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Accelerated nursing/relationshp breakup

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I am going to be entering Accelerated Nursing soon. I am worried this will destroy our relationship. My girlfriend and I have a great relationship and she is very needy and strives for attention (which I have no problem with). I have a gut feeling this will destroy our relationship because I can't give her the time possibly during weekdays and even weekends due to studying sometimes and doing clinicals. We really are attached to each other and she knows that I have to sacrifice my full time job to make a career change. Should I break up with her now? or should I wait to see what happens and if she can accept my career decision?

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Does she need to be needy or do you need to be needed? Either way, it is your choice how much you allow someone to control your life.

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Does she need to be needy or do you need to be needed? Either way, it is your choice how much you allow someone to control your life.

Excellent choice of words! gbrn23.......If something as insignificant as being unable to give up time with you then is the relationship as "devoted" as you perceive it to be? Relationships are hard....marriage is harder still. If it's worth having then it's worth fighting for......if you feel that breaking upis a viable option then maybe you should for I would move heaven and earth to protect my relationship and my family.

I wish you the best for your schooling and for you. Peace

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My accelerated class caused the demise of a few relationships. Saddest to me were the ones where the accelerated student was being supported by the significant other only to dump them upon graduation. It has been 25 years it still bugs me.

These programs are stressful. My husband had to function without me for a year. Clingy is not healthy to me but YMMV. If your SO isn't able to entertain themselves you are both looking at a world of hurt. Best to begin separation anxiety classes ASAP!

Good luck!

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Nursing school requires a lot of time and effort. Have you tried to talk to her and let her know how it will be? Maybe come up with a plan to ensure you guys spend at least a couple hours one day a week on "quality time"?

The bottom line is, if you are both reasonable you shouldn't have to break up! I'm doing full time nursing school with a husband and two kids. I just ensure that I spend time with each of my family members to let them know they are still most definitely important!

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Take a deep breath. One day at a time. Whatever happens let it be. Enjoy. Experience. Love. Just go with the flow. You'll be fine.

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I she aware nurses work holidays and there will be times you can't make some family function?

I would spell it out word for word. Then if something happens, you can say you gave it your best try.

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seriously? you're writing to strangers on the internet for advice on whether or not to break up with your "needy" girlfriend who may or may not be able to handle your career change? sounds to me as if you have one foot out the door already. do her a favor and break up with her now -- or does she prefer having the bandaide pulled off slowly?

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Does she need to be needy or do you need to be needed? Either way, it is your choice how much you allow someone to control your life.

She wants the attention.

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Nursing school requires a lot of time and effort. Have you tried to talk to her and let her know how it will be? Maybe come up with a plan to ensure you guys spend at least a couple hours one day a week on "quality time"?

The bottom line is, if you are both reasonable you shouldn't have to break up! I'm doing full time nursing school with a husband and two kids. I just ensure that I spend time with each of my family members to let them know they are still most definitely important!

I have, she understands how tough it will be.

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seriously? you're writing to strangers on the internet for advice on whether or not to break up with your "needy" girlfriend who may or may not be able to handle your career change? sounds to me as if you have one foot out the door already. do her a favor and break up with her now -- or does she prefer having the bandaide pulled off slowly?

how would i have one foot out of the door already? i obviously am her boyfriend for a reason and i care and respect her, but sadly i'm not ruling out a destroyed relationship and the demise of a relationship because of this. i was already warned that this can happen and i need to stay focused.

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