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Why is it whenever I come to work, some of my coworkers always complain about how their other halves don't make as much money as they do. One even said, "if I married someone richer, I wouldn't have to work as hard." Also, one of them has two young children, and she wishes she could stay at home and take care of them, but since she's the main breadwinner she has to work (esp since she makes more than her husband). Is this happening more and more? Women making more than men? Does this create tension in relationships?

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That's one of those issue that needs to be talked about before marriage.

Whining about it afterwards, when you knew going in you would have to work when you had kids, is wrong.

If you think you made a mistake, I'd say talk it over with spouse and then downsize in order to be able to afford to stay home more with the kids. But you (the generalized you) married someone who makes less than you do . . . . you knew going in.

You made your bed . . . you have to lie in it? Or work on it together to make it better?

But stop whining! Do something.

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I've been the main breadwinner in my marriage since I got my first nursing job. I also carry the health insurance. It has been harder than I thought it would be.

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If you think you made a mistake, I'd say talk it over with spouse and then downsize in order to be able to afford to stay home more with the kids. But you (the generalized you) married someone who makes less than you do . . . . you knew going in.

Not necessarily. When Hubby and I got married, our incomes were about the same, but I had much more debt. We're now both debt-free, but he is underemployed and working on getting something better. I never dreamed of being a stay-at-home mother because I've seen too many of them become destitute single moms when Dad changes his mind about the marriage.

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My husband makes a little less then me, but for a while me made a LOT less....and I never noticed a problem. If anything, he was excited about it because it was less stress on him in general. He is a very confident person though, so he didnt think it made him less of a man to make less money.

I agree with Spidey, I knew what I was getting myself into when we got married, I knew exactly how much money he made and it was fine with me. We have never lived outside of our means. He works a lot harder then I do, out in the sun sometimes 12 hours a day 6 days a week so I respect him wholeheartedly for his contribution to our family.

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Being the breadwinner stinks.

As a woman, I agree with you. I want to be home with my kids. I don't believe in putting my kids in daycare. I want to raise my kids.

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There are many American marriages that started with the male being the bread winner and now are upside down with the female earning more. This happened in my household when my spouse lost his well paying job in the economic collapse.

At least in our situation, our children were grown when our financial lives started circling the drain. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for people who still have young children.

When our careers are affected at the level that they have been in the past 5 years, it is not reasonable to assume that people simply didn't plan well. I think Bush et al didn't plan well and millions of us are paying the cost.

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I can't wait to be the breadwinner in my household. I've been a stay at home mom for the last 14 years. I'm in school now and will support hubby as soon as it's possible. I cannot wait to have the laundry, dishes, ironing, cooking all done for me for a change.

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I hear lots of guys complaining about their wives making more money than they do. When I broached this subject with my boyfriend (as I'd really like to be a CRNA and would make more than him) he grinned and said when that happens he is quitting work and I could take care of him!

It wouldn't bother me to be breadwinner, but...I also don't have kids yet. And when I have kids, I will want to stay home for the first two years or so.

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