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I've heard it's ok to talk to yourself, and even answer yourself- but if you argue with yourself, it's a sad day :D

My intuition tells me: Don't forget you had a very long conversation with yourself in another thread once, and it's probably best not to comment at all on this, you'll just look like a fool.

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So why did I comment? IDK.........just forget it.............N/M.

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ROFL.... this is starting to hurt !! But such a good hurt !!:lol2::lol2::lol2::jester:

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OK, I will add my 2cents....I have been fat at 5'2" 177lbs and have been thin at 137lbs on both occasions I was already a nurse. I have never ever felt so tired and simply not well as when I was FAT...I do not refer to the physcal implications in terms of my appearance but rather my stamina my endurance and my overall health....There is no way that as a fat nurse I was feeling GREAT health wise..l.yeah I felt great when I was eating my favorite ice cream or my favorite burger....but it did have a negative impact on my health and therefore my job performance not a whole lot of endurance....sure I was a great nurse excellent!! knew all the proper things any nurse should know and much more... but no I wasn't the best nurse I could be...because I didn't even look after my own health properly and it showed....if you say that is harsh well it is, but I have been fat very fat and I know that it isn't healthy. Even with any kind of medical condition or metabolic disorder that can create this condition it isn't a good reason to accept it and say its OK to be fat and i am happy with it..there is always help. As a fat person I was alway defensive about my weight and would say the very things I read here on this thread...I am always in a struggle to control my reasons for eating beyond my real hunger and struggle daily but I know my health is much better now...no more high blood pressure no more high cholesterol and my blood sugar is stable....I searched and got help and admitted I have a problem with eating and until most of us that are struggling with obesity get to that point you will always say "I am happy healthy and fat" just my own experience and not to offend but rather to think about it. sorry for such a rant but I had to say this as I struggle with my weight all the time for health reasons and not my physical appearance so please do not be offended.

Good for you that you were able to lose weight. You can assess yourself as a nurse because you know yourself as NOBODY ELSE does. But you CANNOT assess anyone else because you don't know them.

No one here has said that it's OK to be fat or that they are happy with it.

You say that you were always defensive, and you imply that you had to get to a certain point before you could accept help and lose weight. I'm betting that some of the judgmental comments you've made here used to make you defensive and didn't help you. So why would you think that it helps others for you to make them now? Everyone else should have the opportunity to get to the place that you got to by themselves, without someone else pushing them.

You said you don't want to offend, and you said "...but I had to say this..." Why? You have to know that you can't just say "please do not be offended" and that takes care of it. Some of the statements that you have made ARE offensive and you don't get a pass just because you said not to be offended. This "rant" as you call it has only helped you.

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sigh. here we go again. it's still politically correct to pick on the overweight, even though you couldn't target race, genders, religions or sexual preferences.

overweight nurses can be good nurses. or bad nurses. or indifferent nurses.

judgemental people usually aren't good nurses.

agreed. :yeah:

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GM2RN if my personal feeling about being overweight and my experience offended you again sorry. I did apologize for it and stated I didn't want to offend because sadly I knew that perhaps someone would somehow not agree with me and instead of disagreeing would say I was offensive in some way or another ....my intention as I stated was not to offend but to state MY OPINION as this thread and forum allows ..although I sense that perhaps I hit a nerve with you...and for that specific reason knowing full well someone wouldn't want to hear MY truth about being overweight...and being a nurse....no, I am not judgmental because I am well aware of the fact that today I am thin and tomorrow I may be overweight again...BTW out of concern what part of my experience and personal opinion offended you ? again I am sorry... that wasn't the message I was trying to convey.

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GM2RN if my personal feeling about being overweight and my experience offended you again sorry. I did apologize for it and stated I didn't want to offend because sadly I knew that perhaps someone would somehow not agree with me and instead of disagreeing would say I was offensive in some way or another ....my intention as I stated was not to offend but to state MY OPINION as this thread and forum allows ..although I sense that perhaps I hit a nerve with you...and for that specific reason knowing full well someone wouldn't want to hear MY truth about being overweight...and being a nurse....no, I am not judgmental because I am well aware of the fact that today I am thin and tomorrow I may be overweight again...BTW out of concern what part of my experience and personal opinion offended you?? again I am sorry... that wasn't the message I was trying to convey.

You didn't offend me at all, but I used to be offended at this kind of stuff and I can recognize offensive language. I know that you say you didn't intend to offend, but I challenge you and everyone else that has/would post this kind of stuff to really reflect and ask yourselves if really believe this kind of post is helpful. If your answer is no, then the only reason to post comments like yours is to make yourself feel better.

If your answer is yes, that you think it's helpful, then I would suggest that you need more reflection and try to remember what it felt like for you when someone said these things. Because I'm telling you, and I'm sure that others would agree with me, that it's not helpful for others to feel judged about their weight. And intended or not, that's what your comments do.

Like I said before, everyone struggling with a weight issue deserves to get to "that place" that you did without being pushed into it by "well meaning" converts.

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Fair enough ... I wont continue to drag this topic on about what my "REAL INTENTIONS ARE" it would be silly.

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OK, I will add my 2cents....I have been fat at 5'2" 177lbs and have been thin at 137lbs on both occasions I was already a nurse. I have never ever felt so tired and simply not well as when I was FAT...I do not refer to the physcal implications in terms of my appearance but rather my stamina my endurance and my overall health....There is no way that as a fat nurse I was feeling GREAT health wise..l.yeah I felt great when I was eating my favorite ice cream or my favorite burger....but it did have a negative impact on my health and therefore my job performance not a whole lot of endurance....sure I was a great nurse excellent!! knew all the proper things any nurse should know and much more... but no I wasn't the best nurse I could be...because I didn't even look after my own health properly and it showed....if you say that is harsh well it is, but I have been fat very fat and I know that it isn't healthy. Even with any kind of medical condition or metabolic disorder that can create this condition it isn't a good reason to accept it and say its OK to be fat and i am happy with it..there is always help. As a fat person I was alway defensive about my weight and would say the very things I read here on this thread...I am always in a struggle to control my reasons for eating beyond my real hunger and struggle daily but I know my health is much better now...no more high blood pressure no more high cholesterol and my blood sugar is stable....I searched and got help and admitted I have a problem with eating and until most of us that are struggling with obesity get to that point you will always say "I am happy healthy and fat" just my own experience and not to offend but rather to think about it. sorry for such a rant but I had to say this as I struggle with my weight all the time for health reasons and not my physical appearance so please do not be offended.

I'm glad you put this on here. You are a person/nurse with a conscious. You admit you struggle with your weight - who doesn't?

And this poster wasn't 'judging' anyone. He/she has to keep apologising for not wanting to offend anyone because she's told she's judgemental. I don't see one judgemental statement in this. She is simply sharing a story, and she STILL gets judged!

And to all the doubters about the obese and how they got that way, just do what I did today - walk around the supermarket looking at everything obese people put in their trolley. Hang outside a McDonalds where I went to stop and drink a coffee, and you'll see that 90%+ of the people who go in there are fat, and so are their children. They are obese (dare I use the word fat?) because they eat junk++ and don't exercise. There is no magic formula to losing weight, as different thinkgs work for different people, but no-one on here has said other things do not contribute to gaining weight. We all know we get stressed out, eat too much, don't exercise when it's cold, etc. I couldn't give a hoot if someone's obese, but if you're going to say being obese is caused by chemicals or whatever, can you put a link on here so I can read the up-to-date research to try and change my mind? It would be nice to see some back up of what people are saying re this.

And we shouldn't focus on weight so much, but trying to be as healthy as we can. I've known many bigger girls who were great nurses/workers, they were just big girls who exercised and were healthy despite their appearance. As my old orthopaedic doctor said: you can't lose weight off your bones!

But when you sit in a chair, and your knees are aching, and fat is spilling out everywhere so your clothes or shoes hardly fit anymore, all I can say is: take a look in the mirror and really, really think about your health and where you want your life to go. And this isn't being judgemental - it's stating the truth. And obese people DO NOT like people telling them the truth, even when they ask for it. And please don't tell me that obesity is not a choice - what, stuffing food into your gullet is NOT a choice? What is it then, if not a choice? And stuffing your kids faces with junk is not a choice either? Not very responsible parenting is it?

OK I'm off topic now, I'd better stop.

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We all know we get stressed out, eat too much, don't exercise when it's cold, etc. I couldn't give a hoot if someone's obese, but if you're going to say being obese is caused by chemicals or whatever, can you put a link on here so I can read the up-to-date research to try and change my mind? It would be nice to see some back up of what people are saying re this.

And we shouldn't focus on weight so much, but trying to be as healthy as we can. I've known many bigger girls who were great nurses/workers, they were just big girls who exercised and were healthy despite their appearance. As my old orthopaedic doctor said: you can't lose weight off your bones!

But when you sit in a chair, and your knees are aching, and fat is spilling out everywhere so your clothes or shoes hardly fit anymore, all I can say is: take a look in the mirror and really, really think about your health and where you want your life to go. And this isn't being judgemental - it's stating the truth. And obese people DO NOT like people telling them the truth, even when they ask for it. And please don't tell me that obesity is not a choice - what, stuffing food into your gullet is NOT a choice? What is it then, if not a choice? And stuffing your kids faces with junk is not a choice either? Not very responsible parenting is it?

OK I'm off topic now, I'd better stop.

O.K. :D

http://www.symptomfind.com/diseases-conditions/obesity-types/

This is fairly simple- I hope it's not insulting. :clown:

But doubt you'll believe what doesn't conform to YOUR beliefs- and that's fine. :) :lol2:

And since all of us fat folks think the same, shop the same, eat the same, exercise the same, wear clothes that don't fit, have fat 'spilling out', etc, why respond to these posts, since you don't think well enough of any of us (besides your fat co-workers that you somehow tolerate)????? Just wondering :) OH- that's right, you don't give a hoot if someone is obese..... :confused:

Do most folks down under feel this way? Should Australia be viewed as a bunch of fat haters? Seemed like a nice place!!

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Eat less, move more. Watch TV less, study more. Complain less, compliment more.

See, you're a better nurse already.

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IDK why. I thought the name was a play on "med pass" somehow, but my intuition tells me I'm way off.

Problem is, the intuition telling me I am way off is the same intuition that told me your name was that. Soooo, if I believe my intuition, which one is right, and if I don't believe it, which one is wrong.

I know you know what I mean, but I don't know what your screen name means.

But Demylenated knows exactly what I meant without knowing who or why I said I meant about that -- in post #171. I am sorry for being so cryptic but if it makes you feel any better at all I am sure you are the only one here who knows what "Fluffy ran off with the Nasonex Bee" means.

Maybe that's good??? :) (I've always thought forensics was interesting, all the way back to "Quincy"):twocents:

I loved that show! Now all the cadavers are incensed when they discover their morgue doesn't look just like the one Alex used in CSI:Miami. Where is the ambient gold and orange lighting? The music? The spacious quarters? Just wait til I get my bony hands on that survey card . .:mad:

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:hhmth: What? No velvet lined frig drawers???? :)

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