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as far as i'm concerned, such offenses are nothing to be pc about.

and, the gay couple, 2 houses down, later told me they heard me yelling...and had made me cookies as a thank you.

Damn, Leslie! You've got some pipes on you when you're mad! :D

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Damn, Leslie! You've got some pipes on you when you're mad! :D

that, i do.

this happened last summer.

windows open, houses close together...

combined with the temper from hell...yeah, it can get loud.

leslie

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this happened last summer.

windows open, houses close together...

combined with the temper from hell...yeah, it can get loud.

leslie

I close the windows when I feel a rant coming on! ;) The houses are so close that I can hear my neighbor peeing in the morning, as our bedroom window is right across from their bathroom window. Ugh.

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I close the windows when I feel a rant coming on! ;) The houses are so close that I can hear my neighbor peeing in the morning, as our bedroom window is right across from their bathroom window. Ugh.

it sounds like you live in the city.

i do too, and lived in an apt for years, where the houses were so close that i could easily hear 'stuff' from the house next door.:lol2:

as for closing windows when i know i'm going to lose it...that's not me.

i mean, if it happened often, then yeah, i'd probably give the neighbors a break, but otherwise, i honestly don't care what others think of my 'emotive' displays.;)

leslie

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I meant in formal detail. The questions have been coming for a lot longer than that.

They are finding out about heterosexual sex, so it follows that they're finding out about homosexuality! I think that's natural especially today when homosexuals should no longer have to hide.

However, how the "gay" stuff comes up bothers me to no end. It's always in the context of one kid calling another kid "gay" as an insult. When my kids told me about that type of exchange, I had to wait a few beats before completely going off on a rant. INSTANT FURY!

Last night, my kids were playing hockey in the alley with a bunch of other kids. I overheard "fa**ot" being hurled around. Although I'm only 39, I like the old-school thought of any neighborhood parent being able to tell any neighborhood kid what is and is not appropriate, so I told them that I don't want to hear that coming out of their mouths.

What really upset me is that the gay couple that lives directly behind us was outside on their patio when it happened. :crying2:

That is exactly the context where my son heard the word "gay". A new boy in school was being teased. And I'm with you :up: . . . . I am of the "old-school" and I intervene too. One time at our local high school I happened upon a young man being "trash-canned" . . .I grabbed the perp by the neck and the victim and marched them to the office. :mad: And asked . . where the hell were the teachers???

steph

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I'm all about being open and not treating it like it's a taboo. The more information they get the better off we all are, IMO. Agree with whoever it was that suggested you ask what he already knows...you might be surprised.

My son is five and a couple months ago while we were lying on the floor coloring, he tells me out of the blue, "Mom, sometimes when I see girls, it makes my penis grow." I was not prepared at all for my preschooler to tell me this, but figured it was best to not make a big deal out of it. I tried to wing it and said, "Well, that's called an erection, and sometimes it happens. It's normal." "Ok. Can you pass me the green crayon? I need to color Hulk's face." :lol2: We do make the distinction between things that we talk about at school/church/the store and things we save for home, but we (or at least I - my husband still uses slang) use the right words for parts and are open about stuff. He knows about breastfeeding, and about the bellybutton/umbilical cord/placenta connection, and he knows that boys can't have babies, only girls, because only girls have a uterus. We talk about things as they come up, and we let him know that bodies act the way they act for a reason. As he gets older I suspect the subject matter will change, but I hope the basic open lines of communication stay the same.

Kudos to you for wanting to be open about it. There are lots and lots of books out there, but the best source of information (and good role modeling) is you. :)

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I always believed in using proper terms for body parts when talking to my daughter (now almost 18). My logic was if she was ever touched inappropriately she would be better equiped to tell me- instead of being embarrased to even say a word like "vagina".

I was watching tv one day when she was pretty small (maybe 3?) and a woman was giving birth vaginally. She became interested and I decided to let her watch. Afterwards, she tottled off and began playing again. I asked her a while later what she thought about that woman giving birth. Her only concern was that she "didn't want hair on her Bagina" when she grew up. :rolleyes:

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