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i know that i'm hopelessly aged and out of touch -- aged anyway -- but i don't understand the point. maybe someone can enlighten me.

 

dh and i went out to dinner with friends -- it's one of those rare, happy friendships where all four parties seem to genuinely like each other. (as opposed to be dragged out on new year's eve with another couple because he and dh are such good friends and no one -- including her husband -- seems to be able to tolerate the wife. or a couple where both dh and i adore melinda -- we work with her -- but melissa is a pain in the you-know-where and we know this because we work with her, too. or any one of a dozen other configurations designed to make sure one of the four has no one to talk to and is left out of the fun.) anyway, we're sitting at a fairly nice restaurant chosen by our friends millicent and mortimer and we've just received our bottle of wine and appetizers. conversation is flowing and we're all having a good time. suddenly mortimer picks up his smartphone and he's texting away like mad. sudden emergency at work? daughter had a fight with her boyfriend and is stranded on the shoulder of the interstate? no -- he's updating his facebook status.

 

millicent picks up her phone, checks something out, laughs, and without sharing the joke, begins merrily tapping away on her smartphone. another facebook update. all told, this couple updated their facebook status 7 or 8 times during the course of the meal . . . i'm not sure whether it was 7 or 8 because one time it may have been a text message to the aforementioned daughter.

 

when did it start being ok to ignore the friends you're actually with in order to update all of your facebook friends on the status of your steak (slightly overdone) or your server's name? i'm a nurse; i've dined with doctors, nps and other nurses who were actually on call. the phone rings, and you answer it no matter how scintillating the conversation because you are on call and that's your job. everyone at the table understands because you've already cautioned them that while you'd adore getting together with them, you're on call and might have to leave suddenly. i've been the friend who answers the phone during dinner because mother, who is living in another state, is having issues and dad will call if he has to take her back to the hospital. i've also been the parent tasked with admonishing the teenager who picks up her phone during dinner to text one of her friends. it's rude to ignore the people you're actually with -- unless it's an emergency. and no, fashion emergencies don't count.

 

and who, and i admit this question is far more puzzling to me, actually is interested in reading all of this crap anyway? who actually cares if your server's name is millicent just like yours and your steak is over done or too rare? who needs to read 7 or 8 status updates over the course of an expensive dinner out with congenial friends? i don't get it!

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Eh I do that. Mostly I'm posting I'm at xyz place with xyz person. I think it's a way of feeling connected with everyone.

Besides my personality is way too overwhelming for me to be giving all my attention to the group. You'd go insane ;)

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there are very few people in this world who are so important that everyone else needs to know where they are. i am certainly not among them. my fb account was canceled loooong ago.

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I think those who do, are people who need the constant approval of others to validate that they are worthy, interesting, and fun. Self-promotion. It's rather sad...

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Meh thats better than the old people at the restaurant that go through every freaking ringtone on their new "Android Apple Motorola Zune" and then play the stupid forwarded messages their mothers send them at ear blistering volume. Ugh.

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Your point has been the demise of an all inclusive "girls night out." If you'r not on call,(work or kids):icon_roll" PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY!" You are NOT that important!(near and dear to me because a friend and I just had this same conversation)

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Ruby I agree with you. I'm 22 years old and I like FB but it is flat out rude to update status and text while out with friends.

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I have friends who do that. Drives me nuts -- and yes, it is rude!

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I do love the irony. People against it are saying " You just aren't that important" yet they deem themselves and the presence of their company so important that they demand to have that person's undivided experience.

In my circle of friends its an acceptable thing. Only takes a few seconds and it's an inclusive thing rather than exclusive. It is not uncommon to text a friend while she is sitting in front of me to have a meta conversation about our experience. Don't place a value judgement on someone because they desire a different level/type of connectivity to each other. Your way is not always superior.

And no I'm not a teenybopper.

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i know that i'm hopelessly aged and out of touch -- aged anyway -- but i don't understand the point. maybe someone can enlighten me.

dh and i went out to dinner with friends -- it's one of those rare, happy friendships where all four parties seem to genuinely like each other. (as opposed to be dragged out on new year's eve with another couple because he and dh are such good friends and no one -- including her husband -- seems to be able to tolerate the wife. or a couple where both dh and i adore melinda -- we work with her -- but melissa is a pain in the you-know-where and we know this because we work with her, too. or any one of a dozen other configurations designed to make sure one of the four has no one to talk to and is left out of the fun.) anyway, we're sitting at a fairly nice restaurant chosen by our friends millicent and mortimer and we've just received our bottle of wine and appetizers. conversation is flowing and we're all having a good time. suddenly mortimer picks up his smartphone and he's texting away like mad. sudden emergency at work? daughter had a fight with her boyfriend and is stranded on the shoulder of the interstate? no -- he's updating his facebook status.

millicent picks up her phone, checks something out, laughs, and without sharing the joke, begins merrily tapping away on her smartphone. another facebook update. all told, this couple updated their facebook status 7 or 8 times during the course of the meal . . . i'm not sure whether it was 7 or 8 because one time it may have been a text message to the aforementioned daughter.

when did it start being ok to ignore the friends you're actually with in order to update all of your facebook friends on the status of your steak (slightly overdone) or your server's name? i'm a nurse; i've dined with doctors, nps and other nurses who were actually on call. the phone rings, and you answer it no matter how scintillating the conversation because you are on call and that's your job. everyone at the table understands because you've already cautioned them that while you'd adore getting together with them, you're on call and might have to leave suddenly. i've been the friend who answers the phone during dinner because mother, who is living in another state, is having issues and dad will call if he has to take her back to the hospital. i've also been the parent tasked with admonishing the teenager who picks up her phone during dinner to text one of her friends. it's rude to ignore the people you're actually with -- unless it's an emergency. and no, fashion emergencies don't count.

and who, and i admit this question is far more puzzling to me, actually is interested in reading all of this crap anyway? who actually cares if your server's name is millicent just like yours and your steak is over done or too rare? who needs to read 7 or 8 status updates over the course of an expensive dinner out with congenial friends? i don't get it!

7-8 times seems a bit excessive. i dont have a facebook but people prob update to seem important. sadly i am sure there are those at home reading these minute by minute updates on their dinner adventure. if the conversation was not interesting them that much that made them even more likely to start texting and updating fb than listening to whoever was talking. why waste their time pretending to listen when they can be updating their facebook status ( playing devil's advocate here)

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