Military Relationships - Tell Us About Yours....

  1. A recent thread about couples in the same career field got me to thinking (always a dangerous endeavor). My husband and I met while we were both active duty military. He was in the USAF and I was in the USN. We were both at military training studying print and broadcast journalism.

    My husband and I have been married a really long time but I often think back to how we met and wonder about others’ experiences. As I mentioned above, we were both in the military but in different branches. We met at Ft Ben Harrison, IN (Indianapolis, IN). That is where the Defense Information School (DINFOS) was located up until 1995 or so. We had an instant attraction but neither of us was looking for a relationship. We were just friends.

    So...we both finished school about nine months later and off we went to our duty stations: he returned to Nebraska and I went to Japan.

    Six months later, guess who walked in the newsroom? Yep, my “friend.” We reconnected, fell in love and got married all within the next year. Our oldest son was born in Japan.

    I came down on orders soon afterwards and was one of the first women to get orders to a ship. How exciting! But….whoa….what about hubs and new baby? Uh - they can’t go with me. So...I made a very difficult decision to get out of the Navy.

    My husband then came down on orders to Spain. We spent three years in Spain, had another son along the way and voila, it was PCS (permanent change of station) time once again. But...this time he was going to Greenland and I was going (with our two sons) back stateside to wait out the year “remote” assignment.

    The year passed quickly (as I look back on it now) but was very stressful in many ways (none of which I will bore you with - lol).

    We transferred to Alaska for two years - loved it. One of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been. So pristine and QUIET! We were in the interior at Delta Junction which is more than 100 miles south of Fairbanks and 500 miles north of Anchorage. Brrrrr….it was cold and dark. Took some getting used to but we still look back on that assignment as one of our favorites.

    Korea was next up. Definitely a huge change from Alaska. Very crowded (Seoul), with mega traffic issues. It was also a period of unrest for the country in general. The college student population were outspoken against a military presence in their country and security was high. Even being very careful, we were subjected to some security risks: students broke thru our fencing in our housing, burned the US flag in front of us, our son’s school bus was tear gassed by students also. All in all, Korea is not remembered fondly by our family.

    The one bright spot though was that I was working at the 121 Evac Hospital. This is the hospital made famous by the TV show MASH. It was the referral hospital for all military in Korea. I worked as a clerk there in the Specialty Clinic which was where the specialist MDs worked. I really enjoyed my time there and it really ignited the passion for going to nursing school.

    Next up was Las Vegas (Nellis AFB). This is where the Thunderbirds are based. If you have ever seen the precision which they fly, it’s phenomenal. The ground show is equally fantastic. By this time, we thought hubby would be retiring soon so I went to school. I was able to complete my pre-reqs and then the LPN year (it was a 1+1 program where you did pre-reqs for a year, then LPN, then RN). Whoops - my plans weren’t considered by the USAF (yet again!)

    He got a chance to return to Ft Harrison to teach at the same school where we had met 14 years before! we went.

    In Indianapolis, I was FINALLY able to finish an ADN and hubby retired in 1995.

    We moved to Illinois in 1996 for a new job for my husband. Since then, I’ve been able to get a BSN, MSN and two post-MSN certificates.

    So...getting back to my original question - how many of you met while on active duty? Or met when one of you was in the military?

    And by the way, from one vet to all the other vets….thanks!
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  3. by   StNeotser
    I met my ex husband who was American in Spain circa 1992. I was in, according to him, the "British Civillian Service". I met him in the now very overpopularized resort town of Salou. I remembered Salou in 1980 when I first visited at the age of 8. I knew a short cut to the beach.

    Next time I saw him I was in England, still with the British "Civillian Service". It was odd to meet up with the same person twice back then before the age of the internet. But there he was, holding up the Spanish and English threat.
  4. by   NutmeggeRN
    I met my late husband when I was in college and he was in the USCG, with his station right next to where I rented a house.
  5. by   Farawyn
    Quote from NutmeggeRN
    I met my late husband when I was in college and he was in the USCG, with his station right next to where I rented a house.

  6. by   NutmeggeRN
    Quote from Farawyn
    Thx Far, he will be gone 30 years this summer. When I say that, I am like Whiskey Tango Foxtrot?!? Gone longer than he was alive, weird. I have had several relationships since but for a good number of years I put my focus into my son. Did not want to have a revolving door of 'uncles". l now sometimes I wish I had carved out more time for me. Oh well. Someday. Maybe.
  7. by   traumaRUs
    Sorry for your grief Nutmegg!

    My husband was deployed several times and we always played the "what if" card by having a will, power of attorney, etc. We never needed it but we always tried to be prepared.

    I had friends who lost husbands in a plane crash when we were all stationed in Spain - it was so sad. They all went back to the states....
  8. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Thank you to everyone who has ever served. I tried, but couldn't enlist because of Crohn's disease. I wonder how my life might be entirely different had that not been the case. It could have occurred lots of different ways had I enlisted. At the time I tried Iraq, and Afghanistan were at their height. Likely I might have ended up doing a tour there. Anyways thanks again to everyone on the thread involved in the service.
  9. by   hyhero89
    I am a korean. You and your family having bad impression of Korea makes me feel sorry, although I want you to know that the terrible incidence and disgrace you had to see doesn't represent general attitude of the public towards U.S.. Just wanted to say please do not judge the whole based on the several people. In overall, korean(except the north) is very fond of U.S. and its' people
  10. by   NotYourMamasRN
    My ex-husband and I met on active duty.... he is now my ex-husband.

    My husband now is a vet as well and we never worked together.
  11. by   Coloradonurse1983
    I met my husband through my roommate. She dated his roommate. I lived in Florida and he was active duty army living in Texas and was moving to Colorado in a few months. We did long distance for 8 months. When it came time to renew my lease, we talked about options. We decided that I'd move to Colorado to continue our relationship. We dated for a while here, then we got married in March. I'd been a nurse for a quite a few years, so I knew transferring my license would be easy. Our relationship really changed my outlook on life. I never wanted to get married nor did I believe in true love, fate, whatever. I don't know any other way it could happen. I grew up Florida, him in Paraguay. We lived states apart. We had no chance of meeting otherwise.

    So don't listen to those that say starting a relationship long distance never works or is too hard to do. If you're both committed and on the same page, it can work out.