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Creating A Monster (RANT)

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I am so distressed about the way my grandsons are being raised that I'm at my wits' end. What do I do? You are reading page 3 of Creating A Monster (RANT). If you want to start from the beginning Go to First Page.

Leslie and Marla:

I was on Inderal 40mg BID for 14 years. It was to prevent migraines and for mild HTN.

I lost weight and lowered my bP to get off it so I could donate one of my kidneys.

Maybe not taking it contributes to my tearing up when I'm happy.I hadn't thought of that.

You are doing the best you can. A grandmother like you can be a wonderful influence on a child. Your daughter and her BF are blessed to have your guidance.

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Leslie and Marla:

I was on Inderal 40mg BID for 14 years. It was to prevent migraines and for mild HTN.

I lost weight and lowered my bP to get off it so I could donate one of my kidneys.

Maybe not taking it contributes to my tearing up when I'm happy.I hadn't thought of that.

wow herring (about donating kidney)...

you never cease to amaze me. :redbeathe

evidentally, inderal and clonodine are 2 bp agents, they use for anxiety/agitation.

specifically in my case, my psych np prescribed it to repress flashbacks, and for acute onset of overwhelming emotion.

something about how it interrupts the adrenaline surge.

it is FASCINATING to learn how our brains work, store, process and respond.

and, how meds counteract these processes, with all the mechanisms involved.

i love this stuff.

my dose of inderal...well....it's up there.

my np told me that when her supervising physician was reading my chart, he couldn't believe the dose.

*shrug*

they've been a Godsend.

i was discussing this very thing w/marla.

anyways, while i don't respond overly emotional anymore, i still do tear up with happy events.

those type of tears, i can handle.

leslie

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I haven't spent much time here lately, but one thing comes to mind. Sometimes you can't walk away. Sometimes a person has to pray for the strength and courage to do the right thing. I don't think 4 years old is quite too late for a child to change, but 18 will be. I really hate it when a woman puts a man above her kids well-being, and I hate the selfishness some of these losers exhibit. I really don't know what else to say, except you have had a lot of good advice here.

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I do feel your pain. Not because this is happening in my life, but because I see it everyday at school. I'm a school nurse and it amazes me how children are being raised. I have bought clothes, shoes, school supplies, taken them to the doctor, made arrangements for free glasses, and no thank yous or recognition that their children needed anything that was given to them. I've been cursed at and threatened. But I do this for the kids because I know if they do not see the generosity of others, they will grow into what their parents are and do the same to their own children. These are the children that the parents run to the doctor for ADHD medication because they can't control them. The problem is that they have closed the barn door after all the animals have gotten loose. The control should have taken place long before they run to the doctor. One thing I have learned with these children is that it is never good to allow them to talk back to you, yell at you, throw fits, or just be plain bad without some consequences. Children do like boundaries and if they are not given any then they learn chaos. A lot of these children live in chaos and that's all they know. I suggest you start a little at a time by making them accountable for their actions. You can do this with love. Let your daughter and numnutz (I love that name) know that you will be doing this, then it won't seem as if you are picking on the kids. I know you can't sit down and speak to your daughter, because she is under his spell and won't listen to you. You must indoctrinate the kids. Take them places, places that they don't take them that they will enjoy. Kind words all the time (except when you are holding them responsible for their actions~and you still can be kind in doing that). In other words, show them what the other side does and how much better it is when they are good. I wish I had other jewels of wisdom for you, but by the time a child is 5 years old, he/she has already learned most of the bad/good habits that make them who they are. You would be surprised of how many people out there are just like your daughter and her significant other. That's not saying your daughter is bad, it's just that she has deferred her parenting to someone else. It's a wonder someone has not called DCF on them. Do you go to church? That may help, too. Good luck and I will certainly pray for you.

Sharon

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