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This is a discussion on Ugh, hate feeling like that Ol' Grumpy Momma... in Parenting / Family Center, part of Family Central ... I'm a pretty introverted person. I come from introverted, private parents. I hardly ever even...by NurseCard Aug 21, '12I'm a pretty introverted person. I come from introverted,
private parents. I hardly ever even call my mom. It isn't
that I don't love her; I love her more than anything. I just
simply can't get the woman to talk on the phone. Our
conversations consist of "Hi, just wanted to know how you
are doing" "We're doing just fine.. Love you honey.. Bye"
Anyway, so I'm introverted and private.
My in-laws are NOT. They are super social people and
always have to know everything that is going on with
everyone, all the time. I'm talking mostly about my mother
in law and my sister in law.
Right now I'm feeling like.... well, my in laws love Skype. I
HATE it. I hate cameras anyway, but Skype feels like this
major invasion of privacy. My dear husband this afternoon
decided that it would be a GREAT idea to Skype my kids,
who were on my bedroom computer, from his laptop in the
living room. Well from THAT point they decided to Skype
Grandma and Grandpa. No problem... until I realized that
they could see into mine and my husband's BEDROOM, and
now know how messy it is. So now, neat as they are, they
have something else to harp on us about. I don't particularly
even like for them to come INTO my house because I'm a
slob, tired all the time, and I just don't like to clean much.
Now they know what my BEDROOM looks like through the
MAGIC of Skype.
THEN, I'm sitting in the living room on the couch, eyes
drooping, hair a mess, and NO pants on (yes I had just woken
up and yes sometimes I walk around in a T-shirt and just
underwear until I get motivated to find some pants, shut up),
and my dear daughter walks up to me and shoves her IPad in
my face... there's my SISTER IN LAW, on Skype, looking right
at me. My knee jerk reaction? "(Dear Daughter), get that
out of my face, I don't want anyone to see me on Skype right
now!!!" Not "Oh Hi dear Sister In Law, how are you?" but "GET
THAT AWAY FROM ME!" My dear daughter just wanted me to
help her figure out if her camera was working or not. Now I
feel so rude and so grumpy and mean, and I'm sure my dear SIL
is now going to run right to my mother in law and tell her just
how rude I was.
But I HATE SKYPE. Especially when my house is a mess and
so am I!!!
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- Aug 21, '12 by Spidey's momI would hate it too. You aren't alone.
- Aug 21, '12 by nursefrancesHey Nursecard, we are about the same age I totally understand what you are saying.
Do you remember the cartoon, the Jetsons?
Jane Jetson had her make up/good hair mask she would put on when on the camera phone. It is amazing that this has come true. I am a very private person too. As adults, I don't think we need to be in each other's business and drama, you know?
If you are really worried about the SIL mishap I would make it funny and laugh about it (turn it around). Tell her you were in your undies and surprised to be on skype, and maybe have a talk with your daughter about privacy/being tired/relaxation and serenity. I don't blame you at all for being tired all the time. Since starting nursing school then working as an RN, (ahem.....over 7 years ago) I have little desire to cook or clean. We never have enough energy.
I have come to the conclusion (and fortunately my hubby shares the sam view- he is very private too) that we live our own lives, we will see family when we do, and when we want "us" time, we do that. We are not antisocial, just live our own lives. It works out well. )It is a little easier too because most of my family is out of state. They used to complain about not seeing them enough. At one point my mom lived with me when I was going to school. She said that she understood why I didn't call her much, she saw how busy I was. She mellowed out about it after that.
Sorry, I hope that I am not rambling. I am glad that you are able to vent here. (It feels good to get it out somtimes, helps keep us sane. )
Know that we are here, we will listen when you want to vent.
- Aug 23, '12 by mazySounds awful and intrusive. Even without Skype I would be overwhelmed by that level of scrutiny and involvement.
Makes me think of what "Everbody Loves Raymond" would be like if Marie Barone had access to Skype. if you haven't seen the show take a look at it, I think you will be able to identify and laugh.
- Aug 26, '12 by imintroubleWhat you describe is like having unwanted visitors show up at your doorstep and demand to be let inside.
Yuk! No skype for me.
- Sep 1, '12 by leslie :-Dmy sister loves skype.
not me...at all.
i'm with you, nc.
get that thing out of my face.
and thank you.
- Sep 1, '12 by TweetyOne of my best friends has grandkids in Boston and he lives down here in FL. The highlight of any day he has is skyping with his grandkids. Never once do I ever here him make comments about how his son in law or daughter looks or their house, he only wants to see and talk to his grandkids.
As much as you hate it, and you're entitled to hate it without someone making you feel like a freak, think about your grandparents and your kids. Set some limits such as "no skyping while mom is in her underwear"..."only skyping in this clean spot here...", etc. Your kids are only young once and they don't have their grandparents all their lives.
I understand though, I know I wouldn't like it at all.
- Sep 30, '12 by joanna73I wouldn't like it either, and I don't use Skype at all. Never wanted to. In fact, while technology has made our lives easier in some ways, I feel that technology is an invasion of privacy. Skype, multiple email accounts, cell phones and faxes. Ugh. You can never be idle anymore.
- Oct 7, '12 by NurseCardYeah Tweety, but my inlaws only live 25 minutes away.