I just discovered the "Break Room" today. It is great to see a more social "world" for nurses to come together.
A little background about me. I've been a nurse for three years. Prior to that, I was primarily a stay at home Mom to DS (now 13) and DD (now 9). I was organized, confident and competent as a mom and wife. I knew my kids' schedules inside and out. I knew the details of their lives with friends and at school.
Since starting nursing school, understandably, my focus had to shift some and DH took on more involvement with the kids, household, etc. I feel like, ever since I started working full time, I have a VERY hard time staying organized at home and staying on top of things (even with using google calendar on my phone)... but more than that, I feel like I have a hard time connecting with my kids and husband and being involved in their lives. I don't mean being a "helicopter" mom... just being connected with them.
I "only" work 3 12s a week, but even on my days off, I'm just emotionally and physically exhausted. There's just nothing left of me when I am home. Complex patients, high patient load (5 to 6 patients with vents/trachs, complex wounds, complex disease processes, etc. is the NORM, but often we have even more than that), clueless management and needy/high maintenance families suck the life out of me at work, and it often takes a couple days for me to recharge.
I feel like I've become just an occupant in my house and have abdicated my role as wife, mom, homemaker... which I HATE feeling that way! I know that I'm doing what I can, but I look at other nurses who have kids the same age or even younger and they're talking about going home at 8 pm and cleaning the house or cooking dinner, going out with the family, etc.... I go home, eat dinner, shower and fall into bed exhausted!
How do you moms do it? How do you juggle such a demanding job and still keep things together at home and actually be plugged in with your kids, husband and other responsibilities??