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Why do people even feel the need to update their evening once? I'll never understand. People don't care that much.

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LOL, Joanna. Don't you care that someone ordered a cheeseburger and not a hamburger?

:smokin:

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Lol yeah, I just have a burning desire to know that my friend decided on the cheeseburger...what kind of cheese?

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It's not all THAT bad- LOL.... it's been SO good to reconnect with people from TX and also some family..... like anything, some take it to extremes !!! :)

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I use facebook also, to stay in touch with my close friends. I'm glad fb exists. However, many people do take it to extremes.I have a couple of friends who are always updating everything, "Checking in at work." "Doing homework."Thanks for the updates on every detail lol.

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I've already told FB friends that ALL political poo will be deleted on my wall. I want to know what THEY are doing.... politics is a great way to eliminate relationships.... SO, they've been told. If they feel the need to have only FB friends who want propaganda, feel free to "unfriend" me....NO problem. :)

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Lol!!.

Well i am from the technology generation. I dont mind the odd text/status update once or twice..esp. if it is something important..

I dont call on the phone much anymore...i send short texts or i wait til i see people face to face. I refuse to pay the crazy high rates for smartphone data...cause I have an awesome invention at home called "The Laptop" and I already pay for that XD

But 7-8 times is way overboard and rude!

BTW:

I guess I need to go update my FB status now: "Just typed a forum message on Allnurses.com! Woohoo!"

See ya later all!

I need to go blow my nose.

Hahaha

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I don't get it either. This is an addiction, a bad habit and plague. Really. Does anyone ever just "be" anymore. Be in the moment. Be present. Be aware. Be still.

You hit the nail on the head. While part of me wants to say it's generational, it's not a clear cut generalization. It's is defininitely a socially acceptable norm if you are under 25. Watch any group of people in that age group while out (at dinner, movies, mall, even at a holiday function), and it's rampant. The second there is idle time, there they go! But it's certainly not isolated to that age group (last night, in full swing at the bar, everyone between age 30-40). I live in a city where people do not talk to each other (strangers), so I look at it is as sort of a 'crutch'- to alleviate the awkwardness of, say, waiting for the elevator. But when it extends to close family and friends, it IS a little (well, more than a little) wierd!!

This is why I LOVE sleep away camp (I am a camp nurse). Absolutely NO technology is permitted! Forced socialization; good old-fashioned fun! I know not all camps are like this (mine is a Girl Scout camp). So even if it's only for a few weeks, these kids are surviving without it all :)

I try, on a regualr basis, to explain to my almost 12 year old, that sometimes, it is ok to just 'be'. She doesn't get it. She needs to be doing something, or else she is 'bored'. Think of what we (as kids) did in the car on a long trip; we listened to whatever mom & dad chose to listen to on AM radio, in the back seat, and just took in the scenery. Now, every damn car has a dvd player hanging from the roof, and they're definitely not reserved for 'long trips'. Recently, my daughter and I ordered Chinese food. I called ahead, therefore the wait time was minimal. The minute we get in there and they said "A few more minutes" she said to me "can I see your phone"? I said to her 'you don't have to be doing something on a phone every single minute." and there, right next to us, is an adult, twiddling away on her phone while waiting for her order. Go figure.

(edited to add, I do use fb. I do update statuses and 'check in' now and then. don't feel the need to give a play-by-play of what I am eating, drinking, etc. everything in moderation).

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It is partly generational because cell phones, email, and internet did not exist when I was a teen. I think our school got a computer when I was in grade 7.As a result, I'm not nearly as attached to this stuff, and I don't understand the fascination.

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Regarding the mashed potatoes (by the way I love that story, and I hope that I would have the hutzpah to do that if my kid put me in that situation): I think one of the things we are seriosuly neglecting (on a whole, not pointing fingers at anyone specifically) is that children learn by example, and that we need to set the tone for what is acceptable ettiquite. Now that my child is a full-on techie (computer, texting, no fb yet tho), I am much more aware of how much time I am spending on my devices. I don't believe in "do as I say not as I do".

Being a nursing professor, I feel like I am in the same situation. If my text goes off in clinical, I need to decide whether or not it is that important to answer (and if I have to, I do it descreetly). I've been put in more than one situation this past semester where I had to (first day of clinical, hubby had to take child to the ER for difficulty breathing, and another time he lost his car keys, and needed to get her to school). Obviosuly, if any of the follwing happened to my students, I would let them take the time they needed to resolve the situation. I did not let my students know about either situation, but I will likely share it with future groups, as an example.

My point is, we have to set the example for those we are responsible for. I've kicked my child off the comptuter, and she has had the nerve to call me out, only to see that I am working on (incredibly stimulating) lectures or metting minutes. She needs to understand that I am not always "playing" on the computer. Children still need to obey their parents, and understand (whether they like it or not) that they do not make the rules. This is a really tough one for my child, but seriously, it's part of being a grown up. And while there are different rules (my child cannot watch rated R movies, drink alcohol, drive or have a fb account), I firmly believe that positive role modeling must be in place.

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I have long been wondering why in the world anyone would want to tell everyone about everything that they are doing. This really has me intrigued. I really would not care to know about anyones' every movement in their lives. Not anyones. So I wonder about a whole generation that does.

I recently asked my nephews why this interests them (both boys had their phones out and absorbed in ??? whatever during our Thanksgiving gathering). One of them denied being that invested in his phone/facebook/twitter accounts but could not deny it too vehemetly as his phone was in his hand as he said this. I did not get a straight answer from them. Maybe they were bored being with family? At any rate I do feel that it is rude and does take away from being with actual family/friends, when virtual friends are so persistently updating/tweeting etc.

I do not have a facebook account and have resisted one so far for the mere fact that 1) my life is not very exciting (what would I update?). 2) I do not wish for anyone to know everything that I am doing or when...it seems a little intrusive to me. Who knows, maybe because of an ex that liked to stalk me, just feels creepy to let out all of my info... 3) Having spent the last few years of my life in nursing management with 24/7 accountability (even getting phone calls in the middle of church services AFTER calling the facility to tell them to please not call me for the next hour unless there is an extreme emergency and while in the ICU with my dying mother) that I do not wish for anyone to ever have all of me at any time that they feel that they should/want to reach me. I am not that fun, nor that important that the world would end if someone couldn't get to me...I need some alone time. Down time, or just time to be...creative, loving, recharge... Without expectations and without prying eyes and without ... fanfaire?

I come from a large family...in all there are 11 of us. A mix of 'his, hers and ours. I have been uninvited to more than one family party simply because all invites were sent via facebook, which I am not a member of, so I was simply forgotten. Until the party comes and I do not show up. Then they try to be upset because I did not come, until I repeatedly let them know that I was not invited. So finally, they have begun to break down and actually call me the old fashioned way and invite me. Then I show up and all is well. Does facebook not have a link to accept/refuse the invites? Hmmm, makes me wonder.

After all is said and done, I just may end up with a facebook account for one simple reason, my granddaughter. She lives 2600 miles away from me now and I miss her terribly. They moved when she was just 2 months old after living with me and letting me fall in love with this feisty little being. I love love love to watch children grow and learn and even the process of learning something new gives me a thrill. And she is growing and learning and becoming...someone totally new and wonderful and I am missing it all. Facebook is a way that I will be able to capture some of this. So I may just have to get over my phobia and open an account. And I may have to reverse a comment I made earlier about not wanting to know about anyones every movement, for her I would...as well as her brand new 3 week old sister with the eyes of an angel!

Buuutttt, I will keep it private and I still don't want to know the names of servers nor their meal updates or if they got up late or tripped over something or any other trivial matter.

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