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Afraid/ husband leaving me

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I know this is the wrong place but I'm desperate for any advice. I don't know what to do. It seems like everything is falling apart. I am 34 years old nursing student with three children by my husband of almost 10 years. I've been a housewife for the past three years since I've been in nursing school and have not worked since I started school. My husband is American but I am not from here. I have no relatives here. My husband recently expressed that he is no longer in love with me and have recently been in contact with and now pursuing his ex-wife. I don't know what steps I need to take. I'm afraid, and don't know how I'm going to get by financially, where I'm going to live. I don't know what's going to happen with my kids or how to tell them. This has affected me so much to the point that I have to repeat the second level of nursing school. I'm not looking for a miracle. I only ask for advice. School starts next month, I'm looking for a job to move out at least by next month and no one seems to be hiring. The apartment cost are ridiculously expensive. I can't stop crying. I just don't know what I need to do.

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I'm so sorry! I will pray for you! And find a good attorney ! You need help !

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Do you attend a college/university ? Most offer counseling services that can help you cope with the stress and perhaps make a social service referral & plan to assist you with your next steps.

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Don't move out! You have dependent children and they need a home...he wants to leave let him find a place. He has to pay for his children to follow his wandering winky.

Lawyer up! NOW! I know it is devastating right now but in the end there will be light at the end of that tunnel. Once a very long time ago...I was madly in love. He decided he loved my best friend more, got her pregnant, divorced me and married her. I was devastated. I soon realized I was unhappy for a long time. I missed my step children very much and miss them to this very day....I think of them often. I was in their life for 8 years from a very young age...I hope they are well.

But life was meant to take a different path. One that has made me infinitely happier and more fulfilled. There is life after divorce especially from a jerk who lurking around an ex. Let her have him.

Get help... talk to someone...and GET A LAWYER!

((HUGS)) It will get better. Oh and did I mention...don't move out! Lawyer up NOW!

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Esme is right. He should be the one to move out. And yes get a lawyer now!

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Sorry you have to go through this, but like everyone else has suggested get a lawyer and you may not want to hear this but you may need to apply for public assistance. Prayers and positive vibes.

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Do not move out. Let him move out. Seek a lawyer. Seek social services. Today. I once stuck it out in lousy marriage. Lost money. He faked a judges signature. My signature. Twisted kids mind. Boasted about he was such a good person. Now kids have legal issues. Part from when he went to social services his lawyer is facing club fed. Go get a restraining stay away what ever order until you can speak nice. Don't louse your cool. TODAY. I know you feel devastated. It will get better. This is a bump in your life. Please.please.

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Tell him if he wants to leave you, then he can go find his own housing. And get a lawyer, some counseling, and if he's being abusive or using the kids as bait, get a temporary restraining order. And if you do get divorced, it's not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but you'll get through it.

And once he leaves, do NOT let him back into your life other than when you have to deal with the kids. I know many a woman who has done this, and it never turns out well. Move on.

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Trust me he WILL NOT change. Maybe a miracle. That is god business. My ex did some dirty stuff for his married girlfriend that he denied having. He left her for her friend. Turns out he had multiple girlfriends.

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You need to stay there for a little bit. But later move you do not want those ghosts chasing you.

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Prayers for strength and peace. I think God has better plans you can't even imagine for your future. Sounds like getting on without him is a blessing in disguise. Keep your focus. I love Esmes advice too.

Sometimes our plans don't go anything like we imagine, and if we just do what we can, at one step at a time, its not so overwhelming.

Your dream to become a nurse is going to happen. (((Hugs))) and prayers.

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