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I am a lactation consultant and breastfed my own kids to 4+ years. Beyond about age 2-2 1/2, I only breastfed at home. At that point, breastfeeding is primarily for comfort, rather than nutrition, so I find the whole "Mom, I'm hungry" in a 5yo to be pretty disingenuous.

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I am pro breastfeeding and actually breastfed my son until 3 years old! I feel I would have been uncomfortable with that situation as well. I would not have wanted to breastfeed in public past the age of 1 year old. I have no problem with public breastfeeding, however breastfeeding 5/6 year old in public, is in my opinion, opening the door up for accusations!

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I'm all for public bf for babies but I think 6 years old is too old. If the child says they're hungry, great! They're waiting to be seated at restaurant, they should be hungry! Children need to learn how to wait patiently and not get instant gratification, at 6 years old, they should be able to wait 20 min for a meal. If the parents feel that breast milk is still beneficial they should put it in a cup. There are plenty of other ways to bond with your child, I too wonder what issues the child may have at school or how other children would respond if they found out. I would definitely feel awkward in your situation and would have left also.

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People usually think one year past when they breastfeed their child is offensive. At least that's what I find. I forcefully weaned my twins at 4.5 years old ( I had enough, they nursed only before bed.) but stopped nursing in public around 2 I think. I certainly think by 5 or 6 the kids still nursing are doing so in the closet so to speak but I would not lose my appetite over that at all. I kind of think it is strange everyone felt they couldn't kind of just turn around and mind their own biz, u know? I always assume their could be more to a story than I know and try not to judge. Maybe she had developmental issues for example. Maybe her baby sister just died and her weaned older sister regressed. Who knows. Hate is the only thing that makes me lose my appetite.

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Leaving the area quietly and respectfully is appropriate, I see it as minding your own business particularly if the situation is uncomfortable for one's self.

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I think it's sad in our society that people are sickened by what is biologically normal. And yes...even at that age it is within normal. You know what's never biologically normal?

Feeding a child the following...Nonfat Milk, Lactose, Whey Protein Concentrate, High Oleic Safflower Oil, Soy Oil, Coconut Oil, Galactooligosaccharides. Less than 2% of the Following: C. Cohnii Oil, M. Alpina Oil, Beta-Carotene, Lutein, Lycopene, Potassium Citrate, Calcium Carbonate, Ascorbic Acid, Soy Lecithin, Potassium Chloride, Magnesium Chloride, Ferrous Sulfate, Choline Bitartrate, Choline Chloride, Ascorbyl Palmitate, Salt, Taurine, m-Inositol, Zinc Sulfate, Mixed Tocopherols, d-Alpha-Tocopheryl Acetate, Niacinamide, Calcium Pantothenate, L-Carnitine, Vitamin A Palmitate, Cupric Sulfate, Thiamine Chloride Hydrochloride, Riboflavin, Pyridoxine Hydrochloride, Folic Acid, Manganese Sulfate, Phylloquinone, Biotin, Sodium Selenate, Vitamin D3, Cyanocobalamin, Calcium Phosphate, Potassium Phosphate, Potassium Hydroxide, and Nucleotides (Adenosine 5'-Monophosphate, Cytidine 5'-Monophosphate, Disodium Guanosine 5'-Monophosphate, Disodium Uridine 5'-Monophosphate).

But it's a choice parents can make but nobody is allowed to be sickened when that is used by choice (versus true medical need). But it's okay for people to be sickened by breastfeeding.

Sad world.

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If the parents feel that breast milk is still beneficial they should put it in a cup.

This is an ignorant statement. Most women who extended breastfeed beyond toddlerhood do not do so for nutrition reasons. Furthermore, at age 3 or 4 or older, the woman is likely to not be able to pump enough milk to be able to put it in a cup for the child to drink (unless she's also tandem-nursing a younger child and has a "renewed" milk supply).

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I have nothing to contribute really, as I'm a 20 year old male with no children, but I wanted to ask if anyone watches Game of Thrones and remembers the scene of Lysa Tully (queen of the Vale) breastfeeding her at least 9-year old son, Robin? That is what this reminded me of.

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@sjalv: Game of Thrones rules! :) I do remember that scene, and I remember it from the book, too. And even though the child is sickly, I think they did that to portray just how desperate she is (was) to hold on to him....

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Ah yes. I think this has been identified as a strange warp on the theory of "Attachment Parenting".. Anyone remember that (in)famous Time Magazine cover of the woman breastfeeding her 3 year old? There are quite a few celebrities on board, including Mayim Byalik. According to most sources, protracted breastfeeding is an extreme fringe misinterpretation of the principles of Attachment Parenting.

If the kid is old enough to track you down to gain access to the mammaries, it's time to wean.

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It is not for anyone to tell a mom when she should wean her children. The US in particular has a skewed view as a whole on breastfeeding. Because we over sexualize breasts as a culture although they are first and foremost a means to feeding our children. Personally, I breastfeed my oldest until she was 3, and that was because I was pregnant and getting touched out. She nursed primarily for comfort before nap & bedtime. I think I stopped nursing publicly somewhere between 18 months & 2 years old.

That being said, would it make me uncomfortable? IDK. Awkward, probably. Although I would not have left, just averted my gaze.

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