What are dealbreakers for you? - page 3

-I won't date someone who doesn't workout. From my experience, someone who doesn't workout doesn't 'get' why I am pulled to the gym 5x a week. Argues with me about me workouts (yea, I respect that... Read More

  1. by   duskyjewel
    momma's boy
  2. by   HM-8404
    Quote from duskyjewel
    momma's boy
    Daddy's girl.

    Trust me, no woman is as great and perfect as her daddy tells her.
  3. by   nursel56
    Quote from HM-8404
    . . . .I also have a 17 yr old son, with a different woman. I have had full custody of him since he was 2 and I have never received a penny of the court ordereod child support. Talk about a DEADBEAT!! She cries to the judge that she just can't afford to pay me and the judges keep letting it slide. I am quite sure if it was reversed and it was me that could not pay I would already have been thrown in jail.
    I'm sure she didn't mean that there aren't any vindictive POS mothers who hurt their children for their own needs. Guys in your situation normally display some anger, when you get sort of a vague answer that sounds somewhat indifferent, it's just a red flag. Might not mean anything.

    Anyway, bless you for raising your child as a single dad. I didn't get regular child support either, but I still took the kids to see their dad every summer and Christmas. I grew up in a custody mess and swore I would never do that to my own children. It's amazing how quickly 18 years pass by, really.
  4. by   sharpeimom
    infidelity
    lying
    lack of ethics
    lack of empathy
    doesn't treat his family well
    illegal drug use

    Like Goonie, I've been off the market quite awhile, and our issues tend to center around the occasional "You left
    the cap off the toothpaste again!" or "Why did you put the cracker box back when there was just ONE miserable cracker left?"

    Guess I'm gettin' old.
    Last edit by sharpeimom on Oct 14, '12 : Reason: omitted a word
  5. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from duskyjewel
    momma's boy
    i'm curious as to how you define "momma's boy".

    it's funny, in that when i first started dating ed, i used to affectionately call him a momma's boy.
    many of our dates revolved around going to his mum's house and swimming in their pool.
    he would call her several times a day.
    she would call him when we were out on dates.
    their relationship was incredibly close.
    yet, he adored his mum...cherished her, honored her, respected her.
    eddie treated her like the queen she truly was.

    i married a momma's boy.
    25 yrs later, it is the best choice i ever made.

    leslie
  6. by   sharpeimom
    lack of compassion
    wants to do all the talking and never listen
    thinks anything house-related is "woman's work"
    doesn't think men need to know how to cook or do laundry
    thinks child care is "woman's work"
    won't apologize when he's wrong
    won't say "I love you" except during sex
    disappears when you get sick yet expects you to drop everything when he sneezes to cater to his every whim
  7. by   jmiraRN
    Pot heads! ((they always find me haha))

    Cigarettes

    Bald, or receding hairlines (i'm 25)

    A lot of female "friends". I aint buying it

    Texting me pics of their you know what!! (that is NOT a message I wanna wake up to) LOL

    Insisting I have more than 1 drink in hopes that my standards (and clothes) will drop

    There's tons more but making this list made me realize how happy I am to not be single. At 25 the dating scene is brutal and grotesque
  8. by   sharpeimom
    I wasn't very much older than the above poster when I met my husband and I never would have fallen in love with a pretty neat guy.
    He's about as bald as Dr. Phil is, but I looked beyond. He swears he's been that bald since he was abut six!
  9. by   coughdrop.2.go
    The OP pretty must lists most of my no-no's. I shared my "list" with my co-worker, who is married and about 10 years older than me. She called me "picky"

    -No clingy guys. I cancelled a date with a 25 year old guy because from his CONSTANT text messages I determined that I have no interest in dating a clingy 15 year old girl. I need space. I don't need is a guy telling me over and over "I miss you" and "I'm thinking about you" before I have a real date.

    -Can't be younger than me. You have to be born at least the day before me. I literally have a date and time limit.

    -Can't be shorter than me. I'm 5'3". Enough said.

    -No kids. I know this may seem really rude, however I just turned 24 and I can't even imagine having kids right now in my life. Dating a guy with kids is really intense and I'm not ready for that type of emotional investment. There's no such thing as "just dating the dad". You date the whole family. I love kids. Especially babies. I just don't want any right now. Power to all the single dads out there

    -Hates cats. I will question the validity of your soul.

    -Describes current career as "Get Money" or something extremely vague where it's obvious you're jobless and broke most of the time. Not to hate on those guys out there looking for a job (I was unemployed for 8 months), but I need you to be actively doing something with your life. I make a lot of money right now and I'm not looking to be with (another guy) where I spent all my money on him or he can't spend anything on me. I'm not materialistic, but if you can't manage to get me a balloon from the dollar tree I can't afford to give you gas money to see me. Note: If you're broke because you're in school/work and you make enough to get by that's understandable. If you're broke because you sit your behind at home all day and have a billion pairs of sneakers then NO.

    -Jealous. Ewwwww. Or guys that won't "allow" you to have other guy friends. I'm not a jealous girl and if I don't trust you I won't be with you.

    -Guys who lie to "make me happy". I'm not saying you have to be a jerk, but be honest. If I ask do I look fat in that dress I'm not going to flip out if you say yes. I'm also more than willing to let you know if the tux is too tight or outdated. If you want to go to the club with your friends go ahead! Just don't lie and say you're going to watch the game or whatever.

    -Super skinny guys. I'm a big girl (size 18 US) and I feel like I'm going to break a skinny guy. I like to cuddle and it's a lot more comfy when the guy is "fluffy" or is pumped up.

    -Has an iPhone. Just kidding! I'm not that insane. But if you're very, very anti-Android/Google we will have major problems.

    -Tries to sleep with me on the first date. If it makes me "stuck up" so be it. Bye!

    -Smoker. I don't smoke and have never smoked anything. And kissing an ashtray isn't cute. I may make an exception for an occasional smoker and I don't tolerate guys who call me "stuck up" for not wanting to try weed or be around it.

    -Alcoholic/Drunk every week. I have alcoholics in my family and I don't need to date one.

    So yeah I'm a picky girl who's no fun. Probably why I'm still single.
  10. by   duskyjewel
    Quote from leslie :-D
    i'm curious as to how you define "momma's boy".

    it's funny, in that when i first started dating ed, i used to affectionately call him a momma's boy.
    many of our dates revolved around going to his mum's house and swimming in their pool.
    he would call her several times a day.
    she would call him when we were out on dates.
    their relationship was incredibly close.
    yet, he adored his mum...cherished her, honored her, respected her.
    eddie treated her like the queen she truly was.

    i married a momma's boy.
    25 yrs later, it is the best choice i ever made.

    leslie
    Loving, respecting, and taking care of the woman that raised him is appropriate. A man who can't make any decision without first consulting his mother, or who will not place his wife first in his life, is a momma's boy.
  11. by   NurseGirl525
    I am new to the dating game again after being off the market for 15 years. The whole thought of dating and meeting new people is terrifying to me. But I have thought a lot about what I want again. I don't think I will ever get married again. I am enjoying my life as it is right now. But if I were to find the right person we could have a great solid relationship. I have come up with these things:

    1. Nonsmoker- I loathe the smell of smoke
    2. Must like to be affectionate- I spent my marriage with a man who wasn't and I was not happy
    3. Have ambition- He doesn't have to have a lot of money, just a job
    4. I would prefer that he has kids- Reason being he would be understanding to my time needed with my son
    5. Just be nice- my ex was so mean, I want a nice guy
    6. Be sexually compatible with me- I will admit I like sex. I want my guy to like it also

    I don't know where to find these guys, but I feel like I deserve one if I can find him.
  12. by   Mudpinesredneck
    Bump.

    Mine, as a guy:

    1. Bad teeth. I love a young lady with a million dollar smile. I don't care if they're a little yeller, but come on. Less teeth does NOT make for better kissing. I reckon. Haven't tried it.

    2. Lack of hygeine. Wearing an old shirt? Cool, can care less. Pants have stains from bar oil helping dad get fire wood for the winter or gear oil from changing the rear end on your truck? Come here baby! Let me show you my Kenmore Elite washing machine!

    But flaky hair, poorly slopped on makeup, perfume that smells worse and pungent than the above gear oil? Come on. I'd rather stick my whole head in a pot of used motor oil and transmission fluid than smell $1 store perfume.

    3. Expecting me to do every little thing. I don't mind helping out, but come on.

    4. Clingy

    5. Drinks to the point of respiratory depression and vomiting. I enjoy literally 2 Budweiser's a week. I have yet to pee myself, vomit, or have a ER visit due to drinking. 2 beers are plenty fine for me.

    6. Prissy, opposite of point 2. I love a girl who drives a nice truck, dresses nice for a mountain girl, but if you buy $10 cups of coffee and drive a Mercedes that's it. I like my 2007 Nissan Titan. I like doing my own work. I like my space. And I am not made of money. I'm not your redneck Romeo that will take you out on $300 dinners.
    Please, keep it modest. 4X4 Jeep that runs good (can that be in the same sentence)? Folgers, wears a dress to the sports bar on Friday night to enjoy a beer or two with me?
    Not afraid to get a little mud on the tires. Yes, please! Let's not get a DUI sweetheart.

    7. No weird fetishes. Seriously. Can we just stick to the normal stuff? I've been handcuffed. Haven't been to jail but have been detained while fishing for fishing without my license on me. I've seen people restrained on life support. My idea of sex is not being restrained, switching styles freely, being able to maybe kiss you in between. No, you're not going to strap me to my bed.

    8. Extra liberal. I don't want to hear about how horrible I am because I like Trump. Don't try telling me my guns are a problem. I have never shot anybody.

    9. Heavy. I don't mind a girl with a little body fat, we all have it. But please. I have enough health problems. I don't want to have to deal with your health issues down the road that are related to obesity. I try to keep a good weight and waistline. I keep myself active. Please do the same. I'm not "fat-shaming." I don't feel attracted to anorexia, but I like sensible weight.

    10. Ignorant. Or thinks more emotionally than cognitively on politics, things like that.

    Quite frankly, my dream girl:

    Is strong built, pretty, good smile, cute.
    Kisses like she took classes for it. Likes affection as much as I do.
    Doesn't mind that my idea of a good gift is keeping your car maintained, hanging that shelf you always wanted built but didn't want to buy a Dewalt for one occasion. Yes, honey buns, did you see the love note I wrote on the back of your Napa receipt? <3 And I bought you dinner too
    Not cheap but modest. That scarf you bought at Ross for $24.99 on sale actually looks REALLY cute on you
    Doesn't have huge fantasies of being some multi millionaire at the expense of her man.
    Makes her own money. Doesn't mind gifts, but doesn't need money all the time. Works hard

    That's about it, really
    Last edit by Mudpinesredneck on Dec 5

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