Relationship with a Narcissist

  1. Have any of you ever dated a narcissist? I'm talking about the kind where they're abusive on every level and super jealous of you but family and friends think they're the greatest gift to man?

    If any of you understand what I'm speaking of, how hard was it to get rid of them and what did you do to salvage your reputation and sanity? They always hoover while continuously destroying your reputation and trying to intentionally run you crazy.

    What's the secret to getting rid of them indefinitely?
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  3. by   psychrn4u
    Been there, done that

    Best advice is to do what I did. Leave! Get a Restraining order and move on with your life
  4. by   NurseBlaq
    Did he violate the restraining order?
  5. by   psychrn4u
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    Did he violate the restraining order?
    No, but after I filed I took a job in another city and never looked back. I heard he eventually went to prison for some crime not really interested in details. Out of my life forever.
  6. by   NurseBlaq
    Quote from psychrn4u
    No, but after I filed I took a job in another city and never looked back. I heard he eventually went to prison for some crime not really interested in details. Out of my life forever.
    Kudos! I can only hope for that freedom.
  7. by   psychrn4u
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    Kudos! I can only hope for that freedom.
    Hope means nothing if you do nothing to bring it to fruition. To quote Donald Sutherland in the Hunger Games "A little hope is a dangerous thing!"


    Hppy
  8. by   NurseBlaq
    Quote from psychrn4u
    Hope means nothing if you do nothing to bring it to fruition. To quote Donald Sutherland in the Hunger Games "A little hope is a dangerous thing!"


    Hppy
    I have a restraining order against him and I've been no contact for over a year. However, he refuses to let go. That restraining order is soon to expire so I'm afraid he'll do something again. He's also my children's father. They don't want anything to do with him either but the fool won't let go!
  9. by   psychrn4u
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    I have a restraining order against him and I've been no contact for over a year. However, he refuses to let go. That restraining order is soon to expire so I'm afraid he'll do something again. He's also my children's father. They don't want anything to do with him either but the fool won't let go!
    Well that complicates things as their are children and custody issues involved. Were you ever married?
    Have you sought court action to terminate his parental rights (you would have to prove that he is a dangerously unfit parent). You may be stuck until your kids reach the age of majority. Keep a clear record of any treats he makes against you and go back to court. If it were me I'd but a gun (oh wait I have one) for my own protection but you might not be comfortable with that. I had a concealed carry permit for a while until I was clear of him.


    Hppy
  10. by   NurseBlaq
    Quote from psychrn4u
    Well that complicates things as their are children and custody issues involved. Were you ever married?
    Have you sought court action to terminate his parental rights (you would have to prove that he is a dangerously unfit parent). You may be stuck until your kids reach the age of majority. Keep a clear record of any treats he makes against you and go back to court. If it were me I'd but a gun (oh wait I have one) for my own protection but you might not be comfortable with that. I had a concealed carry permit for a while until I was clear of him.


    Hppy
    Yes, we have children. I'm the sole custodial parent and they've already said they didn't want to be bothered with him. He pays child support. I've learned to document everything. I have a gun, went and bought another since this, and I had a CCP since before I put him out. He's been gone over a year and I've changed all the locks, reset alarm codes and passwords, all of my neighbors know he's not to be here and he's abusive, etc.

    But he's a narcissist, you know how they have a way of doing things to you just under the legal radar. They stalk with precision. Never seen anything like it in my life.
  11. by   tinkerbell39
    Very painful to go thru,they are expert at turning history around and make you look crazy,they love to be a victim but they are not in reality...

    run away,change phone numbers,avoid social media,or wassup,they give too much info about you,be your own witness protection program,dont use linkedin, even on this medium someone posted that she googled someones username and found info related to that person easily.

    A gun is a good idea.

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