planning than age though.

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I am currently dating someone 8 years younger than me. I'm 38 and he is 30 but he is a wonderful person. He keeps me going and we really have a good time together.

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I'm wondering what Pierrette's definition of "significant" is . . . I don't think 30 and 38 is a significant difference.

What's your definition Pierrette and WHY are you asking? :clown:

steph

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I don't think it's a matter of age as it is a matter of the individual. Someone who'd leave me at 50 for someone half my age would do it whether he's younger than, older than, or the same age as me.

It doesn't bother me. As TJ says, "It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg." Not for me to decide. My only criteria for being ok with my loved ones' choice of partner: 1) Do they treat each other right? and 2) Do they make each other happy? If the answers are yes, I lay off.

Full disclosure - my stepfather is 42 years older than my mom. I don't know any differently, they've been together since I was my preschooler's age. And I would not trade my Dad for anyone!

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There are other considerations - I have a good friend from high school, divorced with 3 kids. He met and married a woman 10 years his junior when he was 40. She wanted kids. He got a reversal of his vasectomy for her. They've tried for 12 years and no luck. Now she is 42.

I think they have a solid marriage . ... but I'm not completely sure because her heart was set on kids.

steph

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The reason I'm asking is because this young guy keeps asking me out. He's probably early 30's. Twenty years difference is a lot, but he is cute.

I feel kinda funny about it, though. I don't ever see older women and younger men together. I don't know how I feel about it.

Of course I'm not talking about marriage, I'm just referring to a date.

Thanks for all the comments.

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My wife is 22 years older than me. We've been together 12 years, this month we will have our 8th wedding anniversary.

You are both adults, I say go for it. But then again, I haven't gone on a date for over a decade, so I'm the last guy to be giving dating advice.

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The reason I'm asking is because this young guy keeps asking me out. He's probably early 30's. Twenty years difference is a lot, but he is cute.

I feel kinda funny about it, though. I don't ever see older women and younger men together. I don't know how I feel about it.

Of course I'm not talking about marriage, I'm just referring to a date.

Thanks for all the comments.

Pierrette! You cougar, you! :clown:

I think what's good for the goose should be good for the gander. I used to be married to a man 16 1/2 years my senior. Not anymore, but that's beside the point.

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To hell with it and go on the date. I mean, it's just a date - you might hit it off and you might not but you'll never know if you don't go. Don't worry about what people are thinking.

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