Saying goodbye...........

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    My mom passed away on February 15, 2013. She fought a long hard battle and now she can rest. I find comfort in knowing that my mom and my dad are reunited. We stayed with her the last few days, wondering how on earth she was hanging on. She has a very wise friend, the hospice bereavement coordinator from when my dad passed. She gently suggested to us that my mom could not leave, because she was unable to leave her babies behind. So it was us that had to leave her. So that we did, and she made her peace with God, my dad took her hand, and she went silently into the good night. Twas about the hardest thing I have ever done, leaving her. At the time I felt like I was leaving her alone, but I have since realized she was not alone, and she never was. I want to thank every one here that has helped me on this journey. I especially want to thank all the hospice nurses. That is the exact reason I became a nurse, so I could become a hospice caregiver. I have not gotten there yet, God has made other plans for me. Someday I will. I wanted to share this photo with all of you.It is a heart shaped wreath, made with loving hands by every one at her service today. We bought the heart shaped foam thingie at a florist and bought 200 carnations. We cut them very short and gave them out as people entered. During the service, while soft music was playing in the background, everyone came up and added their flower to the wreath. This is what love looks like:Name:  Wreath Photo.jpg
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    My mom passed away on February 15, 2013. She fought a long hard battle and now she can rest. I find comfort in knowing that my mom and my dad are reunited. We stayed with her the last few days, wondering how on earth she was hanging on. She has a very wise friend, the hospice bereavement coordinator from when my dad passed. She gently suggested to us that my mom could not leave, because she was unable to leave her babies behind. So it was us that had to leave her. So that we did, and she made her peace with God, my dad took her hand, and she went silently into the good night. Twas about the hardest thing I have ever done, leaving her. At the time I felt like I was leaving her alone, but I have since realized she was not alone, and she never was. I want to thank every one here that has helped me on this journey. I especially want to thank all the hospice nurses. That is the exact reason I became a nurse, so I could become a hospice caregiver. I have not gotten there yet, God has made other plans for me. Someday I will. I wanted to share this photo with all of you.It is a heart shaped wreath, made with loving hands by every one at her service today. We bought the heart shaped foam thingie at a florist and bought 200 carnations. We cut them very short and gave them out as people entered. During the service, while soft music was playing in the background, everyone came up and added their flower to the wreath. This is what love looks like:Name:  Wreath Photo.jpg
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    What a great idea. So sorry about your Mum. Mine was recently dx with lung cancer She is not going to have a service, her wishes.
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    Thank you for sharing this poignant time. I recall when my mother died. Please accept my condolences. Obviously your mother was loved by many. The flowers are a really nice thing to allow those who suffer to make a thing of beauty.
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    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I extend my condolences to you and your family during this painful time. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.
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    I would add my thoughts, prayers and hugs to the rest you have received. My dad passed away in September and one of my sisters and I were with him 24/7 for the last few days, which were spent at a nursing home, (his choice.) Prior to that for about 8 months, we were his caretakers in his home (the three of us live 500, 1500 and 2000 miles from him.)

    We were with him when he drew his last breath. Our experience with Hospice was also very positive. I am now retired, and the new licensing laws in my state make staying on licensed but inactive status impossible, but volunteering for hospice is a possibility for me.

    They are truly a wonderful organization.

    Peace be with you all.
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    ((((rdsxfnrn)))) So sorry for your loss.
    I love the heart wreath idea. Such a sweet way for family and friends to share in her memory
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    Many (((((HUGS))))) to you and your family at this sad time. I love the heart-shaped wreath....also, what you said touched my heart as well: "This is what love looks like". Your mother must have been a wonderful lady. May she find a place of refreshment, light, and peace.
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    Oh my heart is with you after reading your post.Yes it is the one of the hardest things in our lives that we have to face but I admire you for keeping us informed and walking with you on this journey.You will have these precious memories carry you for a long time.I thought the idea of the heart and carnations a beautiful way to honor your Mumma and have all involved during the service.Your Mumma would be so proud of you.My love is with you dear friend.
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    What a beautiful post and picture, rdsxfnrn. Having walked the earth for two years now without my mom, I'm spilling tears too. I absolutely love the idea of the floral arrangement created by her loved ones at the service.

    Prayers for you, too Liddle Noodnik. Lots of us here are your willing shoulders and sounding boards for the road ahead. ♡♡♡
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    Sending my deepest condolences for your loss.
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