Dating someone with *mild* schizophrenia? - page 2

Hi everyone. My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with *mild* schizophrenia about two months ago and put on medication. We've been dating for two years now. I'm not sure exactly what it is, but he... Read More

  1. by   Vanimelde
    Sorry, but in my experience, he will be the one to leave you. I had a boyfriend who had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and depression and he suspected he had BPD too... He told me about it when we started seeing each other. I stayed, thinking that if we got married, the marriage wow (in health and sickness) covers such situations anyway and because I knew he didn't choose to be ill. But...he started projecting things on me. He accused me of many things, most of them were what he did (like having problems with his mother, lack of confidence - why is it a big deal anyway? ) and some that his mother and siblings had done (thinking he was crazy in a pejorative way). He knew he was projecting, in his "sane" moments, but many times just went cold from one moment to the next and didn't tell me why, until much later and those things were projections too, but I couldn't defend myself and he resented me for things I didn't do. Then left me. Oh, and I forgot to mention... He wanted full support from me, which he got. He was aware of that. But when I had problem in my life (at work) he said he wouldn't give me moral support... Yes, you read well. He would not stand by me. He would not reciprocate. Would you live with someone like that? Problems occur in life, no matter how lucky you are. You lose parents, argue with boss, etc... You need someone who holds your hand as you hold his.
  2. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Vanimelde
    Sorry, but in my experience, he will be the one to leave you. I had a boyfriend who had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and depression and he suspected he had BPD too... He told me about it when we started seeing each other. I stayed, thinking that if we got married, the marriage wow (in health and sickness) covers such situations anyway and because I knew he didn't choose to be ill. But...he started projecting things on me. He accused me of many things, most of them were what he did (like having problems with his mother, lack of confidence - why is it a big deal anyway? ) and some that his mother and siblings had done (thinking he was crazy in a pejorative way). He knew he was projecting, in his "sane" moments, but many times just went cold from one moment to the next and didn't tell me why, until much later and those things were projections too, but I couldn't defend myself and he resented me for things I didn't do. Then left me. Oh, and I forgot to mention... He wanted full support from me, which he got. He was aware of that. But when I had problem in my life (at work) he said he wouldn't give me moral support... Yes, you read well. He would not stand by me. He would not reciprocate. Would you live with someone like that? Problems occur in life, no matter how lucky you are. You lose parents, argue with boss, etc... You need someone who holds your hand as you hold his.
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    I'm sorry about your loss, I hope you have someone now to hold your hand.

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