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So, I am NOT a nursing student, I'd just like some advice from some if thats ok!

This girl and I are super into each other. She starts Nursing school this summer, so we have decided not to rush things and just keep it cool.

My question is, how can I be here for her during this hard time in her life? I'd love to go the extra mile to see her, like help her study.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can be here for her?!

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I think the best thing for you to do is to be compassionate and empathetic. Her time is going to be not only very valuable, but very limited. Sometimes it can be difficult for a non-nursing individual to help a nursing student study, but I've found this to be true of only a small percentage. Fill her in on the fact that you'd like to be there to help her in any way possible, and allow her to tell you what she needs of you, and how you can help. The idea of not rushing things and keeping them casual is a good idea. Her focus does need to lie entirely on finishing nursing school, but that doesn't mean she can't enjoy some downtime with a great guy (or girl) who cares about her.

 

Just be an open ear. Nursing students have a lot ​to vent about, and it only gets worse the further in they go.

 

Either way, hang in there! It can be the worst 2-years (or 4-years) of her life, but it's also going to be the most rewarding. Never let her forget that!

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Hi! I start my nursing program this fall. I want to start out by complimenting you on seeking advice to help her rather than run like hell! Lol.

Each relationship is different and without knowing either of you, the only advice i can offer is to be there for her when she needs you, but more importantly, give her space when she needs it.

Nursing school is rigorous and the best thing you both can do, is to communicate openly.

If you stick by her side and offer her your support, in the end, it will work out.

Good luck to you and congratulations to her!

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I agree with the above. Just be the ear she can bend when she is frustrated or maybe just needs someone to hang out with. I was married for 15 years and my ex was not supportive of anything I did. I just started putting myself out there again but was nervous because I am starting nursing school in the fall. I have been dating someone not seriously for just a few months now. What I like about him is he is my biggest cheerleader. He is very supportive of me. I have been doing my prereqs and he always tells me how proud he is of me when I tell him how well I have done on a test. He always tells me how smart I am which makes me feel good. We are great friends before anything else and that is what I appreciate.

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Kudos to OP! Nursing school is very trying. Be flexible. Let her vent. LISTEN. Hugs and kisses go a long way too.

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OMG - You're a keeper for sure!

My advice? See if you can pick up the slack & help her out with mundane tasks so she can focus more energy on studies... anything from household chores, car maintenance, etc. Not fancy or extravagant, but lets her know you have her back and want her to be successful.

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Agree with all the above. If you cook, fix some meals for her. Make nutritious snack packs for her to dive into while studying. Things like veggies and good proteins help the brain function better. No cooking required, just a real way of showing you care. Do some shopping or other things that she gets frustrated with because they cut into her limited time. Make sure there are good fluids in the frig. Dehydration leads to headaches and short tempers.

As one who has been with a husband who really thought it was his job to fix things, Don't! Venting is important and that does not mean you have to have answers for her "correct" approach to whatever the issue is. She can ask for your opinion when she wants it.

Recognize that this time will not be forever. It will give you both a really good basis for a future if that is where this is heading. remember, nurses tend to work strange hours and shifts. Long shifts take a great deal so this learning for you might come in handy in the future.

Best wishes. Stop by and let us know how things are going. You may want a safe place to vent also.

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You guys have been very helpful!! I'm very happy I found this place! She has been super busy with two jobs now, so with school it will get crazier haha. But I've learned that she's worth the wait, the time, and the patience. She told me that she breaks down easy, and has a past record of shutting people out when she gets this way. I told her I'm not going anywhere. That it's a blessing to be in the spot that I'm in, and that she's worth it! We are going out for dinner tonight, and I plan on reminding her of that. And I'll bring up some ideas on how to help her as much as I can through this! Again, thanks all!! I'll keep everyone updated!

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I do hope she is using this site for help, also. The area for nursing students is a wealth of information and help. The cartoons for nursing students are so on target and there is always someone on line to help when stuck.

Remember that every nurse here was once a student so we know it can be done. Again, wishing you both the best!

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