Return my husband

  1. i feel like i am going out of my mind. i put my husband out 6 months ago. After no contact with him for 5 months i reached out to him and begged him to come home. he told me he is healing he needs time. i know that he is seeing someone and they took a trip together but he assures me that no-one will take my place (i dont know what that means). he is afraid to come back to me but i really want him back in my life!..i can't eat..i can't sleep..i follow him..i am desperate for help..
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    Joined: Aug '18; Posts: 1

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  3. by   toomuchbaloney
    You put him out but now want him back but you haven't indicated what changed beyond you getting lonely.
  4. by   elkpark
    I realize it's a terrible cliche', but -- get some professional help (therapy). You kicked your husband out six months ago, you've decided now you want him back, and are you surprised that he's not just jumping up and doing what you want? Why should he? And who are you asking to "return your husband?" No one here has the ability to do that.

    I mean this in a kindly way -- get some therapy/counseling to deal with what's going on in your life and figure out your best path forward. Best wishes!
  5. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    Who is supposed to return him? You tossed him so I guess you would have to return him to yourself. However, it doesn't seem like he wants to come back. I agree with the other posters. Get some counseling and be prepared to move on in life without him.
  6. by   Leader25
    I am so sorry you are going through this but whatever made you decide to go it alone has not been resolved.You are just feeling sad and if he really is with someone else why risk disease,aren't you worth more ?
    To finish this dead marriage or revive it will take a tremendous amount of work and guidance from a professional.Take good care of yourself and prepare , just in case it will not work out with him.Good luck.
  7. by   Neo Soldier
    Quote from elkpark
    I mean this in a kindly way -- get some therapy/counseling to deal with what's going on in your life and figure out your best path forward. Best wishes!
    This is a good idea.
  8. by   Accolay
    Five months is a long time to have no contact with your spouse.

    Regardless of why you kicked him out, why wouldn't you expect him to be moving on after five months of zero contact? Why didn't you move on? What did you think was going to happen? Did you think everything would be better without any conversation about why you separated?

    Sounds more like you both abandoned the marrage. See if your husband will attend couseling with you. If not, then I'm sorry, it wasn't meant to be.
  9. by   Mergirlc
    Quote from eileenj
    i know that he is seeing someone and they took a trip together but he assures me that no-one will take my place
    If he went on a trip with somebody else .....someone already did take your place, my dear. Healing does not equal going out and finding dates when you're still legally married.

    He just wanted out and you gave him the opportunity by asking him to leave. He's gone and it doesn't seem he's really willing to give it another go. I know this is harsh to hear, but you're hearing it from me and everybody else who is answering this post.

    Please, get yourself some counseling so you can get over this in the best way possible. I know it hurts like hell right now, but with time, it will get better.
  10. by   Farawyn
    Notices the OP has not returned.

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