I decided to post here instead of the general nursing session because I need to make some important decisions for me and my family. I am a single mom with two young kids currently confused and unhappy.
New grad (Dec 2011), in the middle of a divorce, living in the east coast. I accepted a job in a nursing home in february because I didn't want to stay home since I am the sole provider. I hate the job and I have been living in temporary accommodation since I had to move from one part of the state to be closer to the job. This job is part time and the pay is about $30 an hr.
I got a a med-surg position out of state last december and there is a possibility I may be able to get another position since I didn't exactly turn the job down. The job is in the south and the pay is about $18 plus maybe a $3 differential.
My question is should I consider taking the hospital job and relocating (if possible)? I actually would need a second job just to survive either at my current location (which is part time) or if I relocate.
I feel so unhappy and stressed at the moment and not sure what to do.
I would have to finance the relocation myself since there is no relocation assistance or anything.
Please I need advice and encouragement.
Hi - I'm sorry you are going through this tough time.
Is your soon-to-be ex at all helpful with parenting issues? Do you have family nearby?
At a time like this, with young children, I'd try to focus on making sure my kids were the first priority.
In my own case, I didn't have support from my ex and we had two young kids. I moved back in with my mom and she helped me with my kids. In looking back from the perspective of 25 years I wish I had stayed home with them at least until they were in school as my divorce happened when they were 1 and 3. But I worked and wished I hadn't.
Is there any way you and your husband could reconcile? Of course, abuse, addiction and adultery nixes that. I have had some friends who managed with extensive counseling to find their way back from adultery though. In my situation it was a combo of adultery and addiction.
Even though I remarried and my kids had a great step-dad, both of them have told me they have a hole in their respective hearts where their dad let them down.
You are in a tough situation and I hope you find a way.
Last edit by Spidey's mom on Apr 5, '12
: Reason: typos